Does a woman’s age lessen or broaden her options in life and love? Ladies, what do you think of men who look at ageism as a bad thing?

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A woman at her 40s should settle for what is thrown at her… A woman in her 20s has a lot of options. What kind of thinking is that? Men, what do you think? No mean answers please. Thanks

RJJ33666 · Accepted Answer

Well, as a woman's age increases their options do lessen and its not exactly a bad thing because as many know women reach maturity much earlier and this maturity helps them to carve way to better options. Having proper maturity may lessen down the options but it also narrows things down to better and rational possibilities in the woman's life. Even the matter of love, women can be picky about it. In the matter of sex and love, older women know what they want and need which makes it difficult but ultimately satisfying when they do find someone.
And as it comes to men looking at ageism as the wrong thing, a lot of men out there actually prefer a little older women than you would expect. I mean of course their are those people who always want to go for the 25 year old hot yoga teacher types, but those are just for self esteem boosts and hot sex, but in the end all men really want some affection and love. I am not saying younger women can't provide that, but men know that older women have more experience in that factor and hence older women are better for a long term romantic relationship.

Wonderwhat · Accepted Answer

I believe it lessens her options. I believe that mother nature made men sexually attracted to youth and beauty because of fertility. I think men are more likely to get sexually aroused to young fertile women to ensure the survival of the human species and reproduce and give birth to healthy children. The older she is the less likely a man gets aroused by her (unless it is a fetish thing) because the older she is the more likely the child will be born with birth defects.

I am not ageist or anything I just believe this is what male sexual attraction is. Of there is more to a woman than just her looks and age. Only picking a woman because of her looks is shallow.

Seinna · Answer

Depends purely on what you want from life. If it's just companionship then you'll find it at any age if you're relatively attractive which often just boils down to taking care of yourself and not having mental or emotional problems. If you don't want children then age really shouldn't be an issue.

If you want to build a family however, then age is very important for both men and women. I wouldn't be with a 40 year old man and trying to build a family with him and I wouldn't expect from men to want that with me when I'm in my thirties... there is a time for those things and once that time is over it's over.

That's because:

1) fertility dicreases with age, with women it's past 35 and with men past 40 so there's a risk we wouldn't be able to have any children at all. Today, people at 25 have the fertility their grandparents had at 35, read up on the testosterone levels in men.

2) eggs and sperm quality is lower which leads to more miscarriages (genetic problems with the embryo) and even if born, children are more likely to have health problems, genetic, mental and chromosomal issues etc

3) social problems; my parents had me at 39 after my brothers who are 12/13 years older. I never got to experience my parents like they did, they were too tired. I missed out on a quality time with my parents and quess what, I didn't care that they had more money to give to my brother's girlfriend to take me wherever I wanted to go. And now I get to see my parents age really fast and not be able to be there for me for some important milestones. Having a choice, would you want that for your child?

4) after 40 all people start loosing their strength but I think for a woman to be pregnant so late it's even worse, it really takes a toll on their bodies, they start menopause earlier etc so why would you want that for yourself or your partner?

Aging is no joke, we can't cheat nature and time. Yes, it's stupid to discriminate because of age in some circumstances but this is not one of them. Age and health are paramount for building a healthy family.

Screenwriter · Answer

Well, based on physicality alone: women's options narrow. Men's tendencies are toward the youngest, fittest BIOLOGICAL exemplars so they can pass along their GENES/DNA.

And. young men are hardly stable creatures, themselves. They're looking at someone's booty, boobies... Not THEIR LONGTERM STABILITY to parent and be a partner.

It only takes about five years to raise a viable human specimen. VIABLE, not emotionally and physically TOPNOTCH human.

Humans have an extremely long latency period. They need a SOLID 10 to 12 years of safety, love and education to do very well for a lifetime.

