How can an average looking man be with an elitely beautiful woman? Is it just his job status or money that can earn him such a beauty?

[Anonymous]

I heard that few men get the majority of women and a lot of men fall into dispare when it comes to women.

So, what makes a man irresistible to most women?

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Thank you all for your opinions.
I don't think you guys understood what I meant by elitely beautiful, some of you think I mean super models or Instagram beauty. That's not what I meant, I meant she's extremely beautiful inside and out, very modest and super caring, a dream woman and wife for most men.
I suppose it makes sense that type of woman wouldn't go for looks when it comes to picking her partner, she would instead certainly go for a self-disciplined man who's compassionate and charismatic

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Thanks you all!
It's funny how different men and women are in terms of how they can be drawn to someone else, the fact that most men are visual and most women value personalities more is really fascinating..
I haven't not been a woman and I know how visual I'm, and that's why it's not easy for me to comprehend how women operate, it's literally on another level.
And when I say visual, I mean yes physical appearance is kind of a must for me to be interested, then comes the personality.

[youngmix]

There is also emotional, and conversational compatibility. Some people are attractive because of what they say, how they say it, and how they live. As long as the guy is healthy and not ugly, I think it makes sense that he could attract a woman with great physical features and a great mind.

Keep in mind that there is a diversity within women concerning what we find attractive, different traits are more important to some women than others. Same goes with expressions of those traits. For example: fitness may be very important to two women, but one woman may like gigantic muscles, and another woman may like big muscles, just not gigantic. Fitness may be just as important to both of them, but they do not share a definition of what fitness is.

As for emotional and conversational compatibility, I've seen this play out with how easily a conversation flows between two people. A friend of mine is a 6' model earning her master's degree, she also volunteers to help the homeless with her spare time. I watched her absolutely fall for a 5'5" guy based upon the perfect flow of conversation that they have. The guy is actually above average handsome face wise, he has very nice facial features and eyes, and he is above average concerning fitness. But she's a 6' model, so it's kind of funny watching them walk around while she's in high heels, and no one seems understands how they could happen.

Anyways, they have the same exact humor and flow of thoughts. Literally nothing has to be explained between them, they think the same way about everything I have witnessed. I have never seen them mix up their context or have to explain themselves to one another. The flow between them is crazy. They'll be talking about anything, then machine gun jokes back and forth for 15 to 30 seconds, then flow back into the main topic without skipping a beat. They do this constantly and quickly, and it is very strange but amazing to me. Dozens of esoteric references, complex dark jokes about little known historical events, random sports trivia, stuff like that constantly flying back and forth.
And she loves spending time with him because of it, it's like she feels at home when they're together, and I don't think she has ever experienced that feeling in her entire life. It's like super trust and ease.

Anyhow, that's how I think this not model guy nabbed an educated model with heart of gold.

Oh yeah, and to be fair, the guy is literally a genius. Crazy smart and crazy logical.

[Asker]

I'm surprised that I managed to read all this. I guess being smart and humble is really sexy indeed. Thanks @youngmix

[shaysh87]

There is a stereotype that rich , high status men always have beautiful girlfriends. Take a look at the wives of the presidents, wives of the politicians, wives of vast majority of the popular millionaires and billionaires. Dan Lok, Warren Buffet, Charles Munger, Robert herjavec, kevin o'leary, mark cuban. 95% of them do not have supermodel / trophy wives.

I think you've just been buying too many play boy mansion magazines.

There are rich high status men that only date supermodels but these guys typically are just dating you until your looks run out. These are indecent guys with a shitty personality and don't love you who you truly are. They know deep down that there is no true love in their relationships. Its just all an exchange for money and sex. They konw that you will not be with them if they didn't have money. And these women know that he wouldn't be with her unless she looks 25 forever.

But I can tell you that the vast majority of rich men do not have beautiful hot wives. Its time to play off the play boy mansion magazine.

[shaysh87]

Its definitely possible for an average looking or even short guy to get a hot girlfriend. I have seen it happen. But if you're an unattractive woman , you will never be able to get a hot boyfriend.

[ohshee]

When you meet somebody you don't know how much money they have you don't know about their job you don't know anything about them except for who they are on the inside and yes that's what women fall in love with they don't fall in love because you have money that's one of the last thing they don't fall in love with you because you have a house or a car they fall in love with you all the extra is bonus now there are women that do fall in love with all that crap but you know that's what they're falling in love with and that's when you say goodbye I have some of the homeliest looking friends guy friends and the beautiful girls that are in love with him and that's because who they are are they inside they're good guys are you going to remember women like what they like just like would you fall in love with a girl why does it have to be with Miss beautiful girl why can't it be with Miss beautiful heart girl is beautiful on the inside girl because when you fall in love with somebody that's beautiful on the outside that means you don't know who they are on the inside

[MrOracle]

You can see that the woman is beautiful on the outside, but you have no idea what she is like as a person or what things a man might have to deal with if he's with her.

Hot guys have LOTS of options with women, so beauty alone isn't enough to keep that kind of man.

This woman could be incredibly shy and socially awkward, or she could be incredibly domineering, or have a very negative disposition. She could have a child (or more than one) from another man. There are all kinds of things that might lower her overall SMV (social market value) that disqualify her from getting the kind of man you might assume she could get based solely on her appearance.

