What I hate about being male!

[Catlover1999]

Those who’ve followed me long enough or viewed my profile will know that I’m a closet trans girl. Now that that’s out of the way here are some of my reasons I dislike being male and some things I envy about women:

1. My first reason is one you’d expect, that I hate having a male body. I hate having facial, body and leg hair (whilst I shave regularly it grows back quickly). I hate having a penis and testicles and not having breasts and a vagina. Testicles in particular are very uncomfortable from the way they dangle to the way they’ll stick to my legs and I constantly have to rearrange them and not to mention that a little flick in the nuts can cause a lot of pain. And having a dick sucks because I have to put up with random erections when I least want them and have to wait until it goes down just to pee. And of course men only have one quick orgasm at a time and will have to wait 15-20 minutes until we can get hard again.

2. Finding a date is much harder for men than it is for women. Women don’t have to do anything to get a date except look reasonably attractive. They don’t have to put anything in their Tinder bio and only have one or two photos and they’ll still get dozens of matches whereas guys have to make their profiles look really interesting and come up with a cleaver line which for some will require watching loads of bullshit pickup videos on YouTube.

3. Women’s fashion is better in my view. Not a lot to say about this as it’s pretty self explanatory.

4. There are plenty of double standards that women are on the better end of such as. For example a man would be mocked for being a virgin and seen as a loser if he hadn’t lost it by a certain age whereas no one cares if a girl hasn’t lost her virginity (or at least nowhere near as much as they would if it were a guy).

That’s all for now as I can’t think of anything else right now so I might do a part two.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

There are down sides to both genders.

Males can pee standing up, which means we can pee anywhere and be quick about it.

Women have periods, bleeding for seven days, killing everything in their path but never dying.

Men can lose weight and build muscle a lot easier than women and naturally stronger. Which is why allowing transgenders to compete in sports against naturally born girls is unfair.

Women can be mean and I am not talking petty mean. Like if one new girl comes into the work place the other females horde and group together to make her life hard. Very spiteful.

Men can go bald and most men look decent. Women cannot pull off the same look.

Men are not allowed to show any emotion or find the beauty in anything without his friends tease him about being gay. Women can have feelings, emotional crying, just pouring out feelings. Women can have sleep overs no matter their age and it is sexy. Guys crash on the couch or separate corners of in the same room.

Men will not admit to it but women have power over men. Just look at all the small women that brought down big men. The maid that outted Arnold Schwarzenegger and ruined his marriage to a Kennedy. Tiger Woods is a no body now because of the yoga instructor he slept with. Men like to think they are powerful but they fall just like everyone else. Look at all these big burly men that hate gays and transgenders but yet probably more than 50% are secretly fucking one.

There are pros and cons to both genders but point for the men for changing into a woman and some look way hotter than naturally real women. Nothing against women but the post is hating things about being male.

[Jamie05rhs]

I would have liked this except for the Schwarzenegger comment. Only Arnold and Arnold alone is responsible for ruining his own marriage.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

All men or women are responsible for not ruining their relationships. Everyone has self-control.

[Jamie05rhs]

Maria didn't do shit! She was completely innocent!

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Thanks Cat for choosing my comment.

[Sabretooth]

i'm curious, do you really hate it or just because society pressures you? from my observations--it's mostly due to social pressure and srs rarely leads to happiness and those who who are happy with it are far more happier--and are more approachable. aside from curiosity--which is human--the men who are attracted to them face prosecution by them as well. the issue is not so much the unwillingness unwillingness to use your dick in sex but the attitude where men are attacked for even being attracted and expressing that curiosity. i watched a vid on youtube that went on a hatful tirade about it. it makes men feel unsafe to confine in them. i've never been in a relationship with a trans girl--but i understand that a straight man could be curious--not bi-curious jus curious.

[Catlover1999]

I do dislike being in a male body especially one that is somewhat feminine already makes me feel like I was meant to be a girl built also I want to be that way. It’s also a bit of a social thing but I wouldn’t say pressure because I’ve never felt that I had to fit in or follow societies expectations.

[Catlover1999]

On your point about SRS I wouldn’t say most are unhappy in fact I heard the opposite however many people who were pushed into it by their doctor or parents (which is a big problem among kids right now) tend not to be happy.

