Do you tell men you're a virgin? How much of a virgin are you?

[pinterestbae]

I don't tell men I'm a virgin because in my past experiences it creates a lot of drama between that male and other females and males that have a problem with virgins.

I also realized the older I got the less people were virgins. I got good at spotting women who would pretend to be virgins because they were Bible thumpers and fake good girls.

I started realizing that what men said about it being rare that a woman past a certain age who is a virgin is rare.

I denied being a virgin to anyone who asked because I knew they were trying to start drama.

Anyways, I'm almost a 21 year old virgin and never masturbated before.

[Chris4744]

I’m a virgin and I don’t usually tell someone unless it looks like things could get serious or if it somehow comes up another way. I’m pretty private about my business, but I don’t really mind people knowing. It normally just doesn’t come up. Most of my friends know my views on casual sex, but don’t know that I’m a virgin.

I’m not super virgin. I’ve masturbated and had oral sex a few times, but the rest is something I want to save for one person.

[BigDog69000]

Definitely be honest and straight forward with him. Let him know you are a virgin so that he is prepared and it allows him the chance to make it special for you by being slow and gentle.

[thegirlfromthething]

No, because there’s no reason they need to know. If I was in a relationship with someone I’d tell him so he knew not to rush me, but no other guys have to hear about that.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Only when I meet a guy and we start getting serious is when I’ll tell a guy. Otherwise it’s nobody’s business.

[Opinion Owner]

But same here girl, I’m 21 and I haven’t done anything like that either lmao.

[pinterestbae]

That's good because some men have big mouths and will tell everyone you're a virgin. I mean everyone.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s so annoying. I don’t get why they think everyone needs to know? 🤔

[pinterestbae]

Right? I think it's because a lot of them see it as a way to get attention from other women and peer pressure the virgin into sex. In my experience if women know you're a virgin they'll come onto your boyfriend like, she's a virgin and a little girl. I'm better at sex than her. That's why anytime a guy tells people, I cut him off because he's being sneaky and dirty.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds about right. To be honest I think it’s best to only tell him when you know that he’s going to be the one you lose it with, but until then then I’d keep quiet about it.

[pinterestbae]

True. That's good advice and I wish I would have followed it before :)

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry that happened to you ☹️

[pinterestbae]

It's okay :) life is about lessons and learning, right? Now I know my comfort levels with men and how to set better boundaries.

[Opinion Owner]

True! 😊😊

[Anonymous]

I'm a virgin and have always kept that private from men and women. It's really nobody's business but mine. My closest friends know and if a friend asks I'll be honest, but I prefer not making it a part of my identity thus why it doesn't need to be shared. Also, I'm pretty open when talking about sex and am not shy about it which might be the reason I barley get asked. Men have never asked but even when I've dated someone seriously I was open to talking about and never told him I was nor did I lie. Once I feel like our sexual relationship is advancing to a new level then I might. It's just a long conversation and will avoid it for as long as I can.

[MikeInHawaii]

Yeah, the fake ones probably outnumber real virgins five or ten to one. Also, some men, rather than respecting your morals, will be interested in you because you are a bigger challenge.

[Nahid1707]

You can tell him you’re inexperienced

That’s fine