Girls, how often do guys mistake you being nice or friendly with them for you hitting on them?

[Still-alive]

And guys have you ever thought a girl was into you when really she was just being friendly or nice?

Guys mistake my friendliness for me hitting on them very often

Sometimes it happens

Its rarely happened

Guys have so far never mistaken my friendliness for me hitting on them

Im a guy and have mistaken a girl being friendly with me for them hitting on me or being into me before

Im a guy and have never mistaken friendliness with her being into me before

[RangerBlue22]

Well guys are less use to women approaching them with romantic intentions or not. If women approached men just as much as vice versa we probably get better at figuring out what her intentions are.

Anyway I do feel for ladies on this one. They might want to cheer up a guy or be friendly to someone who doesn’t get approached much. Maybe he looks lonely and they just want to help him out a bit (platonically). However he has to decide whether she is giving him a signal or just being nice. If he mistakes it the former it puts her in a very awkward position.

Also I was usually the considerate guy in the group who would chat up with the unattractive girl who felt looked visibly uncomfortable (and depressed) that her prettier friends got more attention then her. That didn’t mean I was interested in the girl but would I usually felt bad she looked uncomfortable. I just wanted to her to feel better.

That too might give her the wrong impression. I meant well but it’s tough. So I can see why some thoughtful women might feel this conundrum.

[Staximus]

I usually don't think a girl is into me unless she keeps touching me and invades my personal space. There's this girl at work, she acts flirtatious, comes up and hugs me, kisses me in the cheek. She rubs my cheeks when I shave, says stuff like "I don't know if the rest of the crew is ready for how much we like each other", "can we just go drive around the country in your truck until we die?" She even came up and licked my neck and blew a raspberry on my neck. I called her bluff twice and asked her to go out to eat with me, and she said that sounded like a great idea but didn't say yes either time. Talk about mixed signals. I found it she has a boyfriend and stopped asking her out.

[Dee_smooth22]

Halfway through this I was like watch her say she isn't interested after all that 🤣 & sure enough she's sending mixed signals

[kikissss]

Parts of that would be sexual harassment if that was the opposite roles.

[On_cloud_wine]

I’ve complimented a few guys, was friendly with them and apparently that was enough for them to crush on me, but then there were times where I actually had a crush on a guy and acted the same plus texting them more, showing more attention, testing them, and they’ve failed my tests.. not that they failed them, but basically I test their game and what they’re looking for.. and I had to drop them cold, so I’ve mad a few quite mad.

[On_cloud_wine]

Made a few quite mad*

[Still-alive]

Ohh you test em? Why?

[On_cloud_wine]

Test their intelligence, figure out what they’re looking for, their lifestyle, past..

[On_cloud_wine]

Too many about hookup culture so I put them in the friend zone unless they get really mad at me, I’ll have to block them.

[On_cloud_wine]

It helps when you play dumb

[Still-alive]

yeahhhh i don't like tests like that... anddd if i found out she was doing that its a deal breaker for me :P

js

[On_cloud_wine]

Well then keep it real.

[Still-alive]

i keep it very real.

[MementoMori_]

When you're 106 things like that happen. It's inevitable.

[On_cloud_wine]

@MementoMori_ things like what happen?

[MementoMori_]

Don't panic. It's an indisputable fact of life. Even happens to the best among us. I'd say somewhere around 103 ... 105ish, *everyone* fails your test. By the time you hit 106, forget about it, you know way too much and you are doomed to a life of draconian solitude.

[On_cloud_wine]

@MementoMori_ it’s not my fault I haven’t met anyone perfect enough for me.

[MementoMori_]

There's always 107.

Keep hope alive.

[On_cloud_wine]

@MementoMori_ I don’t hope or look for such things.

[Smashingdoozy]

Not so much anymore, kinda just ignore everyone. Most guys won't fuck with me because of what I wear and my amazing death stare.

[Still-alive]

You turned me into stone once...

i got better tho

[QuietKyody]

@Still-alive CeraVe? Stuff works wonders, saved my face when it turned to stone when I look at her for the first time too.

[Pinay_ako]

Someone said I am not pretty enough to think I’m even good with flirting or guys would look at me…

[Still-alive]

On here? Fuck em

[Pinay_ako]

Where else 😂

[Guardian45]

Tell me his name, and worry no more.😏

[Pinay_ako]

@Guardian45 nah it’s fine. 🤣 but thanks 😊 so yea that’s my answer to this question 🙋‍♀️

[Xtendable]

You are gorgeous, @Pinay_ako! They don’t know what they’re talking about.

[Reddy4it]

@Pinay_ako i second @Still-alive and @Xtendable ‘s opinions. You’re hot asf 🔥

[Pinay_ako]

@Xtendable 🥰 shucks No really. It’s okay. Their opinion. But thanks @Reddy4it too 💕

[Reddy4it]

Anytime, @Pinay_ako 😘

[Still-alive]

sheesh look at all these people that love you Pinay? lol. your gag friends have your back

[Pinay_ako]

💕 🥰

[Reddy4it]

@Pinay_ako is loved and how could we not…she’s amazing 😻

[Pinay_ako]

@Reddy4it you are too baby 💋

[Reddy4it]

Aww thanks, boo 💋

[BlueScorpio]

Honestly this has never happened to me, I think it's kinda the other way around. Lol like if I guy said hello to me in certain tone or gave me a certain I would think "omgosh he's so cute, does he like me?" But then I would have to remind myself that they're just being polite lol

[SphynxUK]

It happens a lot. If I talk or share an interest with them, or ask questions because I’m interested in something they’re saying,? they think I’m interested in them.
It’s not as if I’ve told them I’m interested, or have asked for their number or anything obvious like that!

