Yo man, I feel you on that struggle. Seems like these days chicks are always lookin for the next best thing instead of appreciatin what they got. But I don't think it's helpful or fair to say ALL girls are like that. Some thoughts:
- Social media has people constantly comparin their lives to highlight reels. Grass always looks greener.
- Could be they got commitment/trust issues from past relationships too and self-sabotage good things.
- Or maybe we dudes don't always see things from their perspective either and there's real issues we not notices.
- Takes work to keep that spark alive long term from both sides too, can't blame just one.
Best you can do is focus on bein the best dude possible - loyal, communicate well, make em laugh. Some chicks just ain't wired for long haul but don't give up, my bro. Keep ya head up, you'll find the right one who's down to ride or die wit ya through it all. Don't settle for less than what you deserve either - keep lookin til you find that real one!
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That evolution thing. Females are seeking the best traits, and by selecting people with different traits instead of monogamy, they're creating a greater and more diversified gene-pool.
There's also the attachment factor - a female's role as mother means she needs to be there (with or without paternal support) to take care of her children, make them autonomous, and then they leave to go out on their own. So her interest in caring for someone is limited by how "new" it is. Babies need a lot of attention, and as they grow, they need less and less until they go away as adults.
The idea of monogamy and death-do-you-part was a concept introduced by the church ~1100 AD with the first Crusades. Before that, you had hand-fasting that could be broken as easily as it was created, bastards were a common thing nobody blinked an eye at (or cared about), and if the kids made it to 7 years old, they were fostered out/apprenticed to someone as slave labor to learn the skills needed for society. Nobody was their own.
In pedigreed dog-breeding, the rule of thumb is, unless a mating produced absolutely exceptional puppies in every way, you do not repeat that cross, and you seek a new M/F combination to keep diversity in the breeding population. The goal is to always produce something that will improve the breed, not simply breed the "monogamous married couple" because they live together and they're your two dogs. You may love them both, they may like each other, but they're not going to produce quality puppies that way... just average.
So... a lot of reasons for this phenomenon are purely evolutionary/animal-behavior science.
See, since I am a well seasoned woman in age, I have seen it both ways.
Guys were cocky, users for sex, have sex with her, then not call her again. Not sex on the first date but maybe after the second or third date.
Then it was HE that always sreered how the relationship was going to go.
Some guys knew they had a good woman and would tell her he loved her and that he was in it for the long haul. Then they would get engaged.
You have to realize that when a guy called a girl every single day, that meant so much to her.
So, I sujjest that you call her often and throw some old fashioned romantic words get was. Call her sweetie or sweetheart, baby, babe, are you my girl? I love my baby and giver CA big kiss and hug her. Shoe you that you care. Have the florist send some roses - Valentine's Day is February 14th. This is a day you don't want to forget. Buy her pink roses with babies breath mixed. The red one's remember me of dead old ladies. The trick is to have the florist deliver them to her work, not just hand them to her. Otherwise she'll think you got them at the grocery store.
Try some old fashioned stuff and screw what social media says. Ok?
It's nothing wrong with making your girl s to priority you should , but women I can't say all or most women, but many are just not satisfied with what they have seeing another woman riding around in a car one year nee than hers, out hearing of their friends go on about what they have, women just like to have bragging rights, when they get around their friends family they want to be the Barbie, in the hood, and that's cool but when she just finds on and on about wanting more bigger just behind materialistic and trying to make you feel like a loser is time to cut her loose, I mean I'm not materialistic don't lust after it chase money out slow it to control my life it's always been there when I need it, and im not someone who gives a damn about who has what, but I realize that no matter what you do or joke much you provide for some women it's never enough, and who needs that in their life, you can be as wealthy as Bill Gates and still don't women will complain about wanting more, you can't satisfy everyone, especially their greed
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I fully understand you. But the problem is not especially with women nowadays. The answer lies in the evolution. Even back then in the stone age the women chose the most masculine man. A more masculine man was able to steal your woman. There are three types of people: One that has masculine energy, one that has feminine and the last one is the neutral. Today majority of the western relationship are becoming neutral-neutral relationships. The best one that lasts best is a masculine-feminine relation, but neutral-neutral can work sometimes too. If you're too feminine and have a feminine partner this won't end well. The same is for masculine-masculine. Back then in the 20th century 99% of the relationships were masculine-feminine and additionally the social norms and roles supported relationships to last. Nowadays our society is loosing many norms as everything get's accepted and liberal by society, what gives people more freedom to do or don't, like leaving a relationship after a relationship. Don't get me wrong, I don't know you but it can be kinda selfish and unrealistic to wish a wife that stays with you and enjoys your tons of love that you give her. That's not your task. Feminine women maybe other women too want someone to depend on, to trust on in hard times, who can give her a good foundation to build a healthy family. It all starts with an attractive/healthy look, maybe some muscles, a good job, life goals,..., that all indicate that she can depent on you, that you're constantly improving and providing a better foundation for the family. Wishing this all without giving something in return is selfish and you won't find something that lasts. For masculine men the highest priority is the own career after that comes the woman. For feminine woman the highest priority is the man. If you want to get her love, you need to become a masculine men. I hope I helped you a bit with some answers from evolution.
