Why does it feel like I need perfect social skills to talk to women, is that just how it is or like am I crazy or something?

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Like every time I talk to a girl I feel I’m absolutely just walking on eggshells. Like I say or do one slightly wrong thing and that’s it off to playing hard to get til the end of time or completely losing interest. I can’t be too interested but I also have to show enough interest and I can never be even slightly boring or dull. And if I seem at all “too” interested in sex that’s bad. Even tho I’m a guy and I’m obviously interested in sex. And each girl has different rules and stuff on how ur supposed to socialize with them. Like some women if I text them too much it’s a turn off but other women if I don’t text enough it’s a turn off. I feel like I just can’t win and have to try over and over and over just throwing shit at the wall hoping something sticks and whatever sticks is like never something I want. And is generally very time consuming. Why r women like this? Why is getting dates with women sooooo hard like I don’t understand. Wohmen explain yo selves.

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slatyb | 1.8K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

It's not a game with obscure rules to learn. It's just a conversation. If you stop worrying about whether or not you can have sex with a woman, and instead focus on just talking and especially listening, it will go much better.

It's hard to be more specific unless you give us a conversation you had -- what you said, what she said.

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Answer 2

NathanDavis | 605 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

what is your idea of... "slightly wrong thing" to say or do?

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Intothevoid666

1 mo
I don't know like almost anything. Like one time I was with this girl who complained that the guys she didn’t want to approach her always approached her and that the guys she wanted to approach her didn’t and I said how it’s somewhat similar to men where the girls I want to approach DONT always show interest back and often the girls ur not interested in show interest back. That was not the right thing to say I guess. Then later that night she hit me up late and said “dam I wanted to get laid tonight” and I was like “well uh u could come over” and then she stopped replying quickly after that. Then another time this girl asked “can we like fuck” and I said yes but I said it in a way that showed I really wanted to. Can’t be too interested in sex even if they are as well. Um countless times I text a girl some small dumb thing like cool hair or something and they reply right back but I don’t really know what to say so I don’t reply anything back and then when I text them again crickets like as if they’re mad I didn’t have anything back to say to their “thanks” as a reply. That last scenario has happened more times than I can count
NathanDavis

1 mo
when you say that you do text to girls... ~small dumb things~ and when they respond to it right away, then you go silent and have no idea what to say at all...

why would you ever expect something positive out of that?

why do you think any person should find small dumb talk and silence as something attractive or interesting?
Intothevoid666

1 mo
If I reply to their story hey cool shoes and they say thanks. What I supposed to respond to thanks? I could 100% do that with a guy and it wouldn’t be seen as weird or anything so why do women get so bothered by it?
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NathanDavis

1 mo
if you do not even know what to say to people... then don't talk to people

just wait til actually have something to say, at all
Intothevoid666

1 mo
But like why does that even matter? Imagine caring about something that petty. Like if that’s all it takes to lose interest in someone u have a problem not the other person.
NathanDavis

1 mo
let me... point out something

she did not lose interest

you just were never interesting

small dumb talk and silence are not interesting nor attractive things

there is a difference
Intothevoid666

1 mo
I don’t know if I was interested or not cuz I don’t even know her tho? She passed the basic looks test and I was curious to see more. And even when I go for girls I’d definitely be interested I. This still happens so it’s not that.
NathanDavis

1 mo
well that's it... you just don't make the cut, not even the minimal to be worth a reply... though shit
Intothevoid666

1 mo
I highly doubt that considering I’m like male model tier attractive, am smart, wealthy. That wouldn’t make a lot of sense.
Intothevoid666

1 mo
Why r u being so rude is there like a reason for this. Like ur that much of a simp or something u have to defend women and their ridiculous behavior even when there is no one around to see.
NathanDavis

1 mo
wait wait... don't type so much, I am getting blinded by such a brilliant, eloquent and smart way you have with words... slow down rich sir

