Seriously, women hate men who are emotional.
Ladies, when you say you want a man who is "emotionally available", WTF do you really mean?
Many women are not "emotionally available" or "emotionally mature".
I don't know how it became common belief that women's default state is being emotionally available. It's probably because we "cry" more, but that is a releasing mechanism because we feel more anxiety. Crying doesn't mean someone is "available" at all.
In any case, because this bullshit is popular, many women who are not emotionally available themselves rant and dump their feelings on a man, ignore his feelings in return, and when he ignores them the women would call them toxic etc.
It's a war many men can't win because, as I said, we're somehow believing in the lie that most women are emotionally available by default. And because we believe this lie many parents won't try to actually teach their daughters how to listen. (In fact, it is the opposite. Many girls are now growing up to be less emotional and coupled with that lie, they become more entitled when it comes to dumping their feelings on others without reciprocating.)
You best bet would be to analyze people case by case and find someone who can listen to you. Unlike popular belief, it's not just your ability to tell someone how you feel but your ability to listen and empathize that shows your maturity and emotional availability.
In my experience, people who are mature, available and can listen and express themselves without confusion and delusions are a minority. The gender isn't a major factor.
This question can't be answered because it assumes that lie is true and many pinks answer it thinking they are more emotionally available than men by default, when, if you see and listen to them, most of them are as emotionally crap as the boyfriends they choose, or worse.
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When I say that I want to be with someone who is “emotionally available”, I’m implying that I wouldn’t want to date someone that has other main priorities in life like school hence can’t spend much time with me, or has not moved on from their previous relationship yet. I would not like someone who is still clinging onto their past and not in an emotional state to date someone or start a new life with them. Some people confuse being “sensitive” with “emotionally available” - they are two very different things.
Of course, I want a guy who is sensitive to my feelings and can express his emotions in a HEALTHY way. I want someone who is honest and open about their intentions and decisive. Someone who knows what they want to do with their life, and knows what they want in a partner and what they are actually looking for in a relationship. Being “emotionally available” means having the ability to emotionally invest in an intimate relationship without having any second thoughts about it.
"1) Self-awareness
This is considered the foundation for all the other components of emotional intelligence. Self-awareness means being aware of what you are feeling; being conscious of the emotions within yourself.
People who are in touch with their emotions are better able to guide their own lives. Team members need to be in touch with their emotions to interact effectively and appreciate emotions in others.
Those with high levels of self-awareness learn to trust their ‘gut feelings’ and realise that these feelings can provide useful information about difficult decisions. Answers are not always clear regarding who is at fault when problems arise. In these situations, team members have to rely on their own feelings and intuition.
"2) Self-management
This is the second key component of emotional intelligence in managing emotions. Operationally it means that team members need to be able to balance their own moods so that worry, anxiety, fear or anger do not get in the way of what needs to be done.
Those who can manage their emotions perform better because they are able to think clearly. Managing emotions does not mean suppressing or denying them but understanding them and using that understanding to deal with situations productively. Team members should first recognise a mood or feeling, think about what it means and how it affects them, and then choose how to act."
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Fun fact. I’ve never had a girlfriend I could open up to 👍 But goddamn if they didn’t tell me everything about their day.
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I don't know what priori mean by that it’s kind of irritating the way everything is a sound bite that inevitably requires unpacking lol (not your fault)
For me I just like honesty not trying to say what they think I want to hear or hide things they think I do not want to hear, just honesty. I am guessing they mean they want open communication not intrigue but I can’t be sure 😊😊
And I noticed you saying you think women hate hearing your real feelings well, speaking for myself, if I’m in love with someone I DO want to hear about him feeling unloved or fewer etc, it’s not a turn off at all. It takes courage and in my opinion if someone holds it against you they are a terrible partner for anyone.
There are men too that complain or mocks if / when their partner opens up ( I don’t mean whining) and that is basically a pointless relationship.
in my opinion we should be a team supporting each other —that makes us both stronger 💪🏼 -
In a way it can be one hell of a balancing act. Women want guys to be open about their feelings and express emotions. But not emotional enough or not talking about your feelings enough can create issues. The opposite can also cause issues. Too emotional and talking about your feelings too much, that's an issue. Add in the fact that it varies from women to women also makes finding that balance a Olympic sport.
