Why are girls told they have daddy's issues but guys are not told they have mommy issues?

[ElaHop]

I don't get it, if so many girls have daddy's issues, boys must have mommy issues too but I never hear about it

[RavVid]

Particularly now mothers are removing fathers from their children's lives. I came across a Socal child authority report which made the statement that daughters without a present father had male hunger.

Certainly young girls without a present father statistically lose their virginity earlier than those with a present father. There could be many factors in this. One likely is that Mom is dating and bringing guys home. A monkey see monkey do factor. Some Moms encouraged sexual exploration by their daughters. Put them on the pill at an early age.

Women at all ages frequently say they want to feel safe and protected by their guy. Why wouldn't a young daughter feel that and want it from her father?

Without a father, young girls could have a lack in their childhood and have male hunger as Socal child authority put it.

In contrast with boys, it is seldom the mother is removed from their lives and usually boys are trying to established independence from their mother. At puberty boys don't like being mom'ed any more.

I'm not saying this is the case but suggesting there is plausibility in girls having 'daddy issues' while 'mommy issues' in boys is less common.

[MrOracle]

Boys have "daddy issues" too, but if we acknowledge that, people (mostly women) feel that it could excuse boys' bad behavior, and we can't do anything that could excuse any measure of blame from males. Plus, to suggest that involvement from the father is important goes against Feminism and implies some level of responsibility upon the mother for failing to choose a man who was father material, or failing to keep him around, and we definitely can't have that.

So, boys whose fathers weren't present or not properly involved in their upbringing are just thought of as troublemakers and criminals; things that could be completely blamed on the boys.

The most relevant thing is that we have 4 decades of research and statistics, and ALL of it makes it clear that children, regardless of gender, who don't have a father in their lives as children are DRAMATICALLY more likely to have anger and emotional issues, lack morals and values, and make bad decisions.

Such children are FAR more likely to drop out of school, to have a criminal record, to become addicts to drugs, alcohol, and tobacco, to have out-of-wedlock pregnancies, to have mental health issues, struggle with employment, and on and on.

But those facts go directly against the foundation of Feminism, and thus cannot be acknowledged, much less addressed, except to the extent that they can blame the fathers. But that's dangerous, because the fathers often can prove a very different story that doesn't paint the mother in a good light, and women are not allowed to be wrong or at fault, so it's better just to completely ignore and bury the issue. Women are taught to accept the outcome that this is only going to create more of the kinds of men that terrify women. Individual women must be sacrificed in order to maintain the Feminist narrative.

[RavVid]

Good points. The most frequent cause of a father being absent is of course the mother kicking him out of the family home.. Children from a single father household do nearly as well as father/mother households whilst children in a single mother household do a lot worse.

Courts should start acknowledging that fathers get better results than mothers in deciding custody.

[MrOracle]

Kentucky has actually done that, and a number of other states are in the process of doing the same. The dolts in government are finally starting to get the message that population collapse is happening again can't be fixed overnight (it typically takes 100 years or more, assuming everything else goes well) and that all the systems incentivizing the destruction of male-female relationships and children are actually a huge problem. But too many still refuse to acknowledge the problem and take action - they live with their heads in the sand.

[RavVid]

So that was why in your presidential election, Liberal women were yelling about no fault divorce as much as abortion I take it?

I sort of think the horse has bolted. Fairly easy to proactively divorce by cheating. In the 50's there were social consequences for cheating but there are not now. Fault based divorce with significant penalties could work to a degree I guess.

I certainly agree it takes a long time to engineer change. We can say 85 years to this point from 1960. If it changed today that my wife did badly out of divorce if she cheated than it still wouldn't persuade me to marry and start a family because she could still make my life miserable and sexless.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Girls are more often labeled as having “daddy issues” because society highlights their emotional and romantic connections with men , fathers, partners as central to their identity.

Boys can have “mommy issues” too, but cultural norms rarely spotlight them, emotional struggles in men are often overlooked or dismissed in favor of emphasizing independence and masculinity.

It’s less about psychology and more about social stereotypes every child can carry patterns or wounds from their parents, but gender influences who gets noticed and who gets ignored.

In short, issues with parents are universal, but the way we talk about them is biased.

