Is this rude and disrespectful or should I let it slide?

Question

So this girl I've been trying to get on a second date has been pretty flaky. The week after we went out , she agreed to go on another date. The day before the 2nd date she says she needs to get an endoscopy, then the day of the date says she has then has a cold. No hey lets reschedule or anything.

During the week I ask if we can talk on the phone later, and she agrees. As I'm getting out of the gym to call and let her know, she says she can't now as her brother and his wife just showed up to go out to dinner. She says she can call me tomorrow.

The next day after some texting I say I'm out of the gym in 5 , are you free for a call. No response. I call anyways, 2 rings then to VM. 3 hours later she says " At a dinner at friends house" No hey I saw your call or call back.

Next day she texts "hi" again. Should I even ask her out again, is this disrespectful? Just ignore her?

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Aww man, that's wack. This chick is clearly playing games with you dawg. I'd be pretty pissed in your shoes.

A few things stand out to me:

- Flaking last minute both times you tried to link is whack. Shows she ain't serious bout hanging for real.

- Always has some random excuse about family or friends when you try to chat proper too. Feels like she's blowin you off, my guy.

- No effort to reschedule or hit you back promptly is mad disrespectful. She could at least try keep you in the loop.

- Just saying "hi" the next day like nothing happened? Super sketch move dude.

Personally I wouldn't waste my time asking her out again bro. She already showed you twice she ain't about it. Some chicks just wanna play the field and lead dudes on, ya feel me?

You can do way better than that, my man! Hit up some other birds who actually wanna kick it for real. This one ain't worth the drama, in my opinion. Keep it pushin and you'll find a girl who treats you right g.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Once or maybe twice is accident. This is lack of respect plain and simple. And it's either deliberate or it's not. Either way it's not your problem. I would just quit associating with her. Normally i'd say politely tell her i don't think we're compatible. But like @provokeesmokee said. I think she's going to respond with hostility.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

It's up to you. Ghosting her would be well within your rights.

I don't think anything constructive will come of this, but I think telling her something like "hey, I enjoyed meeting you, but I'm not feeling a connection. I wish you the best. Take care!" would be fine. It's clearly shutting the door.

I don't know why but I'm getting the vibe she may respond horribly to rejection. So heads up on that, and don't let yourself get sucked into a pity party of hers.

You deserve someone who knows how to communicate and prioritize their time.