Girls, is it a turn off if a guy allows you to be the dominant one in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Basically this woman explains that when women can sense weakness in a man, he's catering to all her needs, is agreeable all the time, walking on egg shells around her makes her get turned off more by him. She says that women in today's era, especially younger women may like a sense of power over a man but end of the day she wants boundaries and someone stable.

[provokeesmokee]

"Allowing someone else to be dominant" isn't how dominance works.

Those behaviours describe someone with low self-worth, or a people pleaser, or even someone who grew up in a dysfunctional home (walking on eggshells is a common saying among victims of narcissists and other abusers).

Those are a turn off for sure, for me. I've been that person and it is draining on others.

A guy with a sense of self, defined boundaries, and healthy relationship habits is attractive.

A doormat is not. Unless you're a narcissist or abuser - then they're fucking perfect for your use. Which is disgusting.

[Nxtawm]

I don’t mind him catering to my needs and being agreeable is good but there’s a limit where they shouldn’t just be agreeing to everything I say, they need to have their own opinions too. It is a turn off when I feel like I’m the dominant one or the man in the relationship, by that I mean I’m the one taking initiative, planning things and asking them to do stuff. I take it as them just not being as interested so I’ll back off.