How would you put someone in their place?

[Anonymous]

I have this jealous friend, who I noticed is definitely not above doing things like sabotage.

She recently messaged me out of nowhere, and I'd rather ignore her as I know she's deliberately trying to be disrespectful.

Should I?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Why are you friends with someone who you acknowledge sabotages you? Are you that starved for attention? Kick her to the curb of you deserve everything you get.

[Asker]

I'm not lol she reached out to ME read the post

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah... i did... literally your first words:

"I have this jealous friend"

That's why she reached out to you. Strangers and people I dislike don't reach out to me because the former can't and I make it clear that I find the latter morally bankrupt, that we have nothing in common, and I don't waste my time entertaining my moral inferior.

I mean now that we are where we are, you have to do damage control and expect she'll reach out again, in which case still ignore her, but ACTUALLY cut this tumor out of your life.

There was some reason she thought you'd respond. Figure out what that is and resolve it.

[Asker]

Nah we were friends and then I phased her out. Now she's contacting me out of nowhere, almost certainly because she has some selfish interest.

[BoopBoopBeep]

F her then. Block her. You don't owe her anything. I wouldn't even acknowledge she's speaking to you if it were at a shared event.

[Singing_Hollow]

You call that a friend? lol no true friend would do that to someone else. Thats just toxic and unhealthy for you. Get rid of her she doesn't bring positivity into your life

[Anonymous]

Of course you can, you aren’t obligated to maintain a relationship with anyone that you don’t want to. She sounds toxic anyway.

[Asker]

The thing is, we are part of the same group of people. Hence if she realizes I don't like her she will definitely try to sabotage.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Then you'll quickly find out who your friends are.

Also it sounds like you probably need new friends. My friends don't hang out with trash that tries to sabotage one of us.

[Asker]

Something I've often found when dealing with large groups of people, is when they don't know you very well or vice versa, jealous people try to sabotage - because the others don't know you well enough to vouch for you or against you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I agree, that's WHY i don't associate with jealous people.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with boopboopbeep, ultimately you’ll not only see who your real friends are, but if these are genuine people you even want in your inner circle.

There’s worse things than not having friends to hang out with, and in the grand scheme of things you want the folks who can think for themselves and not base their opinion of you off what someone else says.

I’d never ever ever stop being friends with someone based on another persons gossip and slander, that’s childish shit. I’d rather have the friends who come to me directly to get my side of the story, and you should want that as well. So if this person does do some shady shit, then sit back and get ready to see who’s real and who’s not.

[Pinay_ako]

Cut them out of your life. That’s their place

[Asker]

Can I message you? I'd like to tell someone what she did that made me suspect she was jealous to begin with

[Pinay_ako]

Ok ok