In a girl’s perspective, did she want me to make a move on her, not at all, maybe? What are your thoughts on it?

[Anonymous]

I’ll only consider serious answers and/or well thought out answers on the matter.

There is this woman married, but her body talks to me, as in her legs turned sideways and her feet inwards looking to the ground shy like type of way when I said to her to keep I touch with me.

She said that she’s just in a bad place in her life right now (Point: I’m only curious in what she meant by that).

She and her husband fight all the time, as I’ve seen one occasion. And of course I didn’t let her have control, I told her I wish her well and walked away.

Other info: In the same convo we had, I wasn’t shy about scanning her with my eyes up and down her body, she didn’t seem to mind [she is attractive]. We’ve known each other and seemed happy whenever I was around.

Does she actually like me or no? I’m debating whether or not I go on a pursuit to catch this fish.

[SashaAMB]

She may be interested in you but I’d need more information. She can be attracted to you and still have no interest in cheating on her husband.

But... her comment about being in a bad place suggests that she is looking to see what your reaction would be. she may want you to make a bold move, if she only wants sex. If she wants to see if you have the potential for more than sex, then she’d want to see you be empathetic, offer to listen to her issues, maybe even be encouraging that she deserves to be happy and she should pursue her happiness.

One possible way to approach this is to tell her that you’ve seen her interactions with the husband and you can’t understand how any man could be as lucky as he is to have her and not appreciate her. find any genuine way to tell her that if she were yours, you would treat her better, cherish her, and be attentive to her individual needs. But just saying it won’t do much if you do not show it. If you have any interest in a relationship with her that is more than sex, encourage her to get a divorce. If you can tell her that you’d wait to take her out romantically until then and mean it, if she is interested in you, your stock will soar in her eyes.

[Asker]

Sophisticated answer. You tackled different angles of possibilities and provided steps for them in simplicity, what an insight.

[SashaAMB]

Glad to help. I’m not sure if you want her for sex only or a relationship so that has to factor into how you proceed. Just be careful because of her body speaks to you this much, you might develop feelings if you start sleeping together. It can happen to guys who think they can completely separate those things. Best move is talk only until she separates or divorces the husband. Don’t feel like a home wrecker - you can break up a truly happy home.

[jarofawesome]

Sound's like she is interested to an extent yes. Now the real questions should be:

1) Is she actually attracted to YOU or is she attracted to you because she is having difficulties with her husband, feeling emotionally alone right now, and you just happen to be a man giving her the attention her husband isn't?

2) Do you care about the answer to that question?

Where you go from there is up to you. Just remember if someone is willing to cheat to be with you, they'll cheat on you. I personally slap a label of "Don't even think about, thinking about, touching that." if someone is in a relationship already.

[Asker]

You make good points. Something to keep eye on.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t get involved she just wants somebody to talk to you you don’t wanna commit adultery

[Avicenna]

Well, it sounds like she wants some action, that's all,.

[In_Trance]

Smh... how are you determining well thought out? An answer you like? Or one that supports your preconceived thoughts?

[Asker]

That has nothing to do with the question. Next.