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Intothevoid666

I don't know like almost anything. Like one time I was with this girl who complained that the guys she didn’t want to approach her always approached her and that the guys she wanted to approach her didn’t and I said how it’s somewhat similar to men where the girls I want to approach DONT always show interest back and often the girls ur not interested in show interest back. That was not the right thing to say I guess. Then later that night she hit me up late and said “dam I wanted to get laid tonight” and I was like “well uh u could come over” and then she stopped replying quickly after that. Then another time this girl asked “can we like fuck” and I said yes but I said it in a way that showed I really wanted to. Can’t be too interested in sex even if they are as well. Um countless times I text a girl some small dumb thing like cool hair or something and they reply right back but I don’t really know what to say so I don’t reply anything back and then when I text them again crickets like as if they’re mad I didn’t have anything back to say to their “thanks” as a reply. That last scenario has happened more times than I can count

Answer 4

NathanDavis

when you say that you do text to girls... ~small dumb things~ and when they respond to it right away, then you go silent and have no idea what to say at all...

why would you ever expect something positive out of that?

why do you think any person should find small dumb talk and silence as something attractive or interesting?

Answer 5

Intothevoid666

If I reply to their story hey cool shoes and they say thanks. What I supposed to respond to thanks? I could 100% do that with a guy and it wouldn’t be seen as weird or anything so why do women get so bothered by it?

Answer 6

NathanDavis

if you do not even know what to say to people... then don't talk to people

just wait til actually have something to say, at all

Answer 7

Intothevoid666

But like why does that even matter? Imagine caring about something that petty. Like if that’s all it takes to lose interest in someone u have a problem not the other person.

Answer 8

NathanDavis

let me... point out something

she did not lose interest

you just were never interesting

small dumb talk and silence are not interesting nor attractive things

there is a difference

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Intothevoid666

I don’t know if I was interested or not cuz I don’t even know her tho? She passed the basic looks test and I was curious to see more. And even when I go for girls I’d definitely be interested I. This still happens so it’s not that.

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NathanDavis

well that's it... you just don't make the cut, not even the minimal to be worth a reply... though shit

Answer 11

Intothevoid666

I highly doubt that considering I’m like male model tier attractive, am smart, wealthy. That wouldn’t make a lot of sense.

Answer 12

Intothevoid666

Why r u being so rude is there like a reason for this. Like ur that much of a simp or something u have to defend women and their ridiculous behavior even when there is no one around to see.

Answer 13

NathanDavis

wait wait... don't type so much, I am getting blinded by such a brilliant, eloquent and smart way you have with words... slow down rich sir

Answer 14

Anonymous

I can tell just by the way you write you have no intellect and are not at all clever, and we can sense that right away. You just use vulgar cliches you see in the movies, nothing original. There are plenty of guys who care about developing their intelligence and wit.

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Intothevoid666

1 mo
Ok well considering I was in the highest level math classes as well as other honors classes offered almost my whole life and I had my iq tested so I think ur wrong soooo um how about u just humor me instead of being a rude c*nt ever think of that one…? Jesus fucking Christ dude
Intothevoid666

1 mo
I type like this cuz I’m lazy I don’t care to use great grammar on here dude that takes time and effort and quite frankly ur not worth that time and effort so kill me…. Why does everyone in this thread think they can just be rude to me… go fuck urself seriously… god wtf people

Answer 15

Intothevoid666

Ok well considering I was in the highest level math classes as well as other honors classes offered almost my whole life and I had my iq tested so I think ur wrong soooo um how about u just humor me instead of being a rude c*nt ever think of that one…? Jesus fucking Christ dude

Answer 16

Intothevoid666

I type like this cuz I’m lazy I don’t care to use great grammar on here dude that takes time and effort and quite frankly ur not worth that time and effort so kill me…. Why does everyone in this thread think they can just be rude to me… go fuck urself seriously… god wtf people

Why does it feel like I need perfect social skills to talk to women, is that just how it is or like am I crazy or something?

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