On the OTHER HAND, older women, in the past, who inherited money from older, dead husbands, were often very good choices for men who were FINANCIALLY unstable, but brought strength and ingenuity to the table when their older husbands might not have been able to. At 40 they could still have a child or two, so they offered the DNA passage, and with money, they could seed an inventive man's business possibilities and that MAN could enhance the widow's status in society!

Today, people are engaging in second and third marriages that improve upon their first, very young failed efforts. Though odds are still against second and third marriages with failure rates of about 70 percent, vs 50 percent, there are the minority of marriages that succeed.

Some of these have to be men choosing older, wise women. These men may likely be ones who have already filled their biological roles of passing along their DNA and have raised successful offspring. There's no need for them to find another young woman to father more children, which in advanced age are a financial AND physical burden to take on if the man isn't well positioned.

If he chooses an elder, wise and financially stable woman, he can close his life out with generativity: Giving to the younger generation: Maybe even. his OWN ADULT OFFSPRING who are fathering and mothering their children, his grandchildren.

This holds true for older women and their roles as grandparents. In addition, there is the community aspect of being an older woman who can support other women's adult or young adult children who have missing or failed parents, for dozens of reasons from physical to mental illnesses to drug addiction and imprisonment to poverty.

So wise men often choose older, wise women. Some of these men are even younger than the women they choose, which offsets the 7-year death difference between men and women.

In general to biological drives mess up everyone's big brains. But thoughtful humans can make more thoughtful choices in the long run.

letsbelovin · Answer

Interesting question, and some very interesting answers. I see quite a few answers where it is said that an older man dating a younger woman must mean there is something wrong with the man, either he's egocentric, or is looking for some validation for himself through younger women, is desperate and even cynically labelled predators, or whatever, it's usually argued in the negative.

Yet when a woman dates much younger men they're praised and encouraged and called "cougars". Really? What's the difference?
One is said out of spite, anger and jealousy towards men, even from younger men, and the other is said as a revenge or retribution towards men.

The stupid thing is who gives a rat's razoo about either.

That leads me to the question, it's never that simple, as some have already alluded to in this post, there's many variables at play why some prefer to be with someone closer to their age or someone with a significant age gap. Of course there will be those who are looking for validation by dating someone younger, usually because of their own insecurities, that doesn't make them bad people. And by the same token, it doesn't make the younger person bad either.

Personally speaking, I've dated women who have been younger than me, but still relatively close in age, and a couple of women one or two years older than me. The latter was my recent ex partner, but the break up had nothing to do with age.

Dating the women I did, none of it was intentional regarding their ages, it just happened that way. I suppose it's all about the law of attraction, you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. Not so much the age thing, but what you want in a partner.

Options in life and love are what you make of it, whatever you believe will be true. If you think there's little chance when you're older than that'll be your truth, if you believe their will be opportunities then that will be true too. And what you attract into your own life says a lot more about who you are and your own self-beliefs rather than who the other person may be.

Lliam · Answer

The only thing that lessens a woman's options in her 40s is 1) the number of men who want children and 2) the number of men who are mature enough to appreciate a woman in her 40s.

What I mean by that second point is, there are men who think women in their 20s are in their physical prime in terms of looks. But that kind of thinking doesn't account for personality, experience, and mental and emotional maturity. Besides, many women in the 40s or older these days are hot af. They know how to care for themselves.

I read that 30s and 40s is the time of life when women's sex drive may be the strongest. One study showed that women between 27 and 45 had more frequent and more intense sexual fantasies than younger or older women. They also had more sex and were more likely to have it sooner in a relationship.

Other than the reasons I listed for lessening women's options, the field is wide open for older women. I mean, they know what to do sexually. Also, due to life experience, they are mature enough to choose a quality partner, meaning someone who is mentally, emotionally and financially stable.

I got into my first relationship when I was 16. I've had several girlfriends in my life and was infatuated with all of them. But I didn't want to settle down, get married, have to be responsible for kids. I also wanted to live life to the fullest and knew that I was too immature to be burdened with responsibility.

