"Let's be friends and we'll see is all I can say" what does it mean? Will she ever see me as a boyfriend in future?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl online we're from different countries. I told her that I like her and she told me that "you don't know me well so I don't think u really that you like me", also said "we're too different we wouldn't match" and when I asked why, she told " I don't know, Let's be friends and we'll see is all I can say". What does she really mean? Is there something positive here? I really like this girl and I really want her to be my girlfriend.

[Dalton57]

Maybe. It depends. If she finds herself in a situation in which she thinks you can help her and being your boyfriend is the only way to secure your help then she will be your boyfriend until you help her out or show you can't help her. Then you won't be. Unless you accept being her friend again until and if she ever needs your help again.

Here's the brutal truth. Move on with your life. If she wanted you to be her boyfriend you would but you aren't. Get it? Move on with your life. Accept that she doesn't want you that way and find a girl who does.

Any such girl worth your time and effort will not want to see that you have some unrequited love hanging around in your life because to her, if she has a brain, that means you would leave her for that person.

[WindAtMyBack]

It sounds like you are just short of being friend zoned.

She's right, you don't know her in the way you need to know someone for a serious relationship. It's very easy to fall for someone online, but for anything serious you MUST get with them in person. That's the only way to know if you are really compatible.

Also, you are in different countries. That is a huge problem. Not just because of the distance and cost, but also because of laws.

If I were you, I would not seriously count on this girl. Find someone local. It's fine to keep talking to her, but I would continue looking locally for someone more realistic. For now, this online girl is just fantasy.

[karennn]

She sounds like the type of girl who likes to take things slow. She wants to be certain that this is a real deal and not something made out of infatuation. Be respectable but also let her know that you want her to be yours. She sounds like she's interested if she pursues and continues to communicate with you. But it could also be that she wants to keep her options open that's why she is putting you on friendzone.

[Asker]

I've told her 3 times

[karennn]

And she just said "let's be friends?" ?
Did she in any way show any interests towards you?

[Asker]

Not in that way but we talked for 4 months now. In the month of May when I said i love her she told that she can't fall in love on internet." And on June 1 I told her again and then she said "thank u (my name)❤️" and "give me a few I really want to give u a better response I just wanna think" and then today when I said "tell me when when made up ur decision" and then she send me this^

[karennn]

Yikes it sounds like she just stuck you to the friendzone buddy.

[Asker]

Can I do something to get out of it? I really like her

[karennn]

Unless you travel to her and meet her in person, doesn't seem like there is much else you can do. Esp with COVID-19 and the travel ban.

[Asker]

But I'm just confused because she added "we'll see" on it.

[karennn]

Yea, I think she's keeping her options open and waiting for someone else to come along.

[karennn]

She doesn't wanna sound harsh and say no so she is ending it with "we'll see". But you shouldn't read on it too much. Trust me- I have done it to guys whom I only see as friends.

[Asker]

Ok thank u som much

[karennn]

I hope you find someone who feels the same way you do about them. Everyone deserves that. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

She dont trust you enough yet and wanna be sure you are worth her time. or... She dont likes u enough.

[Honesttguy]

You sound super naive, first time to internet?
Chances of u getting with her are slim to 0. Time to wake up to real world dude.

[In_Trance]

No, she'll see you as a friend