Why are a lot of men fine with being mediocre and complacent whilst still having this level of entitlement? More often than not women leave because men don’t change unless something significant happens in his life. That’s mainly been my struggle with relationships I like to grow and evolve. Not stay in one stage too long and sometimes I’m outgrowing my partner at a faster rate. If they’re not ready to change then I have to leave. I’ve gotten done dirty too many times trying to help anyone in general get to where I am if that wasn’t where they’re going, they feel outshined and it turned to resentment or a guy going out of his way to hurt me. Now I’ve learned to just leave people where they’re at. If they want to come with they’re more than welcome but if they missed the boat they missed the boat. I don’t know what this is where people are mad that others, particularly women don’t have a scarcity mindset.
I think it has a lot to do with their high emotionality (I notice emotional males tend to cheat a lot too). Not just that though... what they think is so pliable... it only takes one person yapping in her ear to change their mind about something or someone.
From what I've seen a lot of their cheating doesn't really start from just the guy, it will be her girl power empowering friend yapping in her ear. It will be the same friend that drags her into places and situations where the "other man" gets introduced into the situation. I've seen it happen a whole lot, first it's the cool new female friend, and then the introduction to the idea of "just talking" to new men.
We dudes are just waaaay more likely to just tell our friend "Naw, fuck that shit bro." A chick that isn't seeking validation from friends like some sort of "friend-simp" will be less likely to just get talked into doing some bullshit or believing some bullshit.You're generalising but people in general are inherently selfish. They have to have a reason no to be and that usually comes from an emotional connection established through sociosexual exclusivity, which includes bidirectional romance.
I would suggest that such a guy who finds girls to be selfish, may be drawn to girls who are at that stage in their life or just have that mindset. I would think dating outside that will show that there are many wonderful women who are not selfish.
I've seen a lot of kind and generous women settle down with selfish men and vice versa. If a generous woman and generous man would only match but then opposites attract.Because girls get all the attention nowadays. Their egos are fueled by social media and dating apps and they know they can go on their phone and find a guy in minutes willing to date them. That's the day and age we live in. Back in the day we had to compete with one guy named Joe in the other city. Now we have to compete with every Joe named Joe right there on her phone. Girls can't help but find a shiny new thing in the corner of their eyes desiring more when they're in a relationship. Not all... but definitely enough that it needs to be said.
Men are just girls fathers when they don't deserve those men. So when he loses her its like he lost his baby and that's more painful than what she is losing. Remember the good man chooses a woman and sees her as his future (babies symbolize the future) .
Babies = Future , Parents = Present and eventually the Past.
NB !!! : I am only referring to BAD girls , I do not intend to send negativity towards GOOD women. GOOD Women you have all my respect, keep up the good work and don't forget to help young women.
This goes for the guys as well. This is why I didn't jump in a relationship, I took months and months of just talking and dating this guy I'm with now so I am sure what both parties are looking for and if we can find that in each other. And time's flying by honestly when you take the time to attract the Greenest Grass from the get go, there shouldn't be any problems :)
Why is it so many men don't realize that THEY could be the problem. Men can't stand to face the reality that they may not be the catch they think they are.
Hmm. I didn't read all the details there, yet hmm. I suppose some women just aren't cut out for relationships. Likewise, some men aren't suitable for monogamy. I guess it takes, "two to tango" and not just any two. To tango 🩰🪩 and tango well ❤️🩹
It's because of feminism and social media giving women really stupid ideas and beliefs that cause them to rack up their body counts making them utterly incapable of pair-bonding or love. It continues to be a disaster for the human race.
I think social media is part of it. They look at dozens of guys , most are lying about themselves and become disenchanted with their current relationship and think thay can do better
Been in a relationship for 9 years and this is something I understand… nobody is perfect, far from it. There will be hiccups.. and most of all he’s just human, I just need to see he makes an effort and that’s good enough.
I agree, I think the same way as you do. After all, and from your perspective, and what I’m trying to take away from your points, I am not all wrong with my viewpoints either. Thanks for sharing.
Hypergamy is natural to women and it is amplified by dating apps.
It’s both sides since it’s human nature. But it’s also immaturity.
ALL women will cheat given the right guy / opportunity
It's not girls, it's people.
If you're worth keeping, she won't move on.
That's hardly a female exclusive trait
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