It wasn't until my mid-30s that I started to consider the possibility of finding a life partner and settling down. I met my (future) wife when I was 40 and married her two years later. Both of us had lived full lives but we had never been married before. Neither of us "settled". We wound up with exactly what we wanted. We've been happily married now for over 25 years. We've built a great life together and have also had a lot of fun. I love her with all my heart.

So I'd say that there are definite advantages to age, even if the field is more limited. I guess it depends on what a person is looking for.

Novacane · Answer

Sadly it lessens as much as you would want to push back on that, but dont get me wrong, that doesn't mean she won't have options to find love, of course, she will still have more options than most men (men will always have it hard regardless of their age) but she won't have as many options as she once did. But I think the older you get the more likely you find someone that is actually kind at heart because when you are young you are clouded with all the things that seem important due to social media but once you get older you will realize all that did not matter one bit. I wouldn't say it's Ageism it's more preference, it is equivalent to saying that why does a man with money have more options than a man without money, and why does a taller guy have more options than a shorter man? They all fall under the same realm, so if you want to call that "preference" then sadly age would also be that, a preference, as sad as it may sound. I wish it was different and everyone had an equal chance and sadly that's not how things work. The reason why people say it's different for men is that what women look for in men vs what men look for in women are completely different.

Let me know what you think.

godfatherfan · Answer

I don't know why you would think they would. I do think the biggest issue for us older people is we get too picky. At 40, this isn't you yet. But those of us that are over 45 or 50 and single, usually we are either divorced or had been in very long term relationships. We forget about the early period of a relationship and how much work it is as far as compromises go. Very few people fit perfectly. The older we get, the more time we have spent being single. Some of us for the first time since we left our parents house. Other then the time in the military, I never lived on my own. I was 25, got married, then I moved in with her. So at 46 I was living on my own for really the first time ( I am 53). Now it has been 8 years since my divorce. I love being able to do what I want, when I want. Eat what I want, when I want. Watch what I want, when I want.
Now I am starting to get lonely more and more and would like someone in my life. But I find myself being way more picky about the women I am seeing online. I haven't even dated in 3 years. I think the woman are WAY worse when it comes to this. We have to remember it takes time to know the other person. Women bail on relationship way too fast. I know, I have done that myself. But overall, I only regret 1 time.

IronLady6354 · Answer

I'm not sure if my experience is unusual, but I'll share it anyways.
I think women can actually be "agist" in the sense that they won't give younger men who are interested in them even a little consideration when it comes to the possibility of a relationship. In fact, my now husband (who is 14 years younger) had to work really hard to convince me to give him any sort of decent chance in terms of a romantic relationship. However, once I did give him a half decent shot I fell in love super quickly (and have always been there).
I think sometimes women limit their options by cutting off the possibility of younger men (not necessarily the other way around). I think younger men are often more interested in older women than many realize. Oftentimes it's the women who aren't giving the younger man a real chance. Moreover, by refusing to consider a younger man a woman is significantly lessening the options she has for love (which may include her best options. I know it did with me)

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Most people do not take care of their bodies, so after hitting 30 they start to degrade physically, exceptions do exist, but they are sadly rare.

Also, by the time a person is 40, most of their peers are taken already, so you end up with a lot less options than you had 20 years ago, because most of your prior options are now married to other people.

At some point, every single perfect match might be taken, at that point you would need to settle or stay single. What age that happens at would vary based on starting number of peers, how likely they are to date often, how likely they are to find a match, your interests and hobbies, and how much of an age gap you tolerate.

I like female nerds who are home all the time drawing, gaming, and watching tv, and those types tend to not have great luck finding other people who also are home drawing, gaming, and watching tv. So many of my matches will likely still be single when I'm 40.

