Girlfriend claimed to want to be friends an want space, a few days after no contact claimed we were still together , but she's still acting distant?

[Anonymous]

She claims I'm being controlling for having boundaries
which include me staying away from her friends who disrespect me, so i cut them out of my life.
While i didn't tell her to cut them off either , i did explain to her it would cause problems.
i tried calling out her friends behavior but they act very underhanded
She continued to contact me for the past few days without a response until yesterday when she called and messaged me a lot. I decided to answer
she claimed to miss me and love me.
I was out and she asked to call her when i was home
when i got home a few hours later she refuse to answer and told me she preferred to text
Told me she was confused about us and she felt i was controlling
even though i literally have pulled back and focused on myself without contact

haven't spoken to her today.
I feel its all just bs to keep me from moving on
Do you any of guys have a response i can say to cut through the bs without sounding angry?
I feel like I'm putting my life on hold for someone who can't even shoot it straight with me

if she wants to leave its ok but anytime i tell her that she says she doesn't want to.

ps. tried to keep the peace but they aren't doing the same

[HollyK21]

I think you two need to break up and stick to it. She’s right in the respect you’re being controlling when it comes to her friends, because you’re basically giving her an ultimatum: you or her friends. Dress it up however you want but that’s what it is, which won’t sit well with most women. At the same time, she’s not being great either, I’m not a fan of people who straddle the fence at the cost of their partner’s mental health. You’re either in or out, and while yes I get what’s bothering her, you have your qualms as well and it’s all a mess.

[Asker]

Her friend invites friends out that have expressed interest in her. While she doesn't reciprocate isn't it inappropriate or should i just go along with it?

[Asker]

and also hit on her

[HollyK21]

Oh wow, well if they’re hitting on her then that’s a whole different story, I thought it was just her hanging with the girls. So with that in mind, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. Personally I won’t get rid of any friends I had before my relationship, BUT if that’s the dynamic, where they’re flirting and hitting on me then I would of course not keep them.
That’s just a simple matter of respect, so for her to allow that even if (to your knowledge) she isn’t reciprocating isn’t cool. I get the feeling that she’s still hanging on to the single part of her life rather than creating boundaries with those men, so if that’s what she wants then let her go. It’s better than worrying what she’s doing or who she’s with.
Especially if she’s lied, there’s no way to trust her even if she says where she goes, how can you know for sure? That’s too much stress dude.

[Asker]

yup you are right unfortunately feels like time wasted. thank you for taking the time

[HollyK21]

No problem dude, I’m sure she will give you all her “I love and miss you” but you aren’t an option and she shouldn’t be allowed to string you along with her indecisiveness. You can do better than that🙏 wish you luck!

[Anonymous]

You need to leave this poor woman alone. No females need a man like you in their life, you are toxic.

[Asker]

is it ok if i hangout with girls that have shown interest in me aslong as my friends are there?
because she doesn't like it so i dont do it , also my friends don't talk badly of her.

[Iron_Man]

You guys need to talk face-to-face, have a serious conversation friends should never interfere in a relationship

[Avicenna]

Sounds like you need to have a frank discussion

[Asker]

I have asked her for one but the only response is she is confused

[Avicenna]

Well, give her some time to figure it out.