[aquamint]

Because men think that there is nothing wrong with anything they do and that they have zero to no trauma from anything.
they claim that women are more “emotional” than them yet they aggressively jerk off, rage over video games and sports teams, get angry when they can’t have sex with someone and bully people. It’s all emotional, just like they punch holes in there walls. Or is that not emotional at all…?
but also think about how “daddy issues” is there version of an insult/shame to women even if the women doesn’t have “daddy issues”

[InknKink]

Absolutely they do as commonly as girls have daddy issues. I don't know why you personally don't hear about it but it's equally as common and called out.

Mommy issues are men who seek out nurturing women in relationships who care for them in motherly ways such as cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Boys who replace their mother with substitutes in relationships.

Incredibly common. 50/50 honestly.

[Chazmatazz269]

That’s simply not at all true and i think you know that. Even if you literally lived under a rock for the last decade, you would have heard MANY people, women in particular, referring to boys and men with “mommy issues”. There are hundreds of movies and shows that go into it, along with thousands of books and probably millions of memes. The only reason you might overlook the mountains of evidence readily available all day every day is by being selfish and self centered. You have never noticed other people’s problems because you’re too consumed by your own. You also benefit from being female. The half of the world population that CAN persist through selfishness. Males who are unwilling or unable to produce and provide are marginalized. You wouldn’t last a month as a man.

[genericname85]

threre's 2 compoinding reasons i see that could explain that.

1. daddy issues come from absent father figure causing insecure attachment and a whole host of other problems for children later in life. it's just way more common to have an absent father figure than having an absent mother figure so that's why that's not very common.

2. while both absent father and absent mother is bad for a general outcomes later in life, absent father is measurable worse for objectively measurable things like academic success or likelyhood for criminal convictions of children later in life.

[Jackblue]

Well it is partly because it is politically acceptable for women to hate their dads (opposing patriarchy and the like), what is less acceptable is men hating their mothers. Fathers stuck in past ages may teach their boys that women as a general gender are second class citizens, but they will almost never tell them that they don't have to respect their moms. For traditionalists moms have to be revered. On the left on the other hand, feminists aren't exactly lining up to tell men it is ok to hate your moms. Thus whether a man is right wing or left wing they often (I am not saying always, but often) try to hide their mommy issues.

[ManOnFire]

This is not true. Guys have often been told they have mommy issues, and you used to hear it a lot about 10 years ago. It's just that it's more popular to talk about girls having daddy issues just because it's a way for people to try to be sympathetic to them for why they act shitty or make bad life choices. Guys usually get scolded as having mommy issues just because they say something people - mostly women - don't like hearing.

[Purpleronnie]

Some boys absolutely do have mommy issues it’s just they girls daddy issues are much more talked about or used flippantly or ignorantly observing a girls sexual proclivities with older man of a “daddy” age.


Generally boys will suffer from “mommy” issues from over controlling or smothering mothers as well as those neglectful or emotionally unavailable.


The terms are equally thrown around to explain deeper psychological complexities and relative suffering in either gender.

[HawkPerception]

Mommy issues is a thing. It's called being a mama's boy. It's just not used as often nowadays because there are many more women with daddy issues than there used to be in the past.

Daddy issues for women is often sexualized implying she seeks older men or is promiscuous due to her father being absent.

Being a mamas boy for men is often framed as him fearing commitment or having anger towards women. It's also associated with being an incel nowadays.

[Noredcarpet]

I think why the term exist is because many men work or were distant somehow creating the issue and that girls do tend to talk more about anything than what guys do, its in the culture. If guys did the same there would be for sure a mom issue but less so as they were home?

[SamIam96]

Because guys with mommy issues manifest their damage in different ways that tend to be more benign. Some guys with mommy issues have been feminized. Others are less aggressive than average guys. We don't say "they have mommy issues" even though they do. Instead, we call them effeminate, sissies, wusses, wimps...

[Miristheiss]

Because men and women are not the same and each sex comes with their own unique set of issues and problems and strengths and weaknesses.

Overall, there is measurable symptoms with women who grew up without a loving, protective father.

Not so much with men and their mothers. Men without fath we rs though also have measurable issues.

[pass_the_celery98]

Because women and girls are far more emotional. A good man or good guy makes a huge impact on a child’s life especially for his daughter. Sure, there are momma’s boys. My dad didn’t teach me much in life unfortunately, and my mom was there for me more. But I had to learn how to be a man, take accountability in life, work hard, learn about life, about politics, about the economy, about religion.

