I was really feeling this one girl, I still am. We worked at a job together up until I quit that job. I was feeling her then too (at the job) but stopped communicating when I quit working there until about a month after I quit I got a friend request from her on Facebook and I accepted. At first, she would only comment on my post then one day she randomly dm’d me and asked how I was and that kicked things off with us. We were conversing through messenger for about a week. We confessed that we had always liked one another even when we were working together. I found out some things about her, she found out some things about me. We even started to plan some dates. It wasn’t until she got annoyed at me for playing games with her as far as only communicating with her through Facebook messenger rather than texting her. She did politely ask me to text her and told me she no longer wanted to keep communicating through messenger. She even gave me some grace after I avoided texting her when she asked the first time. I continued to only use messenger to communicate with her but I noticed her responses started to get really dry and she would would read my messages and not reply. I understood why she started doing these things but I feel like since we are only getting to know one another and I still talk to other girls (though I do like her) why does she need my number? long story short, when I saw her no longer responding I messaged her saying “I wish you well.” She messaged me the same thing back and that was a week ago and we haven’t communicated since but I do like her. She still interacts with my post/shares and makes flirty/friendly comments but she refuses to message me again. I don’t think me not giving her my number should have been that big of a deal.
Should I still keep my options open?
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Childish. Why play the field when you know you like her the most? What did she or any other new woman do to deserve paying for how you were dogged, hurt or disappointed by a woman (or women) in the past? You’re blowing your chances with a perfectly fine woman for no reason at all. For example, the whole reason you don’t want to give her your number is not only an excuse but a bad one.
Like she isn’t some random woman you met on a night out, if anything you two were friends so the fact that you’re acting like she’s a stranger you’re trying to test the water with is absurd. Here’s your problem — you equate giving your number to getting more serious since she has more direct contact with you and not based on when you check Facebook.
What you fail to realize is that if you’re really feeling her then this is a GOOD thing, but you keep disrespecting her by doing the one fair request she’s asked you for and coming off like some sketchy fuckboy. I’m sure that’s not what you’d want someone you’re interested in to think of you, so stop being that guarded and proud.