How important is it to a girl that her friends like you for you to be considered boyfriend material?

[Anonymous]

You're probably thinking "Well shit, @Joker_, you finally asked a question unrelated to shitting" but I'd appreciate it if you gave some thought to the posited question instead. If I gauge that the general answer to this question is that it's very important, I'd perhaps try to avoid mentioning stupid shit with my crush's female friends because I've noticed girls are often uncomfortable with diarrhoea jokes and related comedy

[FilmGuy93]

Me being a guy, I can only speak to being on the recieving end of this horseshit, but it matters a great deal, in my experience. I would say that having the approval of a woman's friends is almost more important than having her approval.

[MalReynolds]

'Like' is the wrong way of framing it. They need to find you attractive. You dont want to talk to her friends or anything like that, just a little bit of flirting will do.

[Sonorous]

But I imagine it's pretty important considering that women (subconsciously) view men either in relationships or with many sexual prospects as generally being of higher value to them than single men. Because him already being in a relationship confirms that he's desirable to other women/competition.

I guess it just depends on if you're willing to trade authenticity for acceptance. We do it all of the time! Though it's definitely more important to consider while on the topic of harmful things. And since what you're doing isn't illegal or immoral, many reasonable people will see it as up to you to define its harm.

And personally, I think that it's more important to just focus on being what you view to be a good/decent human than trying to please specific people. But ofc if enough reasonable people say to you that it would be better if you changed something, then you might wanna consider it if you wanna likely remain in rapport.

[Asker]

https://youtu.be/hXzPxBhhmY8

[jaybee281]

In my experience it's as easy as it gets to do so - Just look attractive be attractive joke with them and include them in the conversation for a tiny bit while mostly focusing on her - But if we're talking strictly importance- well it would depend on their perception of you - If it's like is this dude a player or arrogant then you got them all intrigued - If she kinda likes you and then they're like yea I wouldn't date him or like god he's shy and stuff like that - anything related to you being boring you're doomed..

[Leonharted]

It really depends on the girl. Ditto for family approval. My wife got kicked out of her parents' house over me and hasn't seen them since, but there are also women who would sooner break off the relationship, especially if its early.

[jaybee281]

Would it be too personal if I asked for the reason of why they didn't like you? And I genuinely want to know because I fear such situations

[Leonharted]

It’s not too personal, but I don’t know.

[Jouth]

lol

Yeah, all the people (especially those who are close) in your potential girlfriend's life are the ones she's going to be talking about you with.

Their opinions of you will influence her own.

So her friend's opinions are pretty important.

PoopShit

[SamA_nold]

I don’t have friends 😐


If anything, I’d be more concerned about my family’s approval. They aren’t a make or break factor, but they’ll definitely play into the choice

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah, it's pretty important.

They don't have to be best friends or anything. But it's pretty crucial they at least get along.

[Mike923]

If the girl is truly happy being in a relationship with you, then her friends opinions if negative shouldn't matter to her.

[Slim57]

It's important you get with a girl with no friends

[Asker]

Correct

[disgustingweebtrash]

Yeah if her friends dont like you it's over

[Cringe]

Important

[Sketti2021]

😂😂😂