Honestly, big respect to you for asking out 9 girls. Its kinda like job applications; you'll go to numerous interviews and be rejected numerous times. But don't let that stop you, because the one time you get accepted, it'll lead to something good and worthwhile.
The most practical advice I can give is you must learn to be rejected, realize that failure is what makes us stronger. I made horrible mistakes when I was younger and screwed up my relationships, but learned from it. I made mistakes playing guitar on stage, but learned from it.
Again I respect you for taking that step to ask 9 girls out. one in 9 ratio isn't bad at all, and many guys out there really struggle to even make an approach. You're on the right path, but just stay strong and keep going.
I've realized that most people are really cool and interesting when they are being themselves, there confident selves. Just be yourself and keep on asking girls out, and your gunna get rejected sometimes, but your gunna get some great ones also. I learned this very early. The first two girls I asked out rejected me, I was trying to be this rico suave guy and that is not me. Since then I just act like myself and I have gotten the girls I wanted. Remember that you only live once, and like the other guy said, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Aww have you ever tried dating sites? I met my fiance on myyearbook I thinks that's a dating site...or maybe its like Facebook I'm not quite for sure its an interesting site though and you can meet and talk to people around you. Remember that there is someone waiting for you, maybe they're waiting on you to find them or maybe they're looking too. Sometimes it takes a few to find someone special. Don't give up. Sites work and if your low on cash they are some that are free ;)
Eh it's just stats, even when you're good looking there will be a lot more no's than yes's. Chin up, chest out!
Confidence is something you do, not something you are.
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An immense mistake you can make is to allow your confidence to be based off of other people.
It's all about perspective. See the situation as eight girls who just weren't the right person for you. Remember, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Don't link your confidence to only one thing. A persons sense of self-worth, and their confidence, shouldn't come only from how sucessful they are asking women out.
There has to be many other sources of confidence in your life, so that a knock on any one of them doesn't prove crippling to you.
If it's your looks that's letting you down. Is there something you can do about it? Maybe dress better, lose some weight, work out, etc.
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