People have always commented how I am ugly since a early age and say very mean things to me. It's always women. And online it's men also.
But I like the image I see in the mirror. I had to look at myself in the mirror and accept myself. I don't care anymore about other people. That made me confident. I know I am not ugly at least to myself. And I don't really care too much about other people. It also helped to acknowledge that all humans have flaws.
I guess you need her to go therapy cause if she doesn't fix this it will get worse and worse. Also the problem is what others have said to her and how many people tell her nonsense.
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You could try getting naked in the dark if that helps her feel more comfortable. I do feel like you have to take baby steps in order to get fully comfortable being naked with your partner in any situation. Give her time and space and don’t pressure her. If you need somebody to be able to take their shirt off for you right now, then it’s better to look for somebody else. Don’t try to make her change if she’s not ready. Therapy could help. You could ask her about why she feels uncomfortable doing so, it might be related to past trauma that she needs to work through in order to get to a better place.
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Tell her she's beautiful always. Also, take it step by step such as if she's wearing a big shirt, tell her to wear a shirt her size, after she gets comfy with that, tell her to wear a tight fitted tshirt, after that, maybe a tight fitted tank top, get smaller and tighter everytime, obviously don't boss her around with what she should wear but tell her shed look great in them, or let her in on the plan and let her know you are trying to help her and tell her to take it step by step 1 week she can start off with the big shirt, then regular shiz shirt, fitted shirt tank top, crop top, nakey.
She shouldn't be taking her short off in front of you. She didn't need compliments. She needs for you to respect her and allow her to deal with her issues with her body. So what if she was fat or ugly. You should be able to love her wither she was fat or ugly the same for women to guys. What you had understand she is not having sex and doing all of that because you wants to. She's doing well that because she feels obligated to or else you feel you will never be wanting to stay with her. She's doing that for the past three years because she's afraid.
I doubt that complimenting her body would have a positive effect. It feels as if you're focusing on certain aspects of her, or only care about her physical appearance which would make her feel much worse.
There's not much you can do except be supportive, and encourage her to see a therapist.if you haven't done so already, why don't you get naked in front of her? show her that you aren't uncomfortable because you love her and encourage her to follow suit. give her time though and lay off the pressure, you can't force this kind of stuff.
She has a mental disorder and therefore needs professional help. However usually in situations like this people will refuse to get help because it makes them feel even worse knowing they have a problem. I think you should suggest a counselor and say you'll go with her if she wants that.
Even though you find her beautiful, she doesn't see that herself. I was told by guys/girls that I was beautiful never believed them of course. I only got over it when I finally got help for my family doctor. I was told about a lot of ways to help myself get over it. I now have fully recovered.
I'm assuming she in therapy for this. I'm not sure how you can really help other than taking baby steps with her. Like someone else said for now allowing her to get undressed in the dark. Maybe going to get massages from a woman massage therapist would get her more relaxed with being semi nude in a controlled setting. . Even women who don't have body dysmorphia to this extent will get weird about being naked like they are too thin or over weight. That is why so many women have sex in the dark.
I feel the same about myself as she does. I've been picked on for being overweight and I almost died from starving myself to lose the weight, it hurts to feel that way. I was the same with my ex boyfriend. Just keep letting her know that you love her inside and out and that she, her face, her body is beautiful to you. And if she ever needs to talk please tell her I'd help... It's easier to talk with another female who has been through how she is feeling. She will eventually see just how much you love her and her body
I recently did a course on ways to address things like this with friends or loved ones. I don’t have time right now but reply to this and I’ll happily add some info tomorrow 😊
Just dont talk about her body or even attempt to touch it, once she feels comfortable with you on another level, she will be able to make a decision on opening up that part of herself to you
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