[petitedollbabee]

My coworkers know I’m not flirting with them as I work with my boyfriend, but when it comes to making new friends or just giving a guy a compliment in public, sometimes they think I’m flirting when I’m just being friendly. But I just assume that not many women have been nice to them in the past and therefore they think it has a deeper meaning than just kindness.

[pass_the_celery98]

You met your boyfriend at work?

[petitedollbabee]

No, but over time we started working at the same place

[pass_the_celery98]

you don't work in Canada do you lol. What happens if your boyfriend left the company would you stay in the company or eventually leave as well?

[petitedollbabee]

No? Random lol. If my boyfriend quit and found a different job I’d still stay at my job. I didn’t start working there because he works there, I started working there because they are accommodating to my health issues and they give me good hours.

[pass_the_celery98]

It's just that your response sounded like someone I know so I just wanted to make sure it wasn't the same individual. But the girl's boyfriend left the country for good, I just assumed she would quit to.

[GreatBigCircles]

l have, but I’m not in the habit of pouncing on every single potential signal. It usually becomes clear if you just… Wait a bit to get better context, rather than projecting. It is sad though that for a lot of guys, the simple act of human pleasantness is rare enough to warrant immediate pursuit.

[ManOnFire]

Most men are usually going to think a woman being particularly friendly or even somewhat playful with him means she's interested. And it's not necessarily right or wrong for him to think it.

It's more annoying when women mistake a man for being after her because he is friendly, talkative, or smiles a lot with her.

[MementoMori_]

There have been several studies that confirmed that guys are more likely to think that a girl is more interested in him than she really is than girls are to think that a guy is more interested in her than he really is.

In other words, guys tend to overestimate how interested girls are in them more than the other way around.

[sheenagwapa]

i am a very friendly person be it to stangers but i am like this regardless of gender. flirting for me is when you are being touchy freely there are actresses in my country who i find have that flirtatious personality like Julai baretto, krista ranillo and i don't have such talent i just cannot do it. in short i really don't know about flirtinh

[SaoirseS]

The best I can remember it’s only happened once. I’m friendly and sociable with everyone until given a reason not to be.

[Still-alive]

So what happened with that guy?

[SaoirseS]

He didn’t handle the rejection all that well. He was one of those people who wore being an obnoxious asshole as a badge of honor. I just treated him cordially, and he asked me out. When I said thanks for the invite but no, he said “quit giving signals you’re interested.”

[Dranana]

So I'm the type who's plain. Very straightforward. If I like you, i like you. If I don't I don't. Guys who later became friends keep telling me it's hard to befriend me or get closer to me. They said they will never know if I really like them should they propose. What I say to boy A... I say the exact thing to boy A. No"I like this this guy better than that guy". I'm too plain😂

[AsaKyo]

Only @degenerate does this because he's white

[Guardian45]

Pardone?

[AsaKyo]

@Guardian45 Mijn excuses meneer

[Still-alive]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sN0pGxCtYXM

makes me think of this scene from naked gun lol

[Guardian45]

@Still-alive. HAHAHA!🤣.
@AsaKyo. "Mijn excuses meneer". Please explain.

[AsaKyo]

@Guardian45 what moet ik uitleggen? lmao

[Guardian45]

alleen als men GEEN Nederlands KENT!

[AsaKyo]

@Guardian45 @Still-alive Help, my cover's been blown

[Still-alive]

uhhh gesundheit or whatever?

[Guardian45]

Maak je geen zorgen!

[U4ea0]

What other reason are there for girls even to talk to guys? I can't think of any. No, girls being nice means she wants to fuck.

[Still-alive]

lol wow really dude? ok then

[U4ea0]

I don't ask of course. I simply give them a Swedish Rodeo.

[Sarahr123]

Never because I am never friendly with boys. I am always scary and stuck up.

[Still-alive]

why?

[Sarahr123]

I don’t want them overstepping the mark so I show them they need to take me seriously by not being friendly

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lol a few times. Until they learn that me being nice is not how I show interest. My sarcasm and awkwardness go into red level when I'm into someone. I can't help it lol

[AmberESTP]

This is so annoying tbh. Why they always think I wanna f*ck with them? Sheesh...

But I'm only nice to people I HAVE to work with (like obligations and such), otherwise I choose whom to be nice to

[QuietKyody]

She would have to literally kiss me before my dumb brain figures out she is hitting on me. Man I wish I was lying lol my brain just shuts down in public situations.

[Sour-rose]

Not once has this happened... and I'm glad for now. Because i may do no harm but i don't take any shi eithea'

[Msputiton]

To many times. I am sarcastic and love jokes.

Everytime i make a joke it feels like they think that means I'm flirting

[menina]

It never happens to me, because I don't try to be nice with s****y guys.

[Levin]

It's worth noting that the opposite is also true.

A lot of women think you're hitting on them if you're being friendly or enthusiastic.