Girls, why do you call it insecurity when a guy wants your ex gone?

[blissinanarchy1]

It’s not insecurity. It’s not being jealous. Anyone you slept with before gotta go. It’s respect.

I don’t need phone passwords. I don’t need social media passwords. Idc if you have guy friends as long as he respects boundaries. I’m not gonna spaz on you if some guy is flirting with you not knowing you’re taken (Only way to know is to ask!)

Yet you want to say it’s jealousy and insecurity.

[mermaidcancermoon]

Depends on how involved this person is.

Are they using an ex for validation or was it one of those scenarios where it was a *puke* moment repulsed with dating them? Also how intetactive are they? Are they going out together frequently or is it a social media respect of boundaries nothing s*xual type of thing

[HollyK21]

This needs more context. Are you trying to be, or in, a relationship with the girl in question? By wanting the ex gone, what does this mean exactly? Is she still on and off with him? Are they trying to fix things? Like what is going on...

[Anonymous]

I think it's rational for both parties to cut the ex's out. If she's still instant on hanging out with him, keeping contact with him, it's a MASSIVE red flag and I would drop any woman who chose to keep an ex in her life unless there are children involved.

[Anonymous]

Most guys I've slept with are around somewhere and I might talk to them sometimes. It's not every day but if I get a text or want to go to lunch I don't think I should be prohibited. I'm not going to sleep with him while I have a boyfriend.

[blissinanarchy1]

And you think going to lunch with someone you slept with before, while having a boyfriend is okay?

[Izzy_3991]

I agree with you. Hanging around with exes and people you’ve slept with before is a bad idea. Temptation is bad, best not to allow it in at all 🙏🏻