i make fun of other girls who have ugly faces and yet I tell people all the time that we need to stop bullying in high schools because a girl just killed herself from being bullying. although the girl I just made fun of is my age, so she wouldn't kill herself. she's an adult and old enough to not let words hurt her, but still.
so today when I saw her, she lives in my building I talked to her in the elevator. she looked really shocked that I would talk to her. I told her she can hang out with me sometime and she told me not to do her any favors and looked angry. but I guess I've been making fun of her for the last year because of her face. now I feel bad. it's not something I've ever thought about.
but I've never been in a long term relationship. I've had plenty of boyfriends, but nothing for a long time and I remember a lot of them saying it's because I am shallow and high maintenance.
it was my favorite aunt in the whole world who pointed this out to me because I have no friends anymore. I am lonely and that ugly girl would have been doing me a favor, not the other way around.
Most Helpful Opinions
I originally gave your question one star for the ridiculous amount of insensitive, inconsiderate b*tchiness, but if I could take it back, I'd give you four stars because of your honesty and this post is very interesting.
I think the key for you is to humble yourself. I'm sure you are nowhere near perfect on the outside. No offense, but it's clear that you're far from ideal on the inside. At least you realize and admit that you have a problem though :) that's the first step. At the end of the day, guys don't care how hot you are if you don't have much to bring to the table. They want a girl they can pour their heart and soul out to, someone they can break down in front of, someone who will understand who they are as an individual, someone who has a sense of purity to her in terms of her heart, someone who is selfless and would make a good mother and life partner. When you look at it that way, being that type of gift for a guy is so much greater than being beautiful on the outside. A guy would pass up 'the superficial, b*tchy, insensitive hot girl' for the not so physically ideal girl with a good heart. If he wouldn't, then he's just not very smart.
Anyway though, I think you need to have the flaws in you put in the spotlight. You need to be reminded that you are in no position to act like you have some right or some place to be so harshly judgmental. I mean, clearly you're not that desirable if you can't even get a guy to be with you for very long. You need to humble yourself and learn some compassion and not be so insensitive.