How can I tell a girl that I really like her?

[Anonymous]

There's a girl I've liked for 9 years now.

She's almost 24 and I'm 33.

From the first time I saw her, I was attracted to her.

I love her.

I've never had a girlfriend, and I'm terribly shy around women.

I don't feel capable of approaching them to start a conversation.

I don't know what to say, I get tongue-tied, and I don't think clearly.

I have a diagnosis of mild autism and ADHD, which causes a lot of cognitive difficulties, and all of this contributes to my shyness.

Although I've learned to relate better to people, I'm still not very skilled.

My posture betrays me, eye contact makes me uncomfortable, and to top it off, my voice doesn't help me either.

I speak somewhat muddled.

She works at the mini market one block away from my house, and she also posts videos on TikTok.

I've thought about messaging her on there and confessing that I've liked her for a long time.

I don't know what to do.

What's stopping me is that I don't know what to say.

It's not enough for someone to tell me to be myself because I freeze up and get nervous.

I've thought about trying some drug that would take away the nervousness.

Once when I was slightly drunk, I felt really relaxed and confident.

I wish I could feel like that when talking to that girl, but without being intoxicated by anything.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel nervous about expressing your feelings to this girl, especially given your diagnosis and shyness around women. Here are a few tips that may be helpful:

1. Start small: If you're not comfortable approaching her in person, try messaging her on TikTok or another social media platform. Keep the message simple and friendly, and don't put too much pressure on yourself to come up with the perfect words. Just say hello and see how she responds.

2. Be honest: If you decide to tell her that you've liked her for a long time, be honest about your feelings and why you haven't acted on them sooner. Let her know that you're shy and nervous around women, but that you're working on it.

3. Keep it respectful: It's important to remember that she may not feel the same way about you, and that's okay. Be respectful of her feelings and boundaries, and don't pressure her to respond in a certain way.

4. Practice: If you're really nervous about talking to her, try practicing what you want to say beforehand. Write out a script, practice in front of a mirror, or even rehearse with a friend or family member. This can help you feel more prepared and confident when the time comes.

5. Seek support: If you're really struggling with shyness and nervousness, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can help you develop coping strategies and work on building your confidence and social skills.

Remember that it's okay to feel nervous and vulnerable when expressing your feelings to someone you like. The most important thing is to be honest and respectful, and to take things at a pace that feels comfortable for both you and her. Good luck! Also, be confident in yourself man because a woman admire that in a man.

[exitseven]

okay- it is pretty normal to be afraid at this. I had a friend years ago that was a great inspiration to me. He used to ask out a lot of girls and he used to get shut down lots of times but he went out on a lot of dates. He told me that the worst thing that can happen is that she says no.

Just screw up all your courage and ask her if she would like to go for lunch sometime. Even if she says no at least you will have some peace of mind.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[tesniolite]

loving how almost everybody hasn't acknowledged you fell for her when SHE WAS 15 and YOU WERE 24

WHAT?

[NotTacocaT6969]

You’re infatuated not in love.


Huge difference and huge age gap…

[pink_blah]

I agree, the 9 year age gap is crazy

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You sound like a fucking creep. Stay the hell away from her, you sick fuck

[Asker]

Yes, I am, and I will be close to her, I will also be close to your mother and your daughters.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are NOT in love! You don't know this girl, so stop saying you love her.

[gorydetails]

go talk to her in person. Don't be a loser in her DMs

[In_Trance]

9 years?
You don't like her that much if you've waited that long

[pink_blah]

You liked her when she was 15 and you were 24?