Was it wrong for me to tell my ex that women were meant to procreate?

Question

So I met my ex about a year ago. Everything was great! I knew after a few months of dating I wanted to marry her and have kids to carry on my legacy. The problem was she didn’t want any kids. So because she said she didn’t want kids I didn’t propose yet and put the ring on hold. I was raised to know that women were mean to procreate! None of us would here without women. While we were out one night, at a restaurant, I brought up the conversation about kids again. I told her that I didn’t think it was normal for her to not want kids. That it’s literally a woman’s nature to want children. I asked if she had some hidden trauma from childhood or something. I even offered to pay to get her therapy to work out any internal issues that she may have!! She went off!! While in the restaurant in front of everybody!!! Screaming saying “ is that all women were meant for”…. then got up and stormed out the restaurant in her car and drove while leaving me to pay for everything…she blocked me too! All I wanted to do was help her because I care. I wanted to give her some time to cool off and try to contact her from another number or go to her job. I really don’t wanna lose her and really don’t know how to fix this. Was I wrong for saying how things naturally should be for women? Or maybe the way I said it was wrong? She needs professional help!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, you were wrong. Not everyone want the same thing and you just need to understand and accept this. Wanting kids doesn’t come automatically with being a woman. A lot of women, just like a lot of men, do not want kids for a variety of different reasons. Just not having a desire to have kids, wanting to focus on other things in life, not wanting to take on that responsibility, not being able to afford it, fesr of pregnancy/birth, fear of not being a good parent or whatever. If you want kids and she doesn’t then you’re not a good match and you need to move on and find a different woman. In my opinions big things like wanting kids or not should be talked about early on so you don’t end up wasting time on being with someone who doesn’t want the same thing as yourself.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

"I wanted to marry her and have kids to carry on my legacy." Who in the hell would want kids to carry on YOUR legacy. You are the one that needs the professional help.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

"All I wanted to do was help her because I care." No, you f***ing didn't. You wanted to shame her into giving you what you wanted and she didn't. You are the one who needs professional help to understand that not everyone wants what you want, and there is nothing wrong with those who don't.

"I was raised to know that women were mean[t] to procreate!" Maybe you were. As an adult you should know better by now. Meant to? Meaning intended to? By whom? No one is meant to do anything. We're just here.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

No dude, YOU need professional help, not everyone wants kids.

I don't want kids, and there is nothing wrong with me either, it just doesn't fit into my lifestyle.

If you want kids, go find someone else who does too, and leave your ex alone.

Redstang88 · Answer

Yes. You’re not trying to help her, you’re trying to force her to do what you want.  Despite your opinion, some people don’t want kids and there’s nothing wrong with that.