Usually it's men, who run away from marriage but every now and then I see a few women being against marriage. What are their reasons? (I boycott marriage myself)
They've been through a rough divorce and understood, that marriage is no joke and would prefer not to go through it again
Marriage is outdated and no longer relevant or not even needed (pointless)
No reason to involve the government/church into my life like that
Marriage is about the money, throwing a big party and going bankrupt as a result. Why would I do that?
No particular reason whatsoever (why get married?)
Is pretty simple. Women have sex and give away their virginity is that they can't take back and give birth to children that often times the men don't want. At the same time a man is abusive he normally don't show his true colors until he is already married to her and already had sex with her. Once the woman has sex with that man, he feels depending on the type of guy you get married too. That is okay to cheat or to lust after other women and do what he do. This is why a lot of women are not just boycotting marriage. They are boycotting dating too. In other words. If they're going to have sex they would rather have sex without commitment as a lot of men tempted want to do. I've come to find out there are a lot of men that don't want commitment as opposed to a lot of women. What is sex is not really the basis of what a woman wants, the most she's going to do is probably go on casual dates but as far as seeking a permanent relationship she won't do. Or they'll be somebody like me who would rather not bother with men on those levels at all. We don't seek to use men because we don't want to be used either especially if we've been used before. However, those that deliberately use men just know that a lot of us women that have morals or not want to associate with those kind of women. It's usually the desperate guys that are pissed because we're not giving them what they want especially if they the controller type. They see that we're not going to be controlled.
Sis you're so right. I wanna say that I like your opinions. You're really thoughtful and caring. You just know what to say and understand the sensitivity of the situations.
I think we have an over two decades of Friendship with the people that I love proves that I am very much capable of having a solid, long lasting and satisfying relationship with a person. It's just guys like you I avoid. Funny how you want to talk about what I never had but meanwhile you have plenty but you can't even keep one. 😂😂
How so? Because Im avoiding disease, possible divorce, etc? I don't care. GOD is in control. I make that decision and i was not dating anybody I wasn't compatible with nor when I am not ready. There isn't thong of a red flag about it. I believe in courtship not dating for teh hell of it.
Dating is not about experience and Im not there for that either. Your just insexure because you know nobody in their right mind wants to deal with your nonsense. I'm not convrtned about those who are intimidated by me. I like real people not fake ones.
How the hell have you not had a relationship at age 28? I had a girl asked me out when I was 15.. and I'm AUTISTIC. How are you having less luck in relationships then an autistic guy?
I've had several relationships since then and they all have been extremely valuable learning experiences. You're kidding yourself.
My life is none of your damn business. I had no relationship because I was NOT going to be a WHORE! I had plenty of suitors but I was a CHILD. In no position to be dating. And I was NOT going to be dating wasting my time for "experience". I was open for a husband. NOT a boyfriend and many ex maybe. And many wanted to "date" me but they wanted sex. Not to wait for marriage, or get married young at 18. Or kids, or my beliefs. They didn't want to grow, develop FRIENDSHIP, meet my parents, thats it. I am NOT wasting my time. So don't tell me what I can and cannot speak on. Your upset that I'm shedding light on your darkness and the hypocrisy of you people is real. You had ALL of those 'relationships' yet again, yoi dont have 1 to KEEP. You want memories. I dont want memories. I asked for something permanent. Can't offer that? GET OUT. I'm not getting used. You obviously got use multiple times or you were too busy using these girls since you enjoy that stuff so much. I'm not liking people. I want to be with like-minded people. People with your mentality I don't waste my time on.
Do you really expect to get someone to commit to you right away for life? Do you expect to not have exes and for your first boyfriend to be your true love?
Yeah I know you wouldn't want my because you know why? Is not because you're happy because if you're actually happy you would be happy to know that I'm doing well my life. You will be happy to know that I'm not fooling around with different men. You would be happy to know that I have my dignity and respect. And not just my virginity. So no, buddy you are not happy, you're literally full of, excuse my French, s$&^. You just want to put a Target on me because you're upset that you're autistic and you can't do much with your life supposedly so you want to bother mine. I don't know what's wrong with you bitter behind men. Women too. Obviously for you to advertise it shows right there that you're not really happy as you try to make it. I know fake people when I hear and see it. Your miserable. Plenty of people like you always want to try to take a jab at someone like me for being a virgin is miserable because you wish you could do over all your mistakes that's all. And I only got one thing and one thing to say for people like you. You make the bed hard you lay in it. It's your life, is your choice, deal with it. Take your toxicity, your negativity and insecurity somewhere else!
Buddy, if you so much have any kind of common sense in your brain that's what a friend is for! Getting to know each other! I ain't wasting my time like that. If other people can have over 40 50 60 years of marriage and I'm pretty sure that is a strong possibility people can't commit to you right away. Because I know people like that. I have friends that are like that. Thank you for talking out of your ass.
No I don't. I don't have to take them to the people. It's just common sense. If you're uncertain don't date them. If you're certain date them. Not that hard. I don't deal with fickle people. And I know, because I can be fickle myself. And I know better than to be wasting somebody else's time no different than I want somebody to waste time with mine. We're adults here we are not children.
