How do I like/accept being a tall woman?

[Anonymous]

For reference I’m 5’9”-5’10”. I genuinely hate my height. That’s always been something I’ve never been able to accept or like about myself. I was teased from kindergarten to 4th grade because I was the tallest kid in my grade, I’m taller than everyone on my moms side of the family, & I’m taller than my boyfriend (only by an inch or so). I’ve never been comfortable being really tall. When I first started dating, guys always preferred shorter girls or they’d cheat on me for someone shorter (not that my height was the reason they cheated but it was always something I compared). My current boyfriend we’ve been together almost 5yrs & have 2 kids together. His ex’s were shorter than him. I don't know I just hate being bigger than him. He’s a really skinny guy & I’m thicker I guess (I’m not obese or overweight but I have meat on my bones). & I just hate it. I wish I was shorter so I felt like I was more his type. I know I’m probably being ridiculous bc “he’s been w you for 5yrs”. At the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me for 5 months w someone shorter than me & we ended up breaking up a couple years ago & he dated someone shorter than him. So yea, I’ve never felt like I was his type. I want to feel confident in my height but I don't know how to. I want to wear heels someday but I know I’d have a mental break down seeing myself over 6ft tall.

[Anonymous]

Well this is just a choice that you make.

You are always going to be tall, there is nothing you can do about it but even if there was like a surgery I still wouldn't recommend it because that isn't the problem, the problem is in your mind and it is that you have decided that there is something wrong with you and you choose to feed this idea.

It will continue and get progressively more consuming the more you feed into it.

So do whatever you are going to do.

You could just as easily be obessing about your hair colour, it is literally the same thing so when you ask how do you do it, you already know how because you aren't doing that about your hair or some other thing.

You just don't do it.

When you find yourself doing it you just correct yourself, oh Im doing that thing again.. I don't do that anymore and then you do and think about something else and over time it will fade away.

[Berethor]

Tallness is a masculine trait, but you already have 2 kids, so you fulfil the main goal in life.

https://www.worlddata.info/average-bodyheight.php

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/06/03/japan-low-births-population-decline-2021/

[FunkyMonkee]

At least you've GOT someone AND kids!! I was the tallest kid ion MY school and, quite often, got beat up for it because if you can beat up the tall kid, that makes you tough! except that, in this case, the tall kid wasn't INTERESTED in fighting so, it was already an unfair fight!
I've been lonely most of my life and it looks like I'm gonna die that way!! I've only ever had 3 girlfriend's and all 3 of them were already married at the time!! I'd LOVE to have kids!! But, it looks like THAT'S never gonna happen, either!!
I'm told girls LOVE tall guys!! REALLY? Couldn't prove it by me!! I'm 6' 9" and have NO ONE!!! First two girlfriend's lasted about 3 months @. Third lasted 10 years, technically, but started to push away from me after about 4 years and then started cheating on me near the end of those 10 years.

[NamerOfStars]

I think the problem is that you're looking in the wrong direction- you're looking for approval from other people, instead of from yourself. WHY would you have a mental breakdown seeing yourself over six feet tall? Because you think others wouldn't desire you? Okay, that may be true- but do you not desire yourself? Can you not stand on your own?

[LiamJHayden]

Not sure what to tell you. I dated a girl who was 6'1-1/2, just a hair shorter than my 6'2. She chose to embrace it. Would wear heels and did not care if she was taller than everyone else wherever we went.

[kellytheman]

I actually do like a tall woman especially if she has long beutiful legs. Just show off more legs like wearing mini skirts or short dresses and shorts that make you feel good sexy and like yourself.

[MementoMori777]

Isn't that the height recommendation to be a female model in certain industries?

[Mangospacho]

You have two children. Apparently, someone already was able to accept you being a tall woman.

[Redstang88]

Dated a few girls around that height, never bothered me

[Jamie05rhs]

He cheated on you and then you had two kids with him?

[msc545]

For many men, myself included, height is sexy.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

It’s an Optimus Prime reference because he is maybe 30 meters. That’s cool right?

[Andrewsmith14]

Where are you from, The Philippians?

[Anonymous]

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