But... if you like outgoing outdoorsey people, or people who hit clubs and bars and other "large crowd" type places. Then your matches will dwindle very fast, most will be taken by the time you hit 30.

backdoorman · Answer

I think the answer to this question comes down to what nature has programmed the sexes to look for and value in each other. For better or worse, nature has programmed men to value youth and beauty in women because those things represent the greatest ability to bear and raise healthy children for a father. Nature has also programmed women to value those things in men, but to a lesser degree because the things that have always made men valuable (and thus desirable) to women are their ability to protect and provide for women and their children. It's true that those genetically programmed instincts are not as important in today's world as they were in the past when the world was a harsher place and survival was dependent on very different things, but that hasn't changed our genetic programming.

It is also important to note that the qualities that make women valuable to men are at their peak when women are in their late teens and 20s, whereas the qualities that make men valuable to women tend to continue increasing with age well beyond age 30. That's because us men tend to mature more slowly than women and we usually don't have our shit together until a little later in life. Our emotional maturity, our careers and our earning ability typically continues to increase, and those things tend to overshadow our waning physical attractiveness to women, so our overall desirability to the opposite sex is not as directly tied to our physical attractiveness as it is for women.

In the end, women have most of the power in the dating game in their late teens and 20s, but much less so after that. I don't mean that to sound harsh to either sex. I think that reality of human nature is equally harsh to both men and women but in different ways and at different stages in their lives.

JustAnj · Answer

I never understood this concept of aging is bad or aging is ugly or aging means your gonna be single if your in your 40s and up.

I'm sorry but to me thats pretty immature and is based off this idea that everyone wants a family once they are past the age of 30.

Age is not just a number though if your chasing after a young girl and your an older dude and the compatibility is not there because your decades old you are a desperate adult honing for a young girl who needs time to discover who she is and what she wants in life. I see these girls as soul babies because they have not got the chance to grow up and learn life. Reason why it's selfish to have a relationship with someone so young.

But logically people do not think about life like this they see it with a perspective of "what you got to give me for me" over "Who will be my partner that can be my team player with a opinion of thier own and with tools for both of our lives to be peaceful?"

Growing is beautiful not just in men but in women too. I wished everyone could see that. Time will only tell. ❤️

To much getting caught up in the social lie orlver the community love.

So does it lessen your chances, no, why? Most men might be married or taken already, some have the belief they will never find love now, others simply wait and others assume they are taken. Why? This constant stigma that's why. So no you might have less bachelors but you do not have less options due to age. 💋

Have a blessed life everyone. 🙋😘

nitsuj86 · Answer

Might sound bad on paper, but in general, it is true.

I'm 35, I'm dating someone now, but I have dated quite a bit in the past. My current girlfriend is 28, and that is for a variety of reasons.

Most of the women my age have children. I don't want to take care of another man's child. I want my own family.

Even if she didn't have kids, a 35-year-old woman would have a much harder time giving me multiple children safely. And to be crude, it would probably destroy her body and my wallet in the process. Ladies talk about IVF, but that is like 10k just to try, you don't get that money back if it doesn't work.

Along with that, 35+ women have a lot more "expectations" of what a man should be doing for them. They have dated a lot more men, a lot of which have screwed them over and imprinted this warped view of what type of man I am when they see me. Younger women have less of this. They are just more pleasant to be around.

I also find that it's appreciated more by younger women. If I make good money and do nice things for her, she views me as a good man, whereas an older woman might just see it as me doing what I'm supposed to do, nothing special.

HighValue · Answer

Biologically, if someone wants healthy kids, the woman should have all of her kids before she turns 35. That means if someone wanted 3 kids, wanted her to take one year off in between each kid to fully recover, and he also wanted to date for one year, then live together for one year to make sure the relationship was likely to last long term, she would need to be no older than 28 when they begin dating if they wanted 3 healthy kids.
The chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy kid after 35 decrease significantly for women. Regardless of people's feelings or wishful thinking, biological reality matters. That is assuming she didn't have a past of drug use too because she already had her eggs, so even if she used drugs in her teens and stopped for 10 years, you could still get one of the damaged eggs and have a kid with disabilities.
Learning disabilities are becoming more common and it is usually from women that had kids when they were older, or the ones that have a history of drug use or heavy alcohol use.
I have seen it for years while working in schools.

