I met a girl at work 7-8 months ago liked her we quickly became friends and texted and chatted day and night hung out before lockdowns, I initially was iffy about work romance but as we came out of lockdown I pulled my self together and asked her out. She said she only saw us as friends.
I accepted and was kind to her, tbh I think she’s my really good friend and she's helpful glad we cleared it out. But now she talks to me more and at times says things like I talk to you more than my best friend or you did it for me etc. I’ve been growing nervous around her she knows but I’ve been a little sweet flirty around her like you bedazzle me so I get a little nervous. But recently I have been nervous around her a lot and kept asking is she okay? Too much. She’s the shy introverted and private type, really smart. We talk a lot and share a lot, when I text I can’t finish my reply, she just responds quickly. But then she pulls back and things as of recent like evening or weekend. As she makes me really nervous and it hasn’t been helping as well as so keep liking her again (I can’t ask her out that would be harassment here at work). Our convos run deeper now.
So I decided to pull back and set some boundaries. Like keep it on decent hours convo. Example I finish work day say bye or just after evening say bye end conversations. But she keeps asking questions after that, example say bye and then would say how’s that going?(I used to do that turned the tables). I also would like to have a full conversation. Also just hang out instead of an on going texting. (Okay basically pulling back) but now she initiates more. Confusing and confusing more and more. Haha.
I accepted and was kind to her, tbh I think she’s my really good friend and she's helpful glad we cleared it out. But now she talks to me more and at times says things like I talk to you more than my best friend or you did it for me etc. I’ve been growing nervous around her she knows but I’ve been a little sweet flirty around her like you bedazzle me so I get a little nervous. But recently I have been nervous around her a lot and kept asking is she okay? Too much. She’s the shy introverted and private type, really smart. We talk a lot and share a lot, when I text I can’t finish my reply, she just responds quickly. But then she pulls back and things as of recent like evening or weekend. As she makes me really nervous and it hasn’t been helping as well as so keep liking her again (I can’t ask her out that would be harassment here at work). Our convos run deeper now.
So I decided to pull back and set some boundaries. Like keep it on decent hours convo. Example I finish work day say bye or just after evening say bye end conversations. But she keeps asking questions after that, example say bye and then would say how’s that going?(I used to do that turned the tables). I also would like to have a full conversation. Also just hang out instead of an on going texting. (Okay basically pulling back) but now she initiates more. Confusing and confusing more and more. Haha.