I obviously don't know anything about the people in this picture specifically - I'm just saying that a person's SMV is more than just their looks, so you shouldn't expect looks alone to tell the whole story.

[Anonymous]

Appearance is not so important.
A job status and money can help, especially a job status.
Being hard working and having a plan and ambition in life.
Some women only want to feel beautiful and not be with someone who is good-looking. And some men don't even know they are attractive. He can consider himself unattractive when in fact, he's not. In my view, beauty is for women. I don't even like men who care a lot about their appearance.
For me being attractive in a man is just being healthy, tall and having body hair.
And aspects of the personality.

[jshm2]

Nothing.

There is no "secret" to these things.

Just as there is no "secret" to getting whiter teeth, cheaper prices, better abs, nicer skin, sexier relationships... etc etc. But 80% of the publishing, newspaper, cosmetics industry and economy would shut down overnight if they said there is no substitute for hard work, a little guesswork and luck.

That man may look "average" to you, but you're not the beholder, he may be the most gorgeous alive to that woman. Or she may actually be an average, but gorgeous to you.

[Anonymous]

The man he is, not only the physical aspect. I know when a man is hot, but that doesn't mean I like him and I would like to be with him, is just as when I know when a girl looks good. But when a guy has an attractive personality, that is what counts, the looks are just a "boost". But honestly, I've met guys who I didn't find that attractive physically but once I saw they're funny, sweet, good, is like they become really attractive.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's true that a few percent of men get most of the options. I was a fat fuck and the most interaction I got was being asked for directions. Then I got buff and had to change my profile pic to a frog clown to get chicks to fuck off. So from my own experience the looks plays it's part... pretty sure if I had tons of money it would just get worse.

[Adam1978]

Bad pick of picture, he is certainly below average but she is just slightly above average so it's really not that big of a deal. Maybe she is insecure and if he doesn't look good he doesn't have options to go and pick another girl that easily. So it's really about how much effort you want to put in a relationship. The guy was a easy choice.

[slatyb]

In my experience? He genuinely likes a woman's company. He pays attention when she is talking, and in bed.

Apparently this is quite rare. I'm not a gym rat, just an ordinary guy. But when I divorced and started dating, multiple women told me I was the best. Why? Because I paid attention to their body language, I matched their rhythm. Surprised the F out of me. I assumed everyone did that.

[TransAm85]

This is publicized to screw up society in general. Why do you think America is so fucked up? Women who are attracted to men merely b/c of his income have no other intentions. Like Anna Nicole Smith. I don't know if u r old enough to remember her. She was a Playboy model and married an old billionaire for his money. Or take Trump for example. He's hideous, but his personality is quite attractive. I'd date him! Women who look at just the material wealth of a man are scandalous.

[SkyCastle90]

1. The woman is demisexual and value personality more.

2. He knew her since childhood (anytime between Kindergarten to highschool) and she was never interested until recently.

3. She's abusive and finds him to be an easy target. Beauty =/= good woman.

4. She's settling.

5. He's her type/perference.

[ChrisMaster69]

By being open, yourself, sense humour is important, emotional connection, not thinking it’s about cash, looks etc that is fairly toxic. Being able to carry a conversation on various shit, a level of intelligence, confidence about yourself and how you are.
being used to and able to interact with women and groups of women does help.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Being a true gentleman, honest, loyal, reliable, trust worthy, fun, can cook and so on. I am one of these guys and i feel so good with my swedish blonde wife. I am not rich and i don't have a massive penis and so far we have been having fun for 13 years 🤷‍♂️

[HopefulGuy94]

It is none of our business neither yours. Only if the beauty is your first and the most important criterium in your life which comes very first among everything , if you think about these kind of things. Try to forget about it or stop envying them otherwise you will always fail bruv. Blah blah blah...

[zagor]

That makes no sense. If a few men get most of the women, how are there so many married couples? Do you get out into the real world?

Attractive women want a guy who is fun to be with and who makes them feel safe. Yeah, there are some who go only for hot guys, or rich guys, but they aren't the majority and you don't want them around anyway.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Often, it is just makeup or something else... most people are pretty normal without any of that.

Personality and stability, doesn't mean makes a lot of money... just means has a job and can take of himself.

[Kiss_Me]

The guy has positive qualities that she finds lacking in many of the better-looking men she has dated. Good for him.

This shows you that attracting beautiful women is not all about looks, money, etc.

[WindAtMyBack]

Maybe she likes him. Why do some people find that so hard to believe?

"I heard that few men get the majority of women"

This isn't true. You should be able to look around and think rationally about it to know it's not true.

[NamerOfStars]

By asking her, and having her say yes. Women aren't handed out by an avatar of Natural Law; they're free-willed beings who can decide whether or not they mant to date somebody.

[Fireguy17]

Great personality.
Beauty fades, dumb is forever.

[Anu1010]

The effort that a man puts in, makes the man irresistible to the right kind of women at least. A woman would choose an average looking guy, because she feels more secure about him. She thinks he'll put in the effort needed. There won't be trust issues. No drama. No playing games and easy life.

[Phoenix98]

He probably has a good personality and it could be that the woman is attracted to him physically attractiveness is subjective at the end of the day your standard of beauty or attraction won’t be the same as someone else’s.

[JustinTheGreat]

I know guys who are average looking and don’t have a lot of money but are still dating beautiful women who look like models.
Believe it or not, sometimes personality has something to do with it lol