What does it mean when she always says I appreciate what you're doing?

[euaiyaya]

Whenever i do something for her, I don't ask anything in return and just say it's all good. She always says i appreciate you but doesn't really show it with her actions. She shares a lot of personal information but doesn't add me on social media or anything. I met her in a game and she keeps bragging about guys that give her some things.

I like her, but her likeness with me is like a rollercoaster. Some days she's so sweet, some days she doesn't reply a whole day. She does initiate but after a few exchanges, she's gone. Is she just using me?

[Summeroflove]

It’s possible. If you’re doing a lot for someone and they aren’t giving much in return. It can definitely mean they’re using you. It also depends on how long a day is to you and how important it is that you sent. Some people text someone things that aren’t important at 3:00 am and be mad someone didn’t respond.

I think you need to talk to her about this and how you feel. Others have said you’re the one making the offer which is true, but I feel like people who care about someone and genuinely does appreciate what they do will find a way to repay the favor in one way or another.

That does not mean sex. I am NOT saying that is your intentions. But some guys do things for women that are nice and feel entitled to sex. This is the “nice guy” who aren’t really nice guys. They’re disingenuous and most girls can see it. Decent women avoid them. Some use them. It’s like a guy whose open abour wanting sex. He may be a shitbag. But he’s direct about what he wants. So women who also just want that will sleep with them.

While decent women want a guy whose a genuinely good man. BUT… Doesnf want a sex addict or a man whose too preoccupied with sex to contribute anything meaningful or only do things with the expectation of sex.

It is your choice if you choose to do things for her or not. If you’re genuinely trying to be nice and you just like helping people. Keep helping her out. If you’re starting to get resentful. Then just tell her you’re busy or tell her your concerns directly. How you feel. How she acts. Etc.

[_Maya_]

I am not sure how you would call that using you if you are the one making the offer. Now if she always is asking you to do things then yeah she could be using you. Doesn't sound like that is the case tho unless I missed something. I will address a couple of points you made. One is that she doesn't show in her actions. What exactly would you call showing with actions? She does thank you. That just might be her style and she is not very expressive any other ways. The second thing is you say sometimes she is sweet and other days she doesn't reply. Those days she doesn't she might be legit busy. We all have lives and things that happen in them. I think that you are over thinking this situation. If you like her then make a move. You will know shortly after if she has feelings or not instead of guessing at it.

[euaiyaya]

Thing is she's asking for a favor and I always say yes. When I'm done doing her a favor she says that, and she says she'll repay the favor but never really. She is legit busy but it takes her 1-2 days to reply to my texts so... I don't know if I should pursue this kind of relationship. When i try to make a move, she always makes it look like I'm joking.

[Summeroflove]

Even if someone is busy. 1-2 days is a long time to respond to someone. A few hours or a day depending on what someone’s doing. Is one thing.

Another problem can be if someone has tons of people messaging them. It can be hard to get to everyone.

[Summeroflove]

I think you should ask her for a favor. See what she says or if she keeps putting it off.

[spartan55]

Does she do anything for you?

[euaiyaya]

No, nothing really. I tried asking her to do simple stuff for me but to no avail.

[Summeroflove]

Then it’s definitely possible she’s using you

[laly520]

she sounds like a person with bpd

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. People like that can be very nice one day and the next day are mean as a snake, other days almost indifferent.

[laly520]

indeed
its a struggle to keep up with em
they drain the energy in no time

[Iron_Man]

She is very appreciative of your efforts

[In_Trance]

It means you need to ask her for clarification