Will I never know I guess?

[mikjones123]

Go to a bar on my street, I'm a regular. Chatting with this bartender. In middle of convo she was like let's exchange contact info. I was like cool, we exchange numbers. Not common for bartenders (especially female to do that). Two guys come in after, one says he is on instagram, she says I'll follow you, he asks for her number, she said I don't like giving out my number. Next day she even texts me, says nice meeting you, etc. I thought she may be interested. I add her on snap, she adds me back. She even replies to my story. She wasn't interested, in the end though. No big deal. I get it, it happens. Maybe she wanted to be friends (which still doesn't make sense, as I'm a regular and live right by, so she would see me again), or she lost interest, or she has some stuff going on in her life which doesn't want her to date. I know some girls like attention, but if she was like that, she would have given that other guy her number I feel. I guess I'll never really know right? Could be anything, just got to move on and all.

[Anonymous]

It's possible that the bartender was interested in you initially, but it's also possible that she was just being friendly and exchanged contact information with you as a way to build a relationship with a regular customer. It's difficult to know for sure what her intentions were, but ultimately it doesn't matter. The important thing is that you respected her boundaries and didn't push for something she wasn't interested in.

It's also possible that she had other reasons for not wanting to pursue a romantic relationship, such as personal issues or simply not feeling a strong connection with you. It's important to remember that attraction and compatibility are complex and multifaceted, and not everyone will be interested in dating us even if we feel a connection.

In any case, it's best to move on and focus on other opportunities for connection and romance. Don't dwell on what could have been or second-guess yourself. Keep putting yourself out there and meeting new people, and eventually you'll find someone who is interested in you and shares your feelings.

[mikjones123]

Great answer. Yeah I found out after she has some crazy stuff going on in life. Could be that, I'll never know. Was worth a shot though.

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable to feel disappointed when things don't work out the way we hoped or expected. However, it's important to remember that we can't control other people's actions or circumstances, and that sometimes things just don't work out for reasons beyond our control.

It's great that you took a chance and put yourself out there, even if it didn't lead to a romantic connection. Remember that every interaction and experience is an opportunity to learn and grow, and that taking risks and trying new things is an important part of personal growth and self-discovery.

Keep an open mind and heart, and continue to pursue your interests and passions. The right person and connection will come along at the right time, and in the meantime, focus on building a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.

[mikjones123]

Thanks, yeah males sense, the crazy stuff she dealing with is most likely the reason and all. Could have made her lose interest. It happens, thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

Right. You're welcome! It's important to remember that everyone has their own challenges and struggles, and that these can affect the way they interact with others. It's possible that the bartender's personal circumstances or challenges played a role in her level of interest or engagement with you, but it's also important to remember that there are many factors that contribute to attraction and relationship dynamics.

Ultimately, it's up to each individual to decide what feels right and comfortable for them in terms of pursuing relationships and connections. Stay positive and keep an open mind, and trust that the right person and connection will come along at the right time.