This girl at my job makes me uncomfortable, how do I ignore it?

[Anonymous]

So we’ve had masks due to covid for a while now, I am a young girl in college working at my part time job although it doesn’t seem so part time considering they’re very understaffed and I’m working over 38 hours a week lol but anyways I am 22. Working at a restaurant as a server. I am actually very fine at this point with wearing the mask. I haven’t been vaccinated yet but I feel there’s some weird sort of satisfaction with wearing a mask because people who are rude to you, your face hides your RBF lol so I personally wanna wear it at work. Everyone I work with is normal and nice like no issues or weird vibes but this one girl I swear is so weird. Our masks have been required and so a couple weeks ago it was her and I working together and it was a very busy shift and she sees me busy and just asks me randomly to pull down my mask. Like it was very awkward I was like ok? So I pulled down my mask and she just stared at my face, no real comment. It was very odd. I just said whatever and went on with what I was doing. it’s been about 2 weeks since that and she randomly told another coworker who is actually my friend and told them “I haven’t seen _____ face. (Referring to mine) I’ve seen everyone else’s though” and she did see my face? Regardless it’s stupid but it just makes me feel really weird as to why she’s so persistent and sus about seeing me without a mask. It makes me feel kinda insecure like she’s judging me? I don't know. And so anyway masks were no longer required at my job as of last night but I found out I may have strep so I still came into work today bc management sucks and didn’t listen to me days ago when I told them I may be sick so I had my mask for that reason and the same girl was there basically yelling at me to take off my mask and masks aren’t required anymore. She was like demanding I take it off. I then said I think I have strep. They sent me home and now this girl is saying I’m lying about being sick. Is she being sus or no?

[Honesttguy]

Well she felt weird not knowing how u look like and thus took charge and aked u to move ur mask down wich u followed and did. Later on obviosly she seems to have some insecure issues fear or some shit. And now when masks where not required and u had it her fesr csme on BIG time and she couldn't hide it anymore.

[Vietnemin]

Well you both seem sus. One girl is making a big deal out of something small and you're coming to work while sick and trying to hide your reactions to people behind a mask.

[Asker]

Well no, I’m just saying if you dealt with the amount of verbal abuse on the daily as servers do you wouldn’t mind the mask lol. And my management didn’t seem to care I was sick even when I told them. It took me giving them a doctors note to suddenly care. So thanks for acting like I’m weird but I actually am not.

[Asker]

Also my question is about the girl so why are you pinning it on me like maybe answer the question instead of being annoying as fuck talking about I’m sus for having my mask on lol

[Vietnemin]

I've worked as a server before for many different food places over my whole life. Sometimes customers can be a pain but it's not a day in a day out situation of constant verbal abuse. If you're receiving abuse from people a mask is not an adequate solution to that problem.

Also management or not it's simply just not ethical to serve people food if you think you have strep throat. Maybe you're not a weird person but just based on the story you told me I don't understand the reasoning behind some of the actions you took.

[Vietnemin]

The girl you mentioned does seem sus to me because she's flipping out over something minor but to be honest I still see your behavior as more sus in the overall picture. I can understand if someone is trying to be too secretive and constantly wear a mask it can be annoying. Especially in a server situation where you need to interact with customers more openly. If you want to avoid people just work in the back of the house.

[Asker]

I understand what you’re saying, I do. But you also need to understand the place I work for, if you call out last minute, you’re fired. We are very understaffed it’s a corporate place they don’t care. I work every single day. I told my managers on Monday that I feel very sick I have a very bad sore throat they didn’t send me home. I was supposed to work a double today, I tried finding coverage once again nobody accepted. I come in with a mask they yell at me to take off my mask and I tell them no bc I may have strep. Suddenly they took me seriously when i showed the doctors note. I had no choice but to come in because they were either not taking me seriously or not communicating. That is not my issue. I felt bad and showed up. They knew i complained about my throat for days and said nothing.

[Asker]

Say what you want dude but I have a doctors note, I probably shouldn’t have gone to work this morning i was sent home anyways but regardless I have toxic management they don’t follow legal laws. So my question wasn’t based on my sickness it was based on the girl so if you have any input to offer on that it’s appreciated rather than coming at me about showing up to work with strep

[Asker]

Nobody is avoiding anyone though she has been demanding I take my mask down when they were required she was weird all along. I have no problem not wearing a mask but I’m also not vaccinated and have strep why would I take my mask down. Like I’m a decent looking girl I’m not insecure but I feel like she’s being hella weird about it to the point where it makes me uncomfortable

[Vietnemin]

I see yeah it's not a healthy work environment and I don't blame you for that. I've been in similar situations like Jamba Juice and Whole Foods. In Jamba Juice people often called out at the last minute and I end up having to do the work of three or five people ha ha. It was actually same in Whole Foods too.

To be fair I've never had to work those places during Covid so not sure how it changed things.

[Vietnemin]

Well I do agree with you that she is being weird by demanding that you take your mask off even when it was required. There's no logic behind what she is requesting. I don't know how to deal with her though because the management of your job probably won't do anything. Maybe you can ask her directly what her deal is?

[Asker]

Ok I feel bad now you seem cool I’m sorry lol I just can’t word how weird this girl is and the masks are a whole debate too depending on where you’re from. I’m from the east coast everyone here still wears masks mostly even though it’s optional now. i guess it’s annoying bc no employer can force you to not wear one right now and it felt like when I walked in today everyone was yelling take off your mask like it was some Trump rally I don't know. Sorry if you support Trump but it felt hella demanding and weird. Mask on or mask off it’s personal preference it shouldn’t bother you what others do that’s all I’m saying. and this girl stares at me in weird ways. Makes weird comments about me. She’s seen my face before but she lies saying she hasn’t and shit it’s just fucking weird then she says I’m lying about being sick like I don't know if she’s just hating on me or what but I feel mad awkward around her by the way she is

[Vietnemin]

Yeah I'm sorry for pissing you off on your own question. I hate it when people do that to me haha. Now that I have a better picture I can see why you think this girl is so weird. Honestly I'm not getting her either because she seems really obsessed with seeing your face. It's just such a weird request.

The zeitgeist seems to be mask off in your work place. Maybe she's just caught up in the fever of it all. Masks are optional at my workplace and I took them off today cause I got vaccinated. I find it nice so far. I guess it's something bigger than any of us how to get rid of masks now.

[Asker]

Nah that wouldn’t do anything forsure lol. I guess I’m just feeling weird by her because I don’t know her intentions. Like she seems very spiteful so I don’t know if she’s trying to see my face and like pick me a part or see who’s prettier or if she’s genuinely curious but being curious and being persistent on someone showing their face are 2 different things my name is always in this girls mouth. I pulled down my mask when she asked me to and she didn’t say a word so that also makes me feel weird like she’s odd or up to no good I don't know

[Vietnemin]

Well all I can suggest is go around maskless or ask her what her deal is. Sorry don't know how else to help hope it works out.

[Asker]

You didn’t piss me off at all! I just didn’t want you thinking I was weird for wearing my mask cause I’m sick rn and also it’s optional like you said lol but nah you seem mad cool. I just really am trying to understand this girl because she isn’t my age she is older she’s like 26-27, has a kid. She’s a latina women she’s pretty but she’s just weird like she even spreaded rumors about me before. Then she thinks I’m lying about strep and always stares at me or looks at me in weird ways 😂 like I don't know what her issue is I think she’s like out to get me or something

[Asker]

I’m probably gonna do both lol see what her problem is after that but thankyou so much for everything and sorry if I pissed you off lol. Hope all is well with you!