Girls, how often do guys mistake you being nice or friendly with them for you hitting on them?

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And guys have you ever thought a girl was into you when really she was just being friendly or nice?

RangerBlue22 · Accepted Answer

Well guys are less use to women approaching them with romantic intentions or not. If women approached men just as much as vice versa we probably get better at figuring out what her intentions are.

Anyway I do feel for ladies on this one. They might want to cheer up a guy or be friendly to someone who doesn’t get approached much. Maybe he looks lonely and they just want to help him out a bit (platonically). However he has to decide whether she is giving him a signal or just being nice. If he mistakes it the former it puts her in a very awkward position.

Also I was usually the considerate guy in the group who would chat up with the unattractive girl who felt looked visibly uncomfortable (and depressed) that her prettier friends got more attention then her. That didn’t mean I was interested in the girl but would I usually felt bad she looked uncomfortable. I just wanted to her to feel better.

That too might give her the wrong impression. I meant well but it’s tough. So I can see why some thoughtful women might feel this conundrum.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

I usually don't think a girl is into me unless she keeps touching me and invades my personal space. There's this girl at work, she acts flirtatious, comes up and hugs me, kisses me in the cheek. She rubs my cheeks when I shave, says stuff like "I don't know if the rest of the crew is ready for how much we like each other", "can we just go drive around the country in your truck until we die?" She even came up and licked my neck and blew a raspberry on my neck. I called her bluff twice and asked her to go out to eat with me, and she said that sounded like a great idea but didn't say yes either time. Talk about mixed signals. I found it she has a boyfriend and stopped asking her out.

On_cloud_wine · Accepted Answer

I’ve complimented a few guys, was friendly with them and apparently that was enough for them to crush on me, but then there were times where I actually had a crush on a guy and acted the same plus texting them more, showing more attention, testing them, and they’ve failed my tests.. not that they failed them, but basically I test their game and what they’re looking for.. and I had to drop them cold, so I’ve mad a few quite mad.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Not so much anymore, kinda just ignore everyone. Most guys won't fuck with me because of what I wear and my amazing death stare.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Someone said I am not pretty enough to think I’m even good with flirting or guys would look at me…

BlueScorpio · Answer

Honestly this has never happened to me, I think it's kinda the other way around. Lol like if I guy said hello to me in certain tone or gave me a certain I would think "omgosh he's so cute, does he like me?" But then I would have to remind myself that they're just being polite lol

SphynxUK · Answer

It happens a lot. If I talk or share an interest with them, or ask questions because I’m interested in something they’re saying,? they think I’m interested in them.
It’s not as if I’ve told them I’m interested, or have asked for their number or anything obvious like that!

petitedollbabee · Answer

My coworkers know I’m not flirting with them as I work with my boyfriend, but when it comes to making new friends or just giving a guy a compliment in public, sometimes they think I’m flirting when I’m just being friendly. But I just assume that not many women have been nice to them in the past and therefore they think it has a deeper meaning than just kindness.

ManOnFire · Answer

Most men are usually going to think a woman being particularly friendly or even somewhat playful with him means she's interested. And it's not necessarily right or wrong for him to think it.

It's more annoying when women mistake a man for being after her because he is friendly, talkative, or smiles a lot with her.

GreatBigCircles · Answer

l have, but I’m not in the habit of pouncing on every single potential signal. It usually becomes clear if you just… Wait a bit to get better context, rather than projecting. It is sad though that for a lot of guys, the simple act of human pleasantness is rare enough to warrant immediate pursuit.

MementoMori_ · Answer

There have been several studies that confirmed that guys are more likely to think that a girl is more interested in him than she really is than girls are to think that a guy is more interested in her than he really is.

In other words, guys tend to overestimate how interested girls are in them more than the other way around.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am a very friendly person be it to stangers but i am like this regardless of gender. flirting for me is when you are being touchy freely there are actresses in my country who i find have that flirtatious personality like Julai baretto, krista ranillo and i don't have such talent i just cannot do it. in short i really don't know about flirtinh

SaoirseS · Answer

The best I can remember it’s only happened once. I’m friendly and sociable with everyone until given a reason not to be.

Dranana · Answer

So I'm the type who's plain. Very straightforward. If I like you, i like you. If I don't I don't. Guys who later became friends keep telling me it's hard to befriend me or get closer to me. They said they will never know if I really like them should they propose. What I say to boy A... I say the exact thing to boy A. No"I like this this guy better than that guy". I'm too plain😂

AsaKyo · Answer

Only @degenerate does this because he's white

U4ea0 · Answer

What other reason are there for girls even to talk to guys? I can't think of any. No, girls being nice means she wants to fuck.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Never because I am never friendly with boys. I am always scary and stuck up.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol a few times. Until they learn that me being nice is not how I show interest. My sarcasm and awkwardness go into red level when I'm into someone. I can't help it lol

AmberESTP · Answer

This is so annoying tbh. Why they always think I wanna f*ck with them? Sheesh... But I'm only nice to people I HAVE to work with (like obligations and such), otherwise I choose whom to be nice to

QuietKyody · Answer

She would have to literally kiss me before my dumb brain figures out she is hitting on me. Man I wish I was lying lol my brain just shuts down in public situations.

Sour-rose · Answer

Not once has this happened... and I'm glad for now. Because i may do no harm but i don't take any shi eithea'

Msputiton · Answer

To many times. I am sarcastic and love jokes. Everytime i make a joke it feels like they think that means I'm flirting

menina · Answer

It never happens to me, because I don't try to be nice with s****y guys.

Levin · Answer

It's worth noting that the opposite is also true. A lot of women think you're hitting on them if you're being friendly or enthusiastic.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm a guy and have mistaken a girl being friendly with me for them hitting on me or being into me before

msc545 · Answer

When I was younger, I made the mistake of thinking a woman was interested in me due to her friendliness when she really was not. That was the beginning of learning to not trust what women do or say.

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm neurodivergent, so processing these types of situations are time-consuming and sadly, I DON'T always get it right.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

F. Few women are into me romantically. Sometimes I was surprised to learn a girl was actually into me. I don’t usually raise my hopes.

JenniferBiArizona · Answer

More often then not. I am nice with everyone and very open. Then they get mad when I am not interested.

Reddy4it · Answer

Yep, I get A a lot. And then they get hurt and tell me I’m leading them on 🙄

Dee_smooth22 · Answer

I used to mistake it all the time, now I'm sure that it's messing me up and I am walking away from some that are, so keep mistaking!

Zolly99999 · Answer

I generally never mistake it as being hit on.. I always assume they are just being nice even if they do flirt / hit on me..

RavVid · Answer

Can be hard to tell.

kikissss · Answer

All the time because I am way to friendly

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I never think that.

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