Is the term "sloppy seconds" being phased out?

[Phoenix1991]

Well for those who don't know what that means, its a sexual/dating term for saying your getting someone who was already "deflowered".

In a lot of music today, people say things like this " I hook up with this girl then I pass her on to my best friend", Kinda trying to make it a positive thing.

Then again , One of my friends was excited about this mutual friend who he finally hooked up with, then he asked about if I had did anything with her, I told him and then he was like "oh well". He took it better then I originally planned, but I was wondering, does the term mean anything anymore?

Whats your opinion?

Yeah it is

UGH! Its gross.

Well...if you're not first, You're last.

[Anonymous]

"Well for those who don't know what that means, its a sexual/dating term for saying your getting someone who was already "deflowered"."

That's not right. It's a term used to describe sex where a guy screws a chick shortly after she's just screwed someone else. The idea is that the first guy's come is still inside her when this happens, thus the term "sloppy seconds".

That's what it's always meant, and that's what it still means.

I've NEVER heard it used to describe a woman who has had, at some point in her past, sex with someone else. It would apply to practically every woman at some point in her life, if that were the case.

[Opinion Owner]

Most correctly, the term applies to a guy who's having a sexual relationship with one girl while she's out screwing another guy behind his back. She goes out and f***s her fling, and then f***s generally clueless dude that she's pretending to have a serious relationship with. He's the one getting the "sloppy seconds".

[Phoenix1991]

Ahh...i stand corrected...but that is very gross..

[Xx_DRE_xX]

C, cmon now a car with mileage on the tank isn't all that great bro.

[Phoenix1991]

not many brand new cars out there remain new for too long.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

well yes but the point remains.

[karamel_sutra]

If the "seconds" are still warm from the last go 'round, it's too much. Of course, I don't mean literally, though in some cases that happen in the depraved world, I'm sure that's SOMEONE'S reality... Personally, I hate when people sleep around like it's nothing but brushing their teeth. I don't care if I know the other person they were with before or not, not knowing them would probably bother me more. Just knowing that someone had shared something so intimate with multiple others and no top of it, someone I knew? It wouldn't ever allow me to be turned on by that person. I'd always see them as "dirty". So, I think the term is still relevant.

[Phoenix1991]

Whats wrong with people hooking up?

[karamel_sutra]

You really have to ask? A lot is wrong with it. I know my opinion is in the minority with today's standard of what's morally right and wrong. It's shifting, but it's giving people an excuse to behave like sluts and have it be considered normal because "everyone else is doing it" and it's perpetuated like crazy in the media.

[Phoenix1991]

Go on, give me your opinion on it if you don't mind.

[karamel_sutra]

I just did. My opinion is an old fashioned one where people don't "hook up" and thus sloppy seconds aren't the norm for people with actual self respect. I don't think people who sleep around respect themselves or the institution of what sex is for. We've dropped the last part; it's sexual reproduction. It's to make more of us, it's not a recreational hobby.

[Phoenix1991]

I meant to say give me more of your opinion but I see, thanks.

[Red_Raconteur]

Unless the person you're seeing is a virgin or has never been kissed/touched by the opposite gender then everybody is somebody's sloppy seconds.

[Phoenix1991]

case in point ^

[biirujapan]

Precisely why men shouldn't date non virgin women.

[Anonymous]

It will never be phased out in my mind. Passing around a girl? That is just plain nasty.

[Anonymous]

Essentially yes it is, because of men. The sad part of this phenomenon is that men are accepting less out of women and taking their friends girls as part of some territorial sh*t. People need to go back to having some class

[Anonymous]

If it's some sophomoric sexual thing then it's just stupid, but if it means that someone only chose you after their real preference rejected them after using them, then I think it's a good definition that should be used.

[may04]

depends how 'sloppy' the seconds are

[Anonymous]

Thank you for explaining what sloppy seconds mean.

[Phoenix1991]

your welcome?