Why do I always end up being someone’s side chick?

[Anonymous]

That’s not something aim for but always happen to get myself into that mess,

[DextroShade]

You have qualities or characteristics that cause guys to put you in the recreational use only category, let me list some examples and see if they apply to you:

• High body count
• Baby momma
• Acts masculine
• Tattoos
• Short or brightly-dyed hair
• Piercings other than earrings
• History of sex work including OnlyFans
• Scantily-clad thirst trap pictures on IG
• Pictures of yourself in supercars, yachts, or at exotic destinations
• Openly feminist or woke
• Hangs out with a lot of dudes
• Loud or obnoxious
• Drinks too much
• "Boss bitch"

[DaveJord]

* You are a single working mom with kids.
* You play games
* Youi want to chat for weeks and not meet
* Exchange numbers with someone and are still on the app every day.
* You are difficutl to make plans or set up dates with
* Nonresponsive to texts
* You are too busy too often
* You don't wait to the 3rd to 5th date to have sex, and then after you string out too long.
* You dump your baggage on to men, just because you need someone to talk to.
* You talk about your exs
* You push your feelings and opinions on to men.

I tell women all the time, most guys start with good intentions... but when the games begin, they only hang in there for the sex. And once that gets old they move to a better woman who is responsive and supportive.

You have heard this Bull shit about men should not be concerned about what she brings to table, because he should be concerned more about what he has to offer...

Bullshit... a woman can bring everything she has to table but if she is not really offering any of it... then it becomes about sex.

[SunnyRS]

Hire a private detective to check on them before you go out with them.
Just kidding, but try to stay alert in the initial phase of getting to know the other person, pick up the hints if they have another partner or not.
Stay vigilant and you will be good.

[Asker]

So speaking of this guy at work why would he ask me what’s new

[SunnyRS]

It could mean two things either it's a genuine question to check up on you or it can be he is showing interest in you to know more about you

[Asker]

Why would he be checking up on me like that

[Asker]

He is married by the way

[Asker]

But he randomly approached me and was like what’s new with you he usually never says that phrase

[SunnyRS]

If he is a colleague he might check up on you, just for small talk in the office.
But if he is married and you are not interested, then keep your relationship professional with the guy, only talk about work and small talk so that he knows you are not interested.

[Asker]

His a married colleague does it mean he care?

[SunnyRS]

Why not, I work in an office where I have married men and women as my colleagues but I still care about them a bit to ask how they are and what they are upto.

[Asker]

Well that’s nice of him I guess

[SunnyRS]

Yeah

[douride2]

Your the side chick because you allow it to happen.

[DannyUk2017]

Because you might not "give in"... And today's trend is...
I've met you-we have to fuck... You don't want? then... Next!!!

[AmeerX]

Bad advice.

[DannyUk2017]

@AmeerX i said is a TODAY's TREND, NOT THAT SHE SHOULD GIVE IN. Read the Reply properly, or keep it to yourself.

[RealMarek]

I saw from your responses that you are not sleeping with a married man but have emotional relationships with them. You spend too much time with married men. Limit the time you give them. Make it so it’s not enough time to be the “side chick,” however you define it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Stop sleeping with them without commitment and it won't happen, you spread your legs enough to strangers and side chick is all you'll be good for, just sayin

[Asker]

Hold on who said I’m sleeping with them
I’m talking about married man

[ChicoFromThe305]

So I've met many people that meet with married people on purpose, if you aren't sleeping with him then it's not possible to be a slide chick

[Asker]

What about emotionaly

[ChicoFromThe305]

My assumption would be that since you didn't spread your legs to him yet, it's possible he's waiting on that, guys don't normally use women for emotional support nowadays, the fact you haven't given yourself up might be why he's sticking around

[Asker]

You saying he wants sex

[ChicoFromThe305]

Seems that way, but just to be sure, read him out a bit more

[Asker]

I’ve known him for 7 months already

[Asker]

He always seeks my attention I don't know y

[ChicoFromThe305]

Does he ever mention sex? 7 months is probably some info you should've publicized cause now that changes everything.

[Asker]

He used to say stuff that referred to that like for instance when he first met me he was like I used to do friends with benefits and they would always come back to me bc I wasn’t too small and not too big soo why would he tell me stuff like that

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's definitely an unusual statement to blur out loud, seems a bit like he's reaching but maybe he's genuine, you never know

[Asker]

What do you mean by that he’s genuine

[Asker]

Why would he be genuine with me

[ChicoFromThe305]

He could be but I don't know is what I'm sayin lol

[Asker]

So he just decided to blurt it out randomly

[ChicoFromThe305]

I doubt it too but the possibility is there if he tried saying it as a joke

[Asker]

I don't know but when I mentioned if his wife knows about it he ran off

[ChicoFromThe305]

Seems to me like she doesn't based on that reaction

[Asker]

I don't know 🤷

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lol.