Men's chances of having healthy kids decreases with age too, but that is after age 55 for men, and it has a gradual decrease, not a sharp decrease like women do. Also, men that have a history of continual drug use do contribute to their kids having disabilities. Those disabilities tend to be more physical such as early eye problems, even when the child isn't even school age yet, and asthma at an early age without environmental influence.

So the point of this is that if someone wants healthy kids:
1. Don't be with a woman past 30 to begin a new relationship.
2. Don't be with a woman OR man that has a history of recreational drug use or heavy alcohol consumption.
Yes, that means women that want healthy kids should also avoid the party type of guys that use drugs or drink a lot.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

In my opinion, I think when a girl goes past age 8 or 9 is when people notice what she likes and dislikes. But I firmly believe the importance of a strong male father figure is incredibly important. I am not saying a young woman or a woman cannot be a loving, caring, sympathetic individual if she had a rough childhood or dealt with loveless relationships and etc. But for most part it plays a vital role. Females genuinely need more love and attention. However, we are all human and the same goes for guys/men. The problem is who she surrounds herself around. I knew guys from elementary who were soft spoken, quiet and nice and eventually by the time Jr. High rolled in, those guys got involved with sex, booze and drugs plus didn't care about school.

If I followed their path my life would be much different today in a negative sense. I would say when a girl is in her teens and mid 20's she experiments with different guys with different things. Usually, it takes heart break, bad experiences to learn and change. To appreciate life and real love. I think when a girl is in her 20s, she may have an immature mindset of dating a hot guy. Before any girl or woman reads this, I am not applying that to all. Heart break often makes one realize what they should fix or rectify. Unfortunately, there are women and men who let failures encompass their minds with a negative outlook on life and it becomes a continuous cycle.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When I was 20, I thought that only girls between age 16 and 25 were pretty.
When I was 30, I thought that only girls between age 16 and 35 were pretty.
When I was 40, I thought that only girls between age 16 and 45 were pretty.
When I was 50, I thought that only girls between age 16 and 55 were pretty.
etc.

(But the fact that I think a 16 year old girl can be attractive doesn't mean that I am chasing after them, or chasing after younger women in general. I have dated very few women who were more than 10 years younger than me.)

What younger people think about older people's options is irrelevant because they are seeing it only from the perspective of a younger person. I have seen some women who were 50 or 60 and very hot!

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Personally, I feel the older I get the more options I have.

I know more about who I am, what I like, what I don't like, and what I won't tolerate.

It makes it easier to reject unsuitable candidates, and I feel more empowered to go for people I am interested in. Which, admittedly right now, is no one. I'm in a part of my life where I want to focus just on me, and getting myself to a happy point.

Once I'm more settled in a life that makes me happy, it'll be easier for me to find someone who fits into that life. Someone who will thrive alongside me, and whom I can also support and thrive alongside.

ManOnFire · Answer

Although MGTOW and RedPillers want people to believe all that garbage about a woman "hitting the wall" at 40 and whatnot, this is actually hilariously untrue. There are women in their 40s and 50s who are still attractive, still getting hit on, and who are even still having casual sex or being literal sluts. Age doesn't change it.

And I am one of the men who has done some of the flirting and having sex with them, so I'm part of the proof. Personally I believe an older woman has a better chance of keeping a man than younger ones do because they've learned enough.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes and no. Think of how when people buy a car they consider the mileage. A woman could be 40 with low mileage or she could be 40 with a million miles. They're very different! In women mileage is stuff like 'bad relationships', 'spent too much time around the wrong people' (same thing, I guess). Of course feminists will claim that mileage is a myth and/or should be ignored. But men don't do things because women wish it. Men are men.

