I feel like girls and women don't take dating apps seriously. I understand you need to be attracted to the person. But in this day and age. I think there's no exact formula to talk to a girl or a woman. I understand females are very guarded and can easily be "creeped" out by past experiences, what she's heard through the grapevines, movies/television/magazines/books and rightfully so. I personally hate dating apps because it just goes based on appearance and status in my opinion.
But I can't just go up to a girl and start chatting because 1) she might be too busy, 2) she might say, i'm sorry but i'm taken, 3) find it incredibly odd a guy walked up to her. As a guy, I don't care if a random girl tried talking to me but for guys it rarely happens and the only reaction a guy might have is "why is she talking to me is she trying to ask for money". The same way girls/women are guarded about being pursued just for sex. I just want to have the courage and walk up to a girl and just try at this point because dating apps suck.
What Girls Said
Dating apps probably do suck, i won’t argue with you there. But it’s still unlikely that a girl will walk over and chat you up even if you quit the apps.
i don’t think expectations are higher on a dating app vs real life. it’s just that in real life, you have a deluge of people to sift through, so naturally you’re swiping left a lot less
i swipe left even for good looks because most guys don’t bother write a line or two about themselves. if you’re on an app and want to meet someone, please do the basics. sometimes the profile says something backhanded or corny or snide or “i’ll tell you later” or “just ask”. i doubt that’ll get connections
i think it’s equivalent, that “creepy/uneasy” vibe that comes off in real life can be there online too. it’s a non tangible. you’re probably right, women probably psych themselves out and overthink excessively. but not for no good reason.
you probably have preferences just as well and are unlikely to swipe right for everyone, so i’d cut women some slack. it’s rough for everyone
i say “swipe left or right” but I’m not talking about tinder. please don’t expect to make a connection on tinder
I’m just referring to the principle of liking vs passing someone based on their profile