No it is serious. People like you don't take anything like seriously so why should anybody take you serious. I highly suggest you think about that is probably why you're so miserable.
Buddy continue lying to yourself and continue to lie and other people, but I know that you're not happy. You're not happy so you can pretty much cut the crap out. You're not happy. And yes it does because that's the first thing you are attacking.
No you say that you act like it is but you don't really believe in that. No you don't have to give me advice. Your experience is irrelevant. Give that to people who wants to be a whore I'm not a whore. I don't need it buddy you just pissed.
I'm sorry buddy innocence, virginity, etcetera very much is important. Traditional standards is very much important. The things of God is very much important. Happiness isn't always just having gratitude for what you have and making friends and family smile. It's also about your obligation in life. Know what is expected of you and no one else to give. I know how to do all of that. I don't need someone like you to try to tell me how to handle my relationships. Because if that was the case then a lot of guys would not be running for me because they know that I take things seriously. They only wanted sex they were not looking to get married. People like you are not interested in having anything good. You want something fake and what you did for you at the moment into your bored and you want something else later. If you want to ruin your life but you more likely that's your business. I'm not living that life and I'm not ruining my life. If my friends can get married at eighteen have children have nearly almost 10 years of marriage and it's happily and marital bliss in Madill health, and can still work together and be happy with your life. I'm pretty sure that can also happen for me and I know it can't. People like you just want to sabotage with somebody else because you don't have it for yourself. You know I have a greater chance of of happiness then you do. I know that now grown up I didn't. but now I know.
I don't share your same values, I'm an atheist. But feel free to do you, I'm just saying that your advice is harmful due to lack of real-world experience.
I know you're going to get mad at me or whatever but have a nice day anyway.
Harmful? That's a load of BS. I think I have more than enough people that would actually be willing to stand up to you and challenge your way of thinking if you want to go there. I ain't going to get mad at somebody like you like I said. Somebody like you is not worth my time. I don't care if it is or not. You being atheist have zero to do with it. But what does have to do with it is that your so-called advice is harmful because you don't give a damn who use and abuse. You have more than enough people that you ran through as far as women, and you think women wants to Tori and deal with your nonsense? I'm sorry buddy it don't matter if your so-called atheist or whatever, nobody in their right mind wants to do with you. Probably got women he was sadly stupid enough to be involved with you because they didn't have no self-worth of Their Own. I have nothing to prove to you. Because you will learn and see at some point in about sharing my values. Is about living life right. And you choose to live your life however way you want. You don't think it's harmful because you don't care. But all that care, knows it's harmful. Many wonder how come I'm not married because I know I'm the right person for that. You obviously are not qualified.
Laugh all you want I honestly don't care. What makes it embarrassing is that you always keep trying to Target my post whenever it is that you don't like something. I think that says a lot about you than it does about me. Double check yourself.
Truthfully it’s hard finding a commitment in a relationship less more a marriage. I realized that marriage may not happen for me because of how dating is. I can have a spiritual marriage that doesn’t include the government or the church because I’m not religious anyways. Seems marriage is becoming rare and should only apply to those who are traditional.
The only American women I see getting married anymore are the ones that can find a simp that follows orders well. These men satisfy supplemental income for the large square ft house to impress their girlfriends. I am amazed how soulless these males are after a few years. These women are the men in the marriage arrangement and as long as he supplements paying the bills, he can stay usually in a side room or basement room. Otherwise, marriage is the new slavery to the modern woman and I guaran-damn-tee that any woman even considering it does not expect her free and open lifestyle to change at all after the $10-20K party. The whole concept of marriage has been vilified by the media and most likely if a woman does it, it is only as a starter marriage as a means to some permanent supplemental alimony income.
Some couples feel trapped when that ball and chain contract is presented Others may just be scared because in our society to many breakups happen after marriage When the couple before were happy Yea you have more rights within a marriage Its not because you now have registered your couplehod Its the state of mind you allow the negatively rule and pressures start to build Until Boom
Because, I don't think by just getting married to a guy will automatically make him love you and stay loyal till death do us part.
Also I don't want to get pregnant, ruin my body and life. I hate the fact that nature is so unfair.
That's why I don't like the idea of marriage because it's impossible to find a LOYAL and loving guy who doesn't wants kids like me. Unfortunately most loyal and emotional men are CRAZY FOR THEIR OWN KIDS.
It’s been working out for us. Not everyone is cut out for marriage. I think a lot of it is that some people are just unskilled at maintaining long term relationships and they want an easy way out when things get tough. Also, some women see marriage as outdated or patriarchal. They think if you’re a wife that you have to be a Stepford wife which isn’t true at all. You get to make your own rules and be the wife you want to be.
Most of the time it was just expected for women to want to get married a fair about of people still do want to get married but some of us don't see the need to plus society doesn't expect it as much so
when not in a marriage it is easier to breakup or bail out of a relationship. so this can cause some people to try harder to maintain a good relationship with a good partner. or risk losing them to someone else down the road over a silly fight that meant almost nothing.
plus in modern times both males and females can legit earn their own wealth and resources. without having to depend on their partner to provide for them.
And on top of that everyone is just looking for someone to please them, make them feel good about themselves, rather then someone they want to love and please
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