[itsannalee]

Because the percentage of parents who abandon their kid tends to be more on men/fathers than women/mothers.

[ElaHop]

Happens on both sides still yet one gets ignored

[Chazmatazz269]

Wholly false

[itsannalee]

speak based on study, not your feelings. Your feelings is useless.

[ElaHop]

Studies don't have to be credible

[itsannalee]

Studies don’t have credible, so your statement even more.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And studies also show that guys are usually accused of leaving there children when it's just the mom winning the custody due to family court biases and the dad still has to pay child support despite all of it.

[itsannalee]

You’re talking about court rulings. I’m talking about real-life parenting. A dad can pay child support and still emotionally abandon his kid.
That’s why kids end up with ‘daddy issues’, not because of a judge, but because the father checked out as a parent. Financial obligation isn’t the same as emotional presence. If you don’t understand that difference, you don’t deserve a kid.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That is a part of the reality. The nuance of those "father's emotionally abandoning their children" claims. Because those guys who lost the court biases can still be recorded that's one of those guys who leave there children often guilty until proven innocent. Also just because children have their mothers present doesn't mean their emotionally available all the time. They're also many cases where mothers just emotionally neglect their children even with their presence. If I don't deserve kids because I don't understand the difference then you don't understand the nuance.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also those emotional neglect despite the mother's presence can also cause mommy issues. But the difference is that, guys don't have the luxury of showing off their mommy issues like girls having daddy issues because they're supposed to be the "big and strong" one in the relationship that showing they're longing love for a mother figure is usually seen as a weakness unlike girls showing daddy issues being a more understood issue.

[itsannalee]

You’re arguing a completely different topic.
I’m talking about parents who check out emotionally. You’re talking about court paperwork and internet statistics.
Such a waste of time.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's because you don't say that connection. Like you don't even realize that even with the mother's presence, they can still neglect their children. If something like that is such a waste of time then you are just overly simplifying things like ignoring how those statistics are actually made because it's just convenient.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's just basically like cherry picking on everything you just like to learn because learning in other things that actually matters is just "a waste of time".

[itsannalee]

Lol you’re repeating the same point because you want an argument, not a conversation. I’m talking about emotional presence, and you keep circling back to court cases. It’s If you can’t stay on topic, enjoy debating yourself. I’m done🥱

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then perhaps you can explain how the statistics were made and how the studies are too? Because usually affairs are settled in courts and that's where the records comes.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Of course you're done because you cannot argue with facts but feelings

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also aren't you saying that feelings are useless?

[itsannalee]

Smart people don’t argue, we discuss. Usually only those who can’t keep up with facts feel the need to argue endlessly. I’m talking about emotional presence, not court paperwork, if you can’t understand that, there’s nothing more to discuss. Feelings are real. Excuses are not. There’s a difference 🥱🥱

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You still haven't explain how you got your studies and statistics. I thought you were talking about discussion here. And for your information, an argument is a part of the discussion. And smart people knows that argument are not always heated. Giving an argument there's always a part of the debate. If you're so smart then you should know that.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I'm still waiting for you to explain and back up your claim or you're just making excuses.

[itsannalee]

This isn’t a stats class. It’s reality. Keep waiting for your ‘evidence’ while the rest of us live in the real world. You don’t even get the main point and just keep repeating the same question. That’s really boring🥱

[Aiko_E_Lara]

So, so far you've only claimed that the study says fathers are more likely to abandon their children and not even bother elaborating it.

So therefore I could just simply say that mothers are more likely to abandon their children. Just like that and I would consider it valid based on your logic.

If you don't want any other topic then I can just simply say that and validate myself.

[Spencer10]

I think in some ways they are... maybe just in a different way. Men get the "mommy's boy" stigma all the time.

[pookipoo600p]

Chris Rock has a set about it and how we don't usually value fathers efforts, we take for granted they're supposed to be the breadwinners versus always making sure we over-compliment mothers (I think the special is called Bigger and Blacker). I think the downplaying of men's contributions and the blind eye to anything wrong a woman does is why people don't usually raise any concerns about how bad a mother may have been raising their child.

[Nik1hil]

It's Sexy for a Women to Have daddy Issue..

But It's Emasculating for a Man to Have Mommy Issues!.. and not telling boys about it, keep it suppressed. And keeps them a man!..