Our ancestors solved most of the problems people are grasping to solve now. When we did away with most of the traditions we created new problems.

StrongMale · Answer

Interesting question... The sad but true reality is that the male sexual fixation on the beauty and allure of female youth (which, by the way, is just the way males are naturally wired for procreation) can cause the appeal of ‘older’, more experienced, and more mature women to wane as they age. And while the tendency for men to find younger women more attractive is by design, it should not mean that a woman in her 40s or beyond has less opportunities and prospects in love and life. Like most guys, I can’t deny the appeal a beautiful young woman possesses. And yet, I have found many 40+ women to be wildly alluring and intellectually stimulating. Society would do well to rid itself of the ageism toward women!

exitseven · Answer

I used to have a thing for a woman who worked for one of my customers. She was in her 40s and I was probably around 30. She was not really beautiful or classically hot but she was just so interesting to talk to and just seemed so worldly (not really the word I am looking for) that I thought she was hot. A person can be attractive at any age.

PinkMichae · Answer

I felt I had more options at 38 when I became single than I had in my teens and early 20's. I think the reason is when i was younger I had no self esteem. I worried what people thought of me. Dating in my late 30's I could care less what people thought of me and I knew my worth.

TransAm85 · Answer

That's kind of shallow. I'm almost 37 and I still get hit on by 20 yr old boys. When I was in my 20's I was foolish, immature, and lost. Most men are the same way in their 20's, just looking for an easy lay, unless they're stupid enough to get a girl pregnant.. Don't think ur any less just b/c of ur age. Just use better skin care products lol. No Botox.

Subarugirl · Answer

I woman in her 40s also has a lot of options. There are tons of middle aged women who have ended relationships and started over. I would say that it is probably men in their 40s who have a more difficult time. He has to be attractive to women in his age group unless he wants to prey on naive girls young enough to be his daughter, or pay for his company.

StickStickity13 · Answer

I think they need to be realistic. Just like anybody. At 40, your options are less than what you had at 20. Not saying you can't find a quality man, but younger women are much more likely to date a quality man in their age range and older, while older women typically want someone their age or older. Men are more likely to want younger or the same age, so this dynamic makes it more difficult for women to find a man if they're older. Not to say it isn't possible, but they may have to drop their standards a little.

Just like average men need to understand that they will need to drop their standards if they can't obtain a woman in a specific league.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm going to be blunt and try to answer this. "I'm going to fuck every guy in town and fuck all your friends and people that may know you! Then after I have a few kids and need to pay the rent, I need a nice guy like you... but I'm serious now and I no longer have fun because I'm serious now... kids are all I care about, and the dog, then maybe you'll be part of what I care about." -If you were an average normal bro dude, would you go for that shit?

Like for real would you be like "hell yeah I can't wait to take care of these 3 man's kids!!!" "I can't wait to call the woman everybody in town and took to bang town is mine!!!" ? - I mean, be serious... would you want your son to 'just go' for that kind of bullshit?

I just think that's the problem because that seems to be the only option. If not they're still fucking all the guys in town and even having sex with their dog.

shaysh87 · Answer

As you get older, your options for dating and marriage will lessen. This is both for men and women.

But I think what people need to realize that true love can happen between individuals of any age. Your right match may not be someone who is looks ideal, has the ideal age, has the perfect height or weight requirement. When you're young in your 20s-30s , you have plenty of options, so you can afford to be picky.

Once your dating pool shrinks, its time to drop your high standards about looks, age and weight, and start looking for someone you genuinely enjoy being around. Because reality is, true love has no looks, age, height or weight. The higher your standards about superficial things, the harder it is to find love.

Belgie · Answer

"The wall comes for y'all."

