My friend and I have a deep emotional connection and we work together. everyone knows we have a deep bond. We’re both bisexual girls. At my grad party I got really drunk and I kissed her. We made out four times. We both downplayed it after and she said it was platonic because she knew I didn’t mean anything by it and plus we work together. I also kissed my ex boyfriend. I reconnected with my ex for the first time since my graduation party and we talked about that night and how my friend and him actually got along. He told me that that night my friend threw darts at him. He said she only threw them at him. I told my friend about her throwing darts about my ex and she laughed and said she throws darts at her boyfriend too. Then she changed her story and said she thought she was on a “man hating” binge. Then she said she might’ve thrown them because she might’ve wanted someone to play darts with her. She knows he’s still into me and she acts annoyed by him lol. I told her how I had a drink with him and I was kind of dizzy/drunk afterwards, I joked how I had to go to target and was trying to get there safely and we both laughed and she was like “you could’ve called me to pick you up and take you to target”. She lives on the other side of town… and she could’ve suggested me calling my parents. I’ve made it clear that I love intellectual people in college. I told her my sister didn’t like my ex because she didn’t think he was good enough or in college and right after I said this my friend was like “I’m gonna go back to community college for music and get my degree”. I encouraged her. Today I said again I loved intellectual people and there’s categories to being smart and she was like “I wonder which level I fit into because sometimes I feel like an airhead”. I told her she was smart and she got happy. I also said i dumped my ex bc he didn’t know Shakespeare and my friend said she loved Macbeth and read Shakespeare in high school. Is she trying to relate?
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Is my friend trying to hint that she likes me by doing this?
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Hmm this does seem like your friend might be trying to shoot her shot a little bit, not gonna lie. All the stuff about throwing darts at your ex, volunteering to pick you up instead of him, bringing up going back to school and knowledge of Shakespeare - it does look like she's lowkey trying to position herself as a more appealing option.
People don't usually go that hard changing their story unless they've got motives, feel me? And the way she reacts when you say you like intellectual guys, suddenly bringing up her education - girl is clearly trying to meet what she thinks you're looking for.
The way she joked about wondering what "level" of smart she is too was pretty obvious fishing for a compliment. She wants you to reassure her and build her up. It's giving me vibes she likes the attention and validation from you, at least.
If I were you, I'd keep an eye out for any other little comments or ways she finds to one-up your ex and spend time with you. Could be she's feeling those drunk kiss vibes and wants to take things further lowkey. Just don't kiss her sober if you're not 100% sure you feel the same, k? Play it cool for now, but seems like she's into you sis!