[ElaHop]

Very toxic

[Nik1hil]

Not Toxic, But Natural!.

Women have and Option to be Dependent and be a Big Baby! 😏

But Life of a Man, Demands him to Grow up and be a man not stay a Boy or the Society would Collapse!..

That's why!

[ElaHop]

That leads to deeper serious issues for the man

[Nik1hil]

Sure it does, But Sustainability of Human Society is more Important that Such a personal issue..

This deeper Psychological issue is a sacrifice a man has to Do, It's just like a Sacrifice a women has to do, when she becomes a mother because human society needs Babies for Existence of new generation

[ElaHop]

That's not a sacrifice, she is doing it for her children, as any mother should.

It's different to someone suppressing their mental health for benefit of strangers

[Flower7]

“Mama’s boy” is actually a very common thing that people talk about.

[Finchie40]

Guys’ have Mommy issues , most girls’ will dump a guy that has Mommy issues

[eninytxis]

Yep. That is correct. Those "men" tend to be virgins for life.

[jshm2]

Yeah, "Mummy's boy" is a real thing, kiddo. But "mummy issues" isn't a thing similar to "daddy issues".

[MJVillarama]

Society just has double standards, men’s emotional struggles are often ignored or dismissed, while women’s are more scrutinized. Both genders can have unresolved parent issues.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

America is going through an absent father epidemic. There's more guys with daddybissues

[OlderAndWiser]

You are asking why women get treated differently than men?

[FreyaRed]

Oedipus complex and Electra complex. I think Freud and his wife worked on these theories.

[WonderingManII]

I have mommy issues. She yells at me often for the littlest things.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The short answer is the patriarchy likes to look for any reason to make women seem worse.

[Nikki1989]

That is due to historical patriarchy, sexism, and social expectations.

[msc545]

Men tend to manage problems like this on their own without too much help from others. Women, on the other hand, demand and receive tremendous amounts of help from other people.

[AValla92]

Because to have parental issues weakness or lack of development in some ways, and men are very much forced to hide that. We can't act as Freudian as women or else we'll be seen as whiny or wimps.

[ProbablyClueless]

They are. It's just described with different, more formal terminology.

[loveslongnails]

Umm,,, you're not listening. LOL Most of the cult members on here have mommy issues. Listen to what they say, you'll see it.

[Flower7]

Are you talking about the incels?

[loveslongnails]

@Flower7 Not just the incels, the cult. A lot of them have mommy AND daddy issues!!

[Dina88]

Probably, it’s something passed down from generation to generation. Something stays with you no matter how much you try not to.

[DrPepper12]

I thought it's just a pkg deal & assumed for both.

[LiamJHayden]

Guys are called "Mama's Boy" frequently, but the dynamic is different.

[Straight2thepoint]

If you're advocating feminism and avoiding the truth. Then this is pointless confession.

[guesswhereivebeen]

There’s for sure guys with major mommy issues… maybe just not as many

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why guys are told they have mommy issues but girls are not told they have daddy issues.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Don't know and some chaps have mommy issues.

[SoccerPlayer99]

That's what a "Mommas Boy" is.

[ElaHop]

Not really

[SoccerPlayer99]

Actually, it is. Mommas Boy means you are a weak B who lets momma coddle him. This is usually because there's an issue with the mother at home and how she handles the boy. By definition it's a mommy issue. They are both bad scenarios.

[WhitneySnow]

I’ve heard of both

[MemeSupreme]

but that is talked about lol

[DonaldDarko]

Jessy Lee Peterson often says that.

[abc3643]

Because we don't have them like you people do.

[Dargil]

Your premise is false.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I love my mommy 😭

[ElaHop]

Bless you

[Raydergman26]

At times I have mommy issues

[AngryCarl2]

Boys may indeed have mommy issues.

[RonThirdWheelWeasley]

Guys are told they have mommy issues.

[ABC1x1x]

I never had a mom. How could I have mommy issues.

[hafinjun]

Lol talk about the very definition of something..

[ABC1x1x]

So not needing a woman to whipe your ass is a bad thing? Man im so happy im not you or the woman who hates you.

[Tomislav7]

Women are never at fault

[Gagforlifetime]

It’s just a stereotype

[MasterKS]

because people judge it easily.

[Celticwolf78]

Well it's a kink that is y