How do women expect to have a relationship when their list of necessary qualities is so long?

[Wester1967]

For example:

[btbc92]

Because it's not that hard to have a relationship with a person regardless of a list. The problem is many men don't care about a list and want to know why they have "women" problems. If a woman wants a kind man, how is it there are but few kind men in the world? That list is very realistic. The problem is a lot of men don't want to be that man. So she is left single. That list is very basic. It is very sad that we can fulfill most of that, but many men are only interested in getting their penis served. Says a lot about why so many women are disappointed. Men today have failed. And in turn, we fail ourselves. If all a man needs is sex, and you men expect us to need the same then why do you judge and complain women who need sex go out and get sex with any other men other than you and you still call them whores? And you want to know why such "list" exists. Because that kind of man is rare to find today.

To use that list as an example which I find very sad for you men:

1. If you cannot listen to a woman, that says a lot about you.
2. If you cannot communicate how you feel towards her, that says a lot about you.
3. If you don't want to try to have joy with her, that says a lot about you. I find that to have somebody make you laugh is subjective. But all people who desire a relationship desires joy, not strife or toxicity. You don't have to be funny. That is another story. But your willingness to share that joy together. Why would you not try to have that? Are you that miserable that you desire others to be miserable like yourself? For me, I don't look at that in a man. And neither do I want a jokester who cannot be serious. But if he can joke and have fun, that is the most important. You just need to ask the person what they meant and or mean. For every woman is different.
4. If you cannot or want to hold and comfort her, that shows you lack affection. That is needed in a relationship. If you expect her to do this for you and you won't for her, that is selfish. You cannot be selfish in a relationship and in a marriage.

Now I think what is the problem is that this can come off as overwhelming and I understand. This list is from a woman who is love starved. Now being a passionate lover says she may be sexually active and that is the problem mostly and it deters from forming true intimacy. People have been brainwashed by the media and movies. And books that spread all of that when relationships should be exploratory to people who desire to marry and learn of the other. Not for everybody to know about. That is personal. To have this list expressed to every man is dangerous for a woman because the last thing she needs is an imitator. It's not hard for women to naturally do this for each other and men. But it is sad a lot of men have not worked on this part of themselves and very few ever come into this world equipped to do so, with so many women fighting to not be that love a woman truly needed in a man and want to know why many are unhappy in their marriages and relationships. Without this, this is why so many women walk out on men. This should be a wake-up call to men, and yet you men are still ignoring it. And keep getting women who want to be controlled and now you get bored of controlling her because she barely has a mind of her own.

[Isabellaxo]

Because if someone is right for you they will fulfill the "list". Not every person is a good match as some seek more physical affection than others. In general though I almost completely agree with that list: you should respect and support them. So I think it's simply waiting for the "right" one instead of rushing into a maybe.

[NathanDavis]

- good listener... got it
- communicates feelings... got it
- makes you laugh... got it
- comforting... got it
- partner... got it
- respectful... got it
- passionate lover... got it
- supportive... got it
- loyal... got it
- smiles... got it
- protective... got it
- romantic at times... got it
- reative? got it
- fair... got it
- loves for who you are... got it
- shows love... got it
- will do as much as possible... got it

this is a very short list, and to be honest, many of them can ben reduced to one thing... to be a DECENT human being... lol

[FilmGuy93]

It's a common tactic. She's scared of being hurt, so she's buying into a fantasy to protect herself by rejecting men before they have a chance to reject her. She's looking for such a specific thing so that she can justify being alone by faulting the men she meets, rather than taking responsibility for herself.

[Anonymous]

Watch them girls giving Mr. Perfect requirement number 11 if he ticks all 10 and reject him whilst she goes over to spread her legs for a jobless dumbfuck, that ticks zero or one of her requirements and turns her into a single mother.

Don't bother being near perfect unless you found the right girl.

[msc545]

They think that their expectations are realistic, that they are entitled to them, and that there is ONE special man out there just for them. Then, usually too late, they learn the truth.

[Chthou95]

And then they complain why they're single or wonder why there aren't any good men out there to date

[Anonymous]

Compared to some lists that's not that bad. Most girls want a reasonably rich 6ft+ guy with a 6+ inch penis as well as what was listed up ther.

[20yearsolder]

They have unrealistic expectations

[Avicenna]

They might think the requirements will ensure it

[StunningANDbrave]

"I also want him to be hot and over 6ft"

[Sketti2021]

Don't generalize. We're not all that way