It can also make it feel like you are screwed no matter what. So a lot of guys clam up and shutdown. Because it removes the balancing act all together. You can't be internally losing your shit because you are trying to find that right balance, when you turn off your emotions and don't talk about them.
- 365 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
When I say I want a man who is emotionally available, it means I want a man who is:
1. Comfortable with his emotions, who has either deprogrammed himself from the toxic masculinity falsehood that men shouldn't have emotions. Emotions are human, men are human. Therefore, men have emotions.
2. Able to emotionally regulate, which is a learned skill and many men are not taught this.
3. Able to control his emotions, generally. This is basically the same as the 2nd point, but includes knowing how to keep a level head when needed.
4. Comfortable expressing his emotions. This again ties into toxic masculinity. Men who repress their emotions and hide them from their loved ones are not worth my time.
5. Has emotional intelligence and the ability to empathize, and thus provide genuine support to me when I need it.
6. Knows his limits, and can draw a boundary and let me know if he needs me to seek support elsewhere. -
Emotionally available doesn't mean they want some one that's literally emotional.
Emotionally available is someone that wears there heart on there sleeve for you, tells you they love you before you ads the women says it to them, it's someone who takes interest and remembers without any prompts things like the yearly anniversary, what I wore when we first met, the perfume I used to wear and loved etc.
All these plus more tell me that the guy I'm with is emotionally available and emotionally involved with me and is in it for the long haul. - 1.5K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yeah women, WTF do you mean? If I talk too much or express too much you hate me and then if I don't do something enough you fucking hate me. Women are prone to just hate? I STFU and listen to your stupid mother fucking problems, but when I talk about me, I'm being a selfish prick... then I stop saying anything about me and I'm being a selfish prick.
I found the answer... women complain no matter what. It doesn't matter what you do, they'll find something wrong with it and complain about it. They cause drama and friction. The only way to win is to keep them on the defense. If they're too busy defending themselves from your scrutinizing ways, then they don't have to find shit to be BIG mad about. lolz. -
Well let's just say you are way more better and mature then a men my own age who still want mommy.
Men you're age have better mindset , mature and more understanding. Unlike guys my own age who all happened to be momma's boy.
Honest I quit dating men my own age years ago. Men you're age group are the best.
- 619 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
I want a man who is emotionally mature! Not a narcissistic whiney passive aggressive egotistical power tripping person who doesn’t know how to take responsibility for their actions and plays the victim when you give it to him hard to his face. I can take a beating, I’ve been lied to, abused, taken advantaged, fooled by men because I ALLOWED it! Well not anymore! If you’re a man who can love me and accept me for ALL my flaws and see from my eyes, I will love you with ALL your flaws and will try to understand you where you’re coming from. You can cry to me and be your shoulder to cry on show me at your weakest and won’t get judgement from me. In fact, being your true self with me at your most vulnerable will make me respect you. And when I love, I love hard and you will NEVER find another woman like me. You might meet someone else but you’ll never forget how I loved you. That’s what I fcking meant!
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A man who actually acts like he feels love and can adequately communicate his feelings. Emotionally available is not the same thing as being a whiney bitch.
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it means they want you to be macho enough to fuck anyone up and endure everything that's thrown at you but EMOTIONALLY vulnerable enough for them to be able to manipulate your ass when they need to
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They want him to share how he feels about stuff so later on they can use it against him.
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For me it's wanting a relationship with a guy who's my friend and lover. Not to be confused with friends-with-benefits. That seems to imply there is no committment.
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They mean a simp that will do what they want and tolerate all of their shitty behavior and support them financially and not demand much sex since this is NOT the guy they will wind up fucking.
- 1.8K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
A man who's honest about how he feels. If you're having a bad day and don't tell me about it, I can't do my best to cheer you up.
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It means they need a man who is naive enough to get manipulated by them so they can secure their retirement plan and destroy his life.
- 1.3K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
A man that isn't afraid to express his true emotions
- 404 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Madonna did say “there’s nothing worse than a queen on the rag.”
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Someone who is open about his feelings and not afraid to show and express them.
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I think they mean that they want a man who is not still hung up on some girl in his past.
- 613 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Actually all of my girlfriends have been pretty chill with me expressing myself. If they weren't then they would be useless to me and I would promptly get rid of them.
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It means we want a guy who isn't afraid to talk about his feelings or if something is bothering him.
Being a cold brick wall is not exactly attractive to all women.
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