[Sabretooth]

i was talking more about the dick. i'm going by the stories and attitudes trans girls i've read and heard. best example of one who is a non op met a friend who is also trans but post op... a fight broke out.

[Sabretooth]

plus, a few stories on reddit. i came across a vid on youtube. hold on.

[Sabretooth]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSwkOk8t-kA . as far as srs--the end results--from what i've heard and seen can drastically affect sex life, anyway.

[Sabretooth]

and on the topic of fetishizing... join the club. it's wrong--but trans people aren't unique to it. all of us face it in different... i'd even say men have it the worse.

[Catlover1999]

thing is about srs it’s really down to the individual. Lots of trans people are happy post-op, some are not there’s no right or wrong however if someone were considering it they have to make sure it’s definitely what they want.

[Sabretooth]

it just seems like most i hear and read about are unhappy.

[Catlover1999]

On the fetishising point, yes there are tranny chasers out there but that is just something a trans person might have to deal with.

[Catlover1999]

.. unfortunately

[Sabretooth]

vs those that chose to op out. i'm no expert--just based on the examples i know. and those use their dick in sex vs those that don't.

[Sabretooth]

i think that terms is also problematic and unfair.

[Catlover1999]

Sex is only half of it. It’s also about every day comfort and looks (I. e. I don’t want a bulge in my panties or bikini)

[Sabretooth]

why?

[Catlover1999]

Because I want to look and feel like a woman

[Sabretooth]

or, are you concerned with what others might think? as a straight cis white guy who's been attacked and abused his entire life--i can tell you that people in all walks of life are attacked for one reason or another. as for ''wanting to look and feel like a woman''--from what understand--srs doesn't really do that. i've personally seen some that i'd consider attractive.

[Catlover1999]

It would though since I wouldn’t feel a dick and balls between my legs (unless I had sex of course 😅) and I would look like a woman down there too especially since that area would be flat when I wear panties.

[Sabretooth]

i stumbled across this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQ2Y9eE7pEU mind find it interesting. i've stumbled across a few things... a certain porn site comes to mind... one i'd love to forget...

[Sabretooth]

i've seen what the results look like.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

Just saying this, I don't think some who feel this way find the SRS itself really necessary or desired.

[Sabretooth]

@UncleJessieRabbit been my experience. every story i know of they were only after because they were pressured.

[Sabretooth]

thanks.

[Sabretooth]

one i hate about it is the unrealistic expectations we have... like we're machine gods.

[KatherineJ]

I’m going to say something and I hope it doesn’t come across as harsh, but the grass isn’t greener on the girly side of the gender fence, it’s just different grass. There are things that absolutely suck about being a chick. Sure, there are some wonderful things too, but it isn’t always getting to wear a cute dress that we can twirl in. Voicing an opinion on a serious topic, only to be disregarded because of my sex is not fun.
If you are trans, you’ll figure it out on your own. Good luck, either way.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Interesting. Do you feel like you are female inside or like you want to be female? Or is there a difference?

by the way more girls than guys like cats but some guys like them too.

[Catlover1999]

I feel like I should’ve been born one and want to become one as a result. I’ve never been much of a man physically or mentally and thought I might as well be a girl especially since I have some feminine features like a narrow waist and petite figure but nor have I ever wanted to have a masculine physique. What do cats have to do with it?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thank you for inviting me. That’s really interesting.

Your name is Catlover. I like cats too.

[Catlover1999]

I have two who’re just the most lovely things 🥰

[Gwenhwyfar]

I have one. He’s adorable ❤️.

[Catlover1999]

I have a black cat who’s a boy and a girl who’s black and white. He was a stray who kept eating out of our bins but now he gets proper food and loves the attention he was deprived of ☺️

[Gwenhwyfar]

Awww. That’s amazing! 🥰

Gizmo is a bluepoint Siamese. He’s sweet but spunky.

[Sabretooth]

i agree on that... though my last one was a bit of a jackass.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@Sabretooth some cats can be lol

[Sabretooth]

bobcat. meowth.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@Sabretooth meow!!!

Adorbs 💕

[Sabretooth]

i though so too.

[Orangeandturquoise]

Wow! First