A woman in her 40s has way fewer options than a woman in her 20s. Men aren't as a general rule, interested in whether she has a career or life experience or a nest egg.

Many women leave an unsatisfactory marriage and think life is going to treat them like they are 25 again, only to have reality give them a hard kicking.

Explorer91 · Answer

I think it depends on the person. I think “youth” is a big deal for people with less of a personality, less charm, less charisma, less interesting, less humour. For those people then yea being young matters. But if you got a lot going on and you are interesting and engaging. You can get with people or any age. Age is extremely relevant if your relying on looks solely.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

A woman in 40s is not some old goods or something that she foes not have any option.

In fact I think 35-40 is the perfect age as the woman is still young enough for the relationship activities like dating and all and at the same time has the needed experience of the world as a whole. I would say, the age actually broadens the range. At least for me.

Jabberjaw · Answer

Completely connected to prime years. A 15 yo won't have as many options as a 25 yo. A 35 yo will also not have as many options as a 25 yo.

You still have options at 35 but it's not the same and 45 even less. There's a threshold to be met. Past that everything gets worse with age lol. You have a few years to really crush it

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Well I think if someone wants a family then... Dating a woman in her 40s it might be hard and any older then that nearly impossible. Now I don't think that they should settle there are good people out there.

I would date a older woman no problem. Just not way older unless I really fell for someone

ohshee · Answer

Any women that I know it is in their forties I would be highly disappointed in them for settling because when a woman hits her forties that's her prime that's when she just get started at the same time it depends on what kind of heart she has who she is but she's all about most women that I know and they're 40 years old or more they're very confident
Are taking very good care of themselves and they do what they want

menina · Answer

In my opinion, no it doesn't but unfortunately many people think that once a woman hits her 40's her life is over. A 40-something woman should never settle for less, she should go after what she wants because it's her right to do so and she deserves to be happy.

Moose304 · Answer

Let me tell you something. The last time I looked my sideburns were gray. I spend THREE times today than I did 30 years ago to maintain my body. People sometimes hate on me when I say this. But I would be dishonest if I said otherwise. Age to me is just a number. If she takes care of her body and does NOT smoke or have tats all over her body I will still find her sexually attractive even past 60. I am not sure if there is anything I can say further.

sasquatch111 · Answer

As someone who is only looking for a companion, I don't think it does. I had my kids when I was in my 20s, now I just want to have someone to have fun with. I also don't sleep around, and am not interested in starting a new family. My main obstacle with dating is the fact that men dislike the fact that I'm friends with my ex because of co-parenting.

Shamalien · Answer

Above all else, men are attracted to youth and fertility markers. Basic biology. A woman’s options go down over time, while a man’s generally go up, at least into their mid 30s. A 22 year old woman is more desirable than a 28 year old woman, by A LOT. Many woman on this app like to disagree, but I’ve observed the real world for some time and this is what I see. Don’t piss away your good years, find a man while you are at your highest value and use your other good qualities to keep him

RationalMale · Answer

It's simple reality. Women like to date guys older than them with more money, taller, more life experience, etc.

Men like to date the most attractive women they can.

A 40 year old woman has plenty of options, but she's probably not going to like most of them. Why? Because a 40 year old guy who is actually a good catch (good looking, works out, good job, house/car,) will be aiming to date 30 year old women, not 40 year old women. The 40 year old men who are willing to date a 40 year old woman will mostly be unattractive to her.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

All i know is that 21 year olds are useless for house wife material. By the way you don't look 40 I must say you look 25 at least. You look much more younger then stupid 21 year olds. A 21 year old can't cook or clean. I don't understand what 30 year old man see in them. I am 29 but people always tell me I look 19 . I've seen 21 year old woman with wrinkles on their face so now a days it's hard to know how old people could be.

