Not all women want to be strong and independent. But they have to be.
Young women don’t have the same societal support structure that enabled the stay-at-home lifestyle their mothers may have enjoyed. The cost of living is higher, single women are expected to work, and the dating market has morphed into a hook-up culture. Unless you’re one of the lucky few women who has found their forever partner early in life, most women have to weed through men who may not have their best interest at heart while trying to support themselves.
The 3rd leading cause of death for young women ages 1-19 is homicide. 76% of female murders are committed by a man that they know. Of that 76% statistic, 34% of those women were killed by a romantic partner. (https://www.cdc.gov/women/lcod/2018/all-races-origins/index.htm) Women need to be strong. Women need to be smart.
When you expand the age range to 44, homicide ranks in at number 5. Women understandably, shouldn’t blindly trust men to protect them. (https://epublications.marquette.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1489&context=psych_fac ) This reinforces the fact that young women need to be strong and independent. Not to mention the fact that when women are assaulted or attacked in public, men habitually do not interfere to protect them. This male bystander effect forces women into a position where the perpetrator can successfully commit public assault with an audience without intervention. (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5868745/)
For better or for worse, times have changed. Men and women have changed. Men and women can enter relationships with each other and still be strong and independent. Women need to be able to still be themselves while in a relationship with another person. The same is true for men.
All in all, it would be nice to have a partner that enables me to stay at home and not have to work. This means that they have the power over the household finances. I am taking a risk placing my agency and autonomy in the hands of this person. Statistically speaking, I should not take this risk.
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Nope not all women want to be independent. I'm a stay at home mom so it's definitely possible. The girl in the video could choose a different life if she wanted
I don't think so. I think feminism pressures women to be strong and independent, but most women I know aren't thrilled about it. That's why there is this soft girl trend currently. They are tired of believing that they have to do it all alone.
no they don't. they wanna be loved and validated like pretty much every human being. being strong is not something people "like to be". it's a necessary evil.
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Frankly, most of us don't deserve a stable relationship with the sabotage and self destructive behavior we seem to bring to relationships.
Girls are no long taught to take responsibility or give deference to people with more experience or wisdom. Everything is "the patriarchy's" fault, not their spoiled nature or unearned inflated self-worth.
I have seen my much older sisters and my mom deal with men my entire life. I don't remember ever seeing them apologize for anything they've done to the men or boys in their lives, but I've seen the opposite happen numerous times.
Even in my friends, especially in college, the opinions toward guys was similar for the most part, save for a girl here of there.
I don't want to end up as a sarcastic, wine swirling harpy living alone with a fresh rotation of boyfriends that I can ghost when I get bored.
I want a committed family, with kids, probably less wealthy and maybe less "strength" and "independence" but greater fulfillment.
What corporate ratrace culture has sold us is toxic.
I do sometimes because I sometimes feel like if I don’t pay for my stuff then people will hold it over my head and be like “well I paid for x y z so you owe me” or like that thing isn’t really mine. It’s nice to have someone to depend on when I need it, but I also like being independent for certain things like paying for my own stuff most of the time or doing things on my own and not really having to rely on others too much. I won’t fight someone if they want to pay for me, but I won’t just not reach for my wallet either. Plus I like working because I feel like I really earned the money I have.
That's like asking if children like to go to school lol. Most hate it, but education is still important. Almost everyone, including men, would choose to just stay at home and chill if they could.
The woman in the video is speaking nonsense. She can still opt out of going to college and choose to stay at home for her husband and kids if she wants to, as an adult she has the choice to pick that lifestyle for herself and also take all the risks that come with that in the present day.
The best way to put it is that feminism has given women the choice to stay at home and cook and clean but men no longer have the choice to beat their wives or sell them in the market like they could in the 1800's.
I'm not a feminist so I don't walk around with a neon sign over my head screaming "I am a strong and independent woman and I don't need a man".
Healthy relationships are about depending on one another. I can be a strong woman and still be dependent on my man just like he is dependent on me. That's how it's supposed to be. That's how soulmates work.
yes we do its the only way foward. if women are not strong we would be completely destroy by a man at some point in their life. i have never met a woman who hasn't either been abused, cheated on, ghosted, insulted, controled, bullied, raped, used, mocked, belitled, druged, or worst by a man at least once in her life. we have to be strong for our survival.
I'm grateful that many women can be nowadays, and many don't "have to" be either. For those go-getter women, let them. For those women who prefer to be stand-backs, let those women stand back. I see how they all have their use. Think about it from a tax man perspective, I'm not one, and it adds less pieces to a puzzle. Lol, the agenda's out there 👀👀
What she means to say is that she want's to be a "wifey". Which is great, if she can find the charm to get herself a man into that.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/ULDiDxgYLgINO. I've been single over 7 years. Despite being an attractive a loyal girl. I always get slightly jealous when others talk about their "supportive" spouse.
Basically when you're coupled up yku have "Social Security"
Someone to help carry the load, 2 Brian's are better than 1.
Depends on what scenario we’re talking about. For example, wanna be strong and independent on making a living for myself and being able to provide for myself in the near future (since I’m still a minor obv) but then again I’d wanna be dependent on my partner whenever I need to, the same way he’d want to depend on me whenever he needs it.
As a woman do you really want to leave your little babies in the care of some other woman? A woman who at best only half pays attention to them as they try to juggle 15 other kids. Something you basically buy a new car every year for said service.
What kind of mom doesn't want to be there for her baby? So see her smile, to nurture her when she cries, to insure she is always loved?It kind of happens over the course of life. Most of us didn't have the luxury of choosing. It became a necessity.
NO THEY DONT! women dont mean what they say most of the time. When they say these things is because they want men to step up. But men listen to women like they're men.
THEY'RE NOT!
I wouldn’t call myself a feminist, I was just brought up to be independent and I’m an only child and autistic, so I’m used to thinking for myself. Some women do, others don’t.
I think most don't, but I think a notable and unfortunate amount of women (often from a very early age) are told not being strong and independent is bad and shameful, incentivizing these girls/women down a particular route.
That's not to say there aren't naturally occuring strong and independent women, there are, I just think most naturally are not and that's okay. It's admirable, even. I even have fonder expressions but I'll bite my tongue for the time being.No, there is nothing better than being dependent on someone's income, mood and whims.
Some do, but traditional women want her husband to work and support the family and in return, she takes care of the house and children and gives him sex
Of course they do lol! 🤣
The woke BS feminist movement jargon was totally bought into and now most women are suddenly realising that they actually do need men in their lives.
Wake up ladies 🚺 🤪
yes i like being strong and independent because for all my life all i've been doing is having to wait on men, wait for them to do this or that, when really i can just go do it myself and get it done faster. i was sick of it.
Lol. I think you mean just being a functional adult, but nowadays that’s seen as “masculine” and “strong and independent.”
If she makes me happy and we get along I really don't care if she's strong and independent or broke.
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