Why do my girl friends always avoid me after getting a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have noticed that all but one of my girl friends start avoiding me when they get boyfriends. Normally I would be understanding and think that they just are happy with their new guy and want to spend time with him, but I have also noticed that they all still hang out with their other friends. Why am I the only one they avoid and why do they return crying to me when the relationship ends acting like nothing? Like they haven’t been avoiding me for months. I don’t get it. When my guy friends get girlfriends we stay close. They actually introduced me to their girlfriend and we all hang out together. Is it a girl thing? Why only me? I don’t understand. ☹️

[coolbreeze]

I think it's a girl thing. I think they act like that since your single.. They could also might be afraid that their boyfriend's might flirt with you. I know it sounds crazy but girls think like that. Another thing I notice when people be in relationships they act funny and weird around their real friends..

[Asker]

I don’t get it because I would never ever flirt or do anything with someone they like. The thought wouldn’t even cross my mind if I know the guy is not single ESPECIALLY if he is dating one of my friends. Also all of their boyfriends are head over heels in love with them. It’s so cute ☺️. They would never look at me as anything other than a friend because they love their girlfriends too much to even think about doing it.

[coolbreeze]

That is good that you would never do nothing like that. You sound like a great friends. Some girls get insecure bringing their man around other girls. It also seems like your girlfriend's just focus all their free time with their boyfriend's which is wrong. I say that because of a break up happen most girls would call their girlfriend as a shoulder to cry and lean on and vent to. They should still be the same and hang out with you and see you.

[Asker]

So my friends don’t avoid me because they don’t like me.

[coolbreeze]

I don't think they avoid you because they don't like you. I say that because you guys were friends before they got into relationships. I think they insecure about bringing their man around you. When people be in relationships they tend to distant themselves from their regular friends. I had it happen so many times and so much. I know the feeling.

[Asker]

Oh okay thank you 😊

[coolbreeze]

Your very welcome.😀

[TrueConfection]

Maybe you seem too demanding of their time? It could be that you are the least understanding of her friends when she says she has plans with her boyfriend.

It's tough to reject time with a friend and even tougher when the bottom lip starts quivering and she asks, "Ok, tomorrow then? What about the day after that? Is the day after that one best?"

[Asker]

I never thought about that. Thank you

[TrueConfection]

Sorry. I didn't mean to sound harsh. It's just an honest suggestion going on only a few details.

[tponderingundead]

they're probably too obsessed with their new little boyfriend to remember they have other relationships too.

[Asker]

That’s what I thought, but they still hang out with all their other friends.

[tponderingundead]

did you fo something to make them mad? maybe they're just fake.

[Asker]

I don’t think I did. :(

[TDDMS]

Well, there's the very real possibility that your gfs are being dicked down on an hourly basis and that's why they don't have any time to spend with you. I would imagine it would be kind of awkward for you to have a conversation with your girlfriend while her boyfriend is deep inside of her rearranging her insides.

[Asker]

It wasn’t awkward when I talked to my guy friend while he was rearranging his girlfriend’s insides.

[Anonymous]

Because they have to make space for their boyfriends and you are taking up the space in their life.

Now don't be fooled. Your girls should find a way to incorporate you into their lives. But they have never been taught to do that. So they just focus on what they value the most.

That's the sad truth. Our friends value a person they just met over us if that person is the opposite sex and into them.

[Asker]

But why is it always me that they decide to distance themselves from when they are trying to make space for their boyfriends? Is it because I am the least liked by the girls in my friend group?

[Jeridactyl333]

Some men get very jealous and don’t want their girlfriend to see other men even if it’s platonic. I personally don’t feel that way but I have friends who do. It’s possible that these boyfriends feel uncomfortable with their girlfriend spending time with someone from the opposite sex that’s not them. It mainly comes from an insecurity in them in my opinion. So it probably has nothing to do with you.

[sheikalana]

Because it’s hard to give attention to so many people at the same time.

[NotAnActivist]

Maybe the way you approach them or the way he approaches them?

[DryGermanGuy]

Clearly a sign of insecurity.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[DryGermanGuy]

That their boyfriends might be more impressed with you than with her.

[Asker]

If that’s true, then that’s ridiculous! If they wanted to be with me they would have asked me out. 😂

[Iron_Man]

I have no idea talk to them

[Asker]

I don’t want to make things awkward between us

[captain_voidwalker]

They're just busy getting some hot dickings

[Asker]

All the time?

[Anonymous]

I felt the same when looking at this question

[Asker]

I’m sorry, I don’t understand. What do you mean? :)