Why am I always left out in the conversations?

[Anonymous]

I have met new people in my college. And most are girls. They didn't know each other just like they didn't know me. But they found each other very quickly and became besties while i am always left out. Only one girls likes me there and is very polite and sweet the other girls will just say hi but In the conversations they will listen to me with no enthusiasm and just continue chatting about themselves all happy. One girl there is always looking at me like i am her enemy for no reason while i try always to break the ice and compliment her nails or something just to be nice and sweet and just to start a conversation but she says thanks with a disgusted face. I don't know why. Also all girls there compliment each others looks and then there is me who they never did. only that girl who likes me compliments me but only my earrings or clothes. I am not superficial nor am i in need of their attention or compliments i just don't want to have bad interactions with girls i will be in the same class for 2 years. Not that they hate me or something they just treat me a bit differently than each other. I literally act the same way they do, am chatty and sweet but still feel left out. What should i do and why is this happening?

[Rockstarrrrr]

If you're a little lonely... don't have close friends for a while... it's a natural reflex that you start acting extra friendly and excited and even a little nervous around people... and that will make you just trying to get along with them and not showing your true character or even no character at all... You might not notice it yourself.. but the others , they totally see it... now, are most people you meet as cool, friendly and good spirited as you would expect? Nope.. not even close... especially in places and situations like school, college and stuff like that... So, even if you're good looking and smart and nice and respectful and fun... they're gonna look down on you.. they'll mainly see you as sensitive and needy... Weak... so, you need to have a strong mentality and be fully comfortable in your own skin... Even dumb average boring people are secure so, why you're not? And realize that you'll meet people you like and get along with... And also people you don't... So trying to please or impress everyone is never good whether you do it intentionally or not... I know that you have to start somewhere... You need to feel acknowledged and appreciated enough first before you detox and become totally secure.. But If it doesn't start in your own head... You'll never really get there...

[Chill_Thoughts]

That's weird af, other than the nice girl try to meet new people. Uni is soooo much more than just your classmates, if they're shitty try to find a group of people that isn't. Being that through partying, study groups, etc., you can make really good friends there.
You could also try having one on ones with some of the girls. Like the one that seems to dislike you for some reason? Ask if you can talk alone and then ask if they dislike you and if you did something wrong while explaining why you feel that way

by the way, just so you know you're absolutely beautiful

[Chill_Thoughts]

If you're shy about confrontation, even though it's literally you just trying to understand them so you can be better friends, you can dm them online too

[Asker]

Thank u for the advice 😃

[Chill_Thoughts]

Anytime, hmu if you ever need some random's advice on anything 🙃

[DEondeBeaumont]

Trying to make people like you have the opposite effect, where it makes people, not like you. Stop trying to be "sweet and polite" and be yourself. When I see someone kissing up to me, I get bored of them really quickly. But when I see someone having a blast on their own and not caring what I think about them, that makes me want to talk to them.

And don't be so hard on yourself. You're still a baby and learning. You'll get there eventually. Just remember trying to make someone like you will make them not like you. And just be your authentic self.

[Asker]

I am not kissing up hehe i just try to act like they act with each other

[DEondeBeaumont]

Yeah just show everyone you're having a blast being yourself, which usually attracts people to you. The people that you want to hang out with it will attract.

[DryGermanGuy]

It’s all Greek to me! 🤷‍♂️🤭

[Bigjake1019]

That stinks I’m sorry

[Sarahames]

Haha 😂 ion know you just have to make it cool