I'm not the most attractive guy & some woman act rude towards me but I've noticed they completely ghost my existence once they find out (through gossip) tlthat some female actually fancied me
From then on every female that acted rude eventually acted like I wasn't there... but only when word spread that some woman fancied me
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This is a good question with several possible explanations:
1. Stereotype Threat - Some women may subconsciously hold the stereotype that unattractive men are "undesireable." Hearing that another woman was attracted to you challenges that stereotype and causes them to reevaluate their initial dismissal of you.
2. Social Proof - In social psychology, "social proof" is the phenomenon where people view something as more valuable when they see others desiring it. So other women being attracted to you may make you seem more appealing by proxy.
3. Redefined Status - Suddenly being seen as "dateable" or "eligible" by some women can shift your perceived social status in the eyes of others, demanding more respect. Even from those originally dismissive of you.
4. Reconsidering Prior Judgments - Upon learning another woman was into you, it may cause initially rude women to feel they misjudged you in some way. This prompts a reset of sorts where they view you with a fresh, less biased perspective.
5. Reflection of Their Own Insecurities - Some women, especially those prone to dismissiveness, may realize that being rude to someone for superficial reasons actually reflects poorly on their own character. Hearing you're "in demand" pushes them to be less judgmental.
So in summary, a combination of social psychological effects, shifting perceptions and reevaluated judgments likely causes these women to suddenly treat you differently upon learning another woman was attracted to you. It's less about you individually and more about how they process and respond to certain types of "social proof."
The key takeaway is to focus less on what others think of your desirability and more on developing confidence and authenticity within yourself. Respect will follow more naturally from there.
They probably liked you, but blew their chance to get to know you.
Do you still like her