So I’m pretty sure my sister’s friend likes me. She’s 30 and I’m 26. We’ve known each other for like 9 years but this year we’ve spent way more time together as a group. She comments on how tall and nice I am. She laughs at even my stupid jokes, makes prolonged eye contact, and has engaged in subtly touching me. In addition to that, she remembers the smallest details of things I say. At the same time though, she’s made comments in the past of “oh you should date that girl” when I mention another girl that exists in my life. Even if they are just my friend. We’ve only hung out once alone, and that was to plan a surprise for my sister. It seems like she may be pushing me away right now though, because she totally ignored my last text. My text said “was thinking about you and hope you’re doing okay”. I sent this due to a loss she experienced. Meanwhile she’s still texting my sister. Is she just trying to play hard to get? Some context about her childhood is that she didn’t have many friends or guys in her life. She’s been in one relationship that lasted 5 years. Normally you wouldn’t expect a 30 year old to play hard to get, but maybe her past has led to this mindset?
Girls, Does she like me, but is just unsure?
What Girls Said
If she is going through a loss then I can understand why she might not be in the mood to answer texts. I don't know the extent of the loss but that is a tough time for anyone to go through. As for the rest of what you said it really depends. You say that you have known each other for nine years. So during those nine years has her behavior changed or has she been pretty much the same the whole time. For example you mention she gets a little touchy with you. Has she always been that way or is that new? I think that will tell you a lot about whether she has developed feelings or just wants to be friends.
She lost her father. So heavy loss. But like I said she has no problem texting my sister about random stuff.
As for her behavior, she never used to touch me like that. She would sort of flirt, but I didn’t think anything of it until recently because it started to become more obvious. She would DM me on instagram sometimes even when she barely knew me like that. Telling me that I remind her of movie characters and sending me things she’d know I like. But we really didn’t know each other like that at that time
That is a big loss. I wouldn't push it too much even if she texts your sister. I bet they are way closer since they were friends first I assume. So if this is new behavior then yeah there is a good chance that maybe she has developed some feelings. If it happened all along I would say no.
My family has even commented that she seems to really like me. Also her sister met me for the first time at their dad’s memorial service and the first thing she said to me was “she loves you”
She used her name but I won’t share her first name here
No that's fine. No need to use someone's name. I would think this would mean she likes you then if others are indicating that.
Yeah I think so too. We had a tentative hangout planned for this weekend at a dog park. This was prior to her father dying. I’m going to call her tomorrow and see if she’s still feeling up to that. If she says no, I’ll probably back off until she reaches back out to me
I think that is a solid plan. Put it out there and if she needs more time give it to her. She will get back to normal eventually. Some people just need more time than others and that is a huge loss.
I agree, especially because her father was completely healthy 😔
In general in the past, I’ve struggled with showing enough direct interest in girls so I just don’t want to be passive
Oh man. That is really hard if he was healthy. Damn. Well don't worry about being passive right now. She needs to deal with this how she wants. You can probably just tell her if there is anything you can do to ask and you will be there for support. That's about all you can say right now.
Very true. Good advice. It’s been just over 2 weeks since he passed away so still relatively fresh