I asked this girl at my gym for her number, and stupid me, I had my ex as my background. She replied once. And then she never replied again. Anyways, a few months later, I’ve been seeing her more and more. And she keeps staring at me. I try not to look back at her because I’m just reminded of my failure when I see her, and I get depressed. In the meantime, I did have a glowup since I got her number. I’m in the best shape of my life. Maybe she regrets it, but it’s just awkward working out next to a girl who rejected me.
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I just get sad when I see her….
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It sounds like you're misreading something here. She wouldn't be staring at you if she had intended to reject you. No girl would do that.
If you were "that dude at the gym who asked for her number" and she decided to reject you after two messages (beause of the ex background, or for any other reason) SHE WOULD FEEL SUPER AWKWARD TOO!!!
Because you're feeling rejected, you're unable to see that IF that was what actually happened... the person doing the rejecting will ALSO feel weird about running into you at the gym.
The fact that she is staring at you, suggests that she did not reject you the way you're thinking. Otherwise she would be averting her gaze too! (that's what anyone would do in her situation... if she had indeed rejected you).
How exactly did the conversation go? What was your last message that she didn't reply to?
Something doesn't add up here. Her staring after you asking for her number and a brief exchange... seems more in line with her "wondering what's up with you" ... than it does with: "oh... there's that guy who asked for my number, but who I decided I didn't really want to talk to after all"
Well she has my number. And she can talk to me. But she didn’t do either of those things….
This is an interesting point. But I’m with the OP- once the ball is in her court, it’s up to her as to where to go.
haha, what? You're expecting that she would reach out to you? But... SHE IS! (that's what the staring is for. Since you're obviously avoiding eye contact and avoiding her... that's a very clear signal to NOT talk to you).
You two DID have a 'talk'. It was just a non-verbal one. She asked "what happened" or "what's happening here" and you replied back "I don't want to talk to you. At all. For sure. I am going to pretend I don't see you staring at me."
Dude. You... are insane if you're sitting there avoiding eye contact, and thinking that she would come up and talk to you.
You weren't rejected. You've created your own problem here. It's not even actually a problem. But... you're going to have to talk to her. After being the one who is all stand-offish... it's YOUR job to initiate more talking.
I was taught to take a hint. I’m personally going to need a lot more than staring to risk a harassment accusation.
@DarkWinterNights alright. Best of luck then. I don't really know what else to say. 🙂
I don’t know the OP’s whole situation, and since he already got her number once, maybe there’s something there. I’ve just had bad experiences in the past misreading signals. So I personally wouldn’t.
she didn't reject you. just keep texting her and keep pushing and dont give up. Most girls feel safer when a guy has another girl. its the complete opposite
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