[Asker]

I don't know. But slowly I’m letting him go and don’t
Feel bad at all he probably tried to make me feel bad for him

[ChicoFromThe305]

I guess, I think you know more than me on the situation

[Asker]

I mean since when is it okay for a Married MSN to ask me to get him this and that and start buying me things and than start saying I owe you bla bla that’s not normal don’t
You think

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope, he's being sneaky when it comes to his woman which only shows he's purposely being deceitful to her, which is never a good sign

[Asker]

To what woman you referring too

[Asker]

His wife?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea..

[Asker]

Hmm I wonder why he being that way unless he sees no harm in what he does, but do you personally think it’s okay to ask a single woman to get you this or that and than you slowly start returning her favors or his up to something

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope but it's something you should personally investigate on

[BoopBoopBeep]

Why else would he want a side chick?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Honestly

[kellytheman]

Some guys might just see that what you are a side piece. Also he might like a girl more than you but he probably a asshole if cheating on a girl he likes more. He just using you for sex. You just need to know if he is already in a relationship which is hard to know since some guys lie.

[Tim2nice]

It’s not a bad position to be in. Committed relationships and marriages are overrated

[Asker]

I’m not having sex with no
Tho

[Tim2nice]

What kind of side chick are you then?

[Summeroflove]

Don’t date anyone if you know they’re in a relationship

[FenixG45]

Without context, I cannot be certain, but I'll take a stab at it.
You're being too accommodating, not demanding enough. Hold a higher opinion of yourself. Think: I'm worth it, and I'm NOT putting up with this anymore!

[RedInnocent68]

On one hand, you must be really nice or pretty hot. 😉 Side chicks need to have something different from main chick, and be a potential trade-up.

[Drumlin2001]

Maybe you need to rethink the type of guys you go for

[RHK36]

You keep going with the same trash cans, stop ignoring the red flags.

[OddBeMe]

You’re seeking out losers who are cheating. It’s learned behavior from childhood. You can change but it’ll be uncomfortable.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because you give off "side chick" vibes.

[Anonymous]

A couple of reasons. None of which are going to change.

[spartan55]

Because you don't have any self respect.

[Asker]

Excuse me

[spartan55]

You going to argue that you do?

[normalice]

Because you are very good at it?

[Asker]

Nahh I want to be in a committed relationship

[normalice]

Sadly, what we want to do and what we are skilled at doing rarely overlap.

[Asker]

I’m not skilled at it

[normalice]

The men who use you as a side chick must think you are.

[JacobJordan]

You want the truth or do you want a lie?

[gorydetails]

because you put out.

[Asker]

What you mean I put out

[gorydetails]

you spread your legs

[Asker]

I’m actually a virgin

[gorydetails]

then how can you be a side chick

[Asker]

Not in a sexual way maybe emotionally

[gorydetails]

this sounds like nonsense.

[Pohjolan]

Have you considered not dating fuckboys?

[Asker]

I don’t date fuck boys

[Pohjolan]

You are not dating fuckboys yet being the side chick? Curious.

[Asker]

Talking about married man want me to be there side piece

[Pohjolan]

Oh this is getting even worse. What did you think was going to happen? That he'd leave his wife for you?

[Asker]

No I thought he would get with his wife but he keeps dragging me into this mess

[Asker]

I keep telling him about his wife I’m only for that he be with his wife

[Pohjolan]

One doesn't get dragged into being a side chick...

[Asker]

I was dragged indeed

[Pohjolan]

Being a side chick is entirely voluntary no matter how you try to spin it. You chose this.

[AmeerX]

Because you go for wrong type of men.

[Anonymous]

You have no standards nor class, or just cheap

[Slutslovemycum]

Because your awesome my love and I are more
Like the side duck for each other but we own each others hearts and brag about me cummingninnher mom Friday and hee cousin and bff well dsily lol and she texted me this weekend saying “six thugs I just met well I haven’t met them I don't know their names they were breeeinf a girl
Who owes them money I paid
For my drugs went to rest room
Came out naked and climes on biggest one of them they kicked the girl out saying her being their makes this much less perfect all of them came in me I told them
To invite friends I won’t be home this weekend “ /$

[Opinion Owner]

What the hell? Are you illiterate?