I been working out and hanging out with a girl who not too long ago ended a relationship with her ex, they were on an off for a little over a year.
Long story short. When we hang out or workout we have a really good time and she’s very cooperative we’re touchy all that. There is a lot signs she’s comfortable to the point where people that see us think we’re dating.
The issue is that for 1. I have to set all this up and she rarely bring up hanging out. All she’ll say is what are you doing this weekend or this week, we should take a trip to so and so country but nothing about hanging out that week or anything. I have to set that up.
When I ask if she wants to hang out or workout, she takes her sweat to time to reply. So far she’s said yes to all the times and we have a good time, but when I throw the invite she’ll take hours to reply when I know she’s on her phone. She’s probably not really interested despite when we meet it feels like she is? I’m confused cause I have to ask and initiate and then she takes a while to reply with a yeah.
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I gotta say I'm kinda like that too. If I was in her position I would probably say that I'm not interested in a relationship but I just liked hanging out with the person as friends. Seeing as how she's been on/off with her ex I would probably say she still has a lot of baggage there and probably isn't looking for anything serious right now. Just someone to fill the void. It's possible she could grow feelings for you over time but I doubt she's feeling that type of way towards you right now. She's probably trying to process everything and figure her life out.
From my perspective as a girl: personally, I'm naturally a very touchy/flirty person so those signals don't always mean much unless it's going overboard. If I'm taking hours to respond to someone it's either because I'm busy (work, school, hyperfixated on whatever I'm doing, etc.) or just trying to avoid responding because anxiety. Sometimes I get nervous because I don't know if I want to hang out with that person on that specific day or I'm worried I'll forget about it. Other times it's just because I'm trying to relax and it stresses me out a lot when I don't have enough alone time. Being around people drains me.
Girls can be super difficult to understand sometimes but that really comes down to how well you know them and how they act in certain situations. Currently, she needs space emotionally/romantically to figure herself out. But give her a few weeks or months. If she goes back to her ex or finds another guy, those are clear signals she's not interested in you. If she stays alone or gets closer with you, take baby steps and be patient. Go at her pace. Or you could just move on and find someone who is ready for the same thing you are.
I agree with you. The only reason i entertained this was cause she said a few weeks she was single and she wanted to date older now (I’m 4 years older)
It's possible that the girl you're hanging out with is not as interested in pursuing a relationship or dating as you are. However, it's also possible that she is simply busy or not as responsive over text as you would like.
Here are a few things you could consider doing in this situation:
1. Have a conversation: If you're feeling confused or unsure about where you stand with this girl, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with her. Try to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational way, and simply ask if she's interested in pursuing a relationship or if she sees you as more of a friend.
2. Set boundaries: If you're feeling frustrated or resentful about always having to initiate hangouts or workouts, it may be helpful to set clear boundaries and communicate your expectations. Let her know that you need more communication and engagement from her, and that you would like her to initiate plans sometimes as well.
3. Focus on your own well-being: Remember to prioritize your own emotional and mental health in this situation. If you're feeling drained or unhappy with the way things are going, consider taking a step back and focusing on your own needs and desires.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what you want for your future and for your relationships. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you, and who is willing to put in the effort to build a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Sounds like a sure thing to me that she's interested. If she wasn't interested, she wouldn't respond at all
Why would she go MIA for half day or more when I ask? Knowing that’s she’s on her phone. She’ll say yeah but she’s ignoring the message for some time
Because she got better shi to do than answer you RIGHT NOW. And perhaps checking her schedule and doing other shi