It's frustrating. A person seemingly to appear show attraction. You post something and they like your stuff. Friends for several years Not posting excessively mind you, but then start displaying hot and cold behavior in person at work most of the time avoiding you. Then other times initiates a conversation!
On social media, likes everybody elses post except yours. For really no good reason.
Waited around a little while and posted again to test if they snoozed me and nothing. Even intriguing stuff that would get a reaction.
I'm married too. It's always good to have 'insurance' in case something happens. You can have someone help you recover emotionally etc. So every now and then these posts are worded very carefully almost a general type indirectly telling her more about me and my thoughts and intents I keep it PG nothing inappropriate limited to things like music movies opinions on things etc.
Posts can only be seen by her too. I have it customized that way. I wonder if somehow she can tell that only she can see it? I wonder if thats why she's stopped interacting? Anyone confirm that? Does it notify them? Drives me nuts.
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Feels like I've heard this same response before.
what about this? We were having a snack day and work and the manager sends out a reminder email that this was the day we are having snacks. I then write to her asking if she brought any goodies. She then replies yes i brought some donuts cookies and pretzels with some Christmas trip dip its really yummy and some cheddar cheese puffs with a smiley emoji.
I then to keep it going say, ok sounds good.. I'll be sure to try some. She doesn't reply anything back. Hours later she comes by asking how their day is going and seemed like it was to see who all got something to eat. I only had my plate with food she said she brought on it. She didn't say anything but she sure was looking.
Hours later I strike up a teams conversation stating. Hi.. that Christmas tree dip was good. It compliments the preztels. Cheddar cheese bites were good too as love cheddar cheese. I could almost make a meal from snacking. I didn't eat all that much for lunch.
She then says awesome! glad you liked it!! I didn't eat all that much either. I say well i had ate a lemon loaf before I had come to work so that and snacking Im pretty full.
she's replies i love lemon things! I then say yeah i go to starbucks and they probably know my name i go so much (mind you each of these comments she's either smiling laughing or liking them).
I said between that and coffee lol. She says i dont drink coffee at all but my husband does. I hit the brakes and just quit talking at that point feeling completly embarrassed like i did something wrong at that point.
Hours later leaving to go home, i forgot all about it and hoping nothing negative would come from it, I pack up my things and head to the door, she comes running out of her towards me trying to flag me down and says here do you want these (it was those cheddar bites) she seemed determined i get them with other people standing around watching the entire interaction.
Bro, you're a fucking scumbag. Boo hoo... this married woman won't have an affair with me (a married man)? Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit. You just keep on being frustrated that your boss isn't a cheater. I don't know how you asked this like it was a legitimate question.
Yes this a legit question. I see nothing wrong with it. If other people are around it seems this unspoken thing where we don't even acknowledge each other. Feels hurtful too almost like I can feel the vibe. I do notice though the moment they leave and about ten seconds later it seems she will jump at the chance to talk. Soon as someone enters the room we kind of just end the conversation. We both don't speak to hardly anyone. Everybody has their own routine and the interaction no one suspects a thing.
And yes this what the days are being spent on. When I'm waiting on more work to do. Then distant at home just enough not raise suspicion. All the while lay there at night just dreaming about what to do next. Thoughts permeate when I get up throughout throughout day. I even ask her work things all the time just to be asking... as she does the same to me... asking questions she already knows the answer to.
Last week she came by the printer that was next to me (there are several near her office) so there would really be no reason to walk out of the way to use the one beside of me. She just had entered the dept and a few minutes later she does this. She claims to have forgotten where her access card was and in order to secure print she needed to login. She always had her card with her. She turns to me and says hey can I use your card so I can print? I went to hand it to her and she stands there grabs it and sort of lingers with holding it. I'm thinking are you going to take it lol. She proceeded to login and get her paper. Hands the card back and blushes and says so sorry I wast sure I don't print all that often.. well have a good day!
Mind you, this is all in the same day where I walk in from lunch and it just so happened she was walking out of her office at that moment and out of the corner of my eye I notice that soon as she became aware I was headed in the direction she would soon be going, I seen her go quickly go back in her office and start looking out her window just sort of hovering by the exit. I proceed to my desk and I see her walk by the area and go out the door. In my mind as if she seen me she avoided me and waiting until I left the vincinty so she wouldn't have to talk to me.
But the whole interaction was strange. She doesn't seem like the person to avoid someone and she usually chats and mosts times initiates the conversation! Not sure what that was about. Too much hot cold.
Boo triggered @SteveSmith1985
@Cherkez must be I guess they know someone like this?
Anyways today she walks by and double take me smiled and walked off in a hurry. She was talking to the lady who sits next to me complaining about her husband about frustrated she was at him etc for about 15 minutes. Out of the corner of my eye I kept seeing her face my direction like every so often adjusting her hair. I kept listening pretending not to notice. I felt the burn when somebody is looking at you. I'd make occasional eye contact when I got the courage to do so. When I did eyes met and she looked away quick. I felt my face get real hot in the moment. It's hard to look at her sometimes.
You feel what you feel, but what did you expect?
Well to take time to respond just a little. Out of the blue send me a Skype message see how my day is going or something. I know she's a manager with a ton to do but only takes a second or two to hit like. But there is time to look at everyone else's. That isn't right.
You don't have a personal relationship
I thought we did, enough for her to be minding her business warming food and turning around and sharing out of the blue hat she's having a event with extended family and she's using her moms recipe on making potato salad. Then a few seconds later she says oh hey I don't know if you've ever had strawberry crust cake but I'm making it. It's the first time trying it and I'm a little nervous how it will turn out! I then day aww it will be okay you can do it. You'll do a real good job, I bet it'll be good! She then responds well we'll see! Laughing all in the process.
I also thought since she is in fact the manager she can reserve a conference room and we can spend time privately somewhere. No one would ever know the wiser.
Are you just trolling?
No I don't believe so. I ask this question genuinely?
You can feel what you feel but you're expectations are unrealistic. She probably realized she had overstepped and has properly pulled back.
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