ODC2112 · Answer

Most of the women here are deluded children. They will pay the consequences on their skin. At 40 you will have the same chances as a man of having relationships because your beauty will be gone and you will be whining about bad men. The same chances of a man means that compared to what you have had so far they are scarce. Most of the female friends and co-workers around my age who used to be beautiful women no longer consider them anyone, not even for a quickie.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

At 40 there are fewer interested men, same applies for men looking in their 40's. There are fewer single men and women in that age range. One could date younger but not a lot of folks want to date someone significantly older. It's simple math, not ageism. You will also find more jilted and jaded folks who have gone through a divorce to choose from.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I was not emotionally or morally mature in my teens and twenties so I believe I’m more attractive now.

Honesttguy · Answer

If you keep yourself in shape you can be desirable for longer, cus you can be 18y old fresh meat but fat as fuk and 0 desirability. So you can beat all those chicks who are lazy ezy. Its takes effort to be desirable and knowledge to stay that way

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Why do 40 yr old women believe they can compete 20 yr olds when it comes to this stuff women date like you have no competition because all of you have your heads up your asses there are many many many women who are better than you yet you’re still confused as to why men cheat and leave a woman at 40 cannot get the same men she could at 20

nawtee_me · Answer

Women in there mid thirties and into there mid fifties and just sexy automatically. They have it going on and they know it. Their confidence and attitude should be just as sexy. There is no settling for anything they can command what they want and get it...

dustybiker · Answer

These are clear tells for me. Which men are mature and have actual experience, and which men are not and are blowing hot air.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

That's assuming you need marriage to fulfill your life purpose. But that's the dirty surprise to life: not everyone does, as much as they want to believe it does. Some women are better off being old cottage maids, than settling for just anyone as a husband. Doesn't mean don't give anyone a chance. Means look for someone with a good heart, not a Disney Prince face. Some girls still live in a Barbie fairy tale, and past a certain age, that's unhelpful.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

to me age is just a number. as long as i'm attracted to her and she's legal, that's what matters. i think the same should go for anyone.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

I feel like love can be unpredictable and I don't see the sense in a human speaking like they know everything about love, people should love who they love because at the end of the day age was created by humans now don't get me wrong, being too young is too young but when it comes to adults, there's only limitations in love if you create them.

SeekingVirginWife · Answer

Why didn't you marry me 20 years ago? You had the chance.

BoobMan · Answer

I think people should be realistic about what their options are (in life or in love) and should seek empirical validation for their beliefs on what those options are. That's most likely to lead them to make the best decisions for themselves.

melanieeeB · Answer

I feel like you still have options. My Uncle is around 50 and he is actively still dating , I have an aunt who is also the same way

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Well ageism is bad, it’s discriminating against someone based on age. But aging is fun! Got that wisdom!

annabananna · Answer

Why don’t I ever hear men say this about men too? Both 40 year olds have the same dating options. It’s not like there’s a bunch of 40 year old men dating 20 year olds.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I've always tended to think according to my age, so what I believe applies for women? I also apply to myself.

kellytheman · Answer

I feel if a woman in her 40s are more sexual and haves a better idea of life and love and try new things that she has maybe ever experienced. She also have experienced more things than a within her 20s.

Jerre · Answer

I think a woman in her 40’s or 50’s have a lot of options, probably more than a woman in her 20’s

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't think anyone man or woman should ever "settle".
I think if age lessens a person's options it's not a bad thing. Because people don't have expiration dates. If age lessens a person's options those options were not good options to begin with.

Avicenna · Answer

There’s more interest in women in their 20s than women in their 40s, it’s just a fact of life. That doesn’t mean that older women aren’t wanted. .

SynthKobra · Answer

It’s a biological fact that you get less options. That does not equate to settling for the first body you encounter. I think thats a bit of a dramatic turn in thinking.

howdidireachhere · Answer

have you seen that 60 year old woman who's dating a 23 year old man on tiktok

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Most people want someone that's no too far from their age. The problem is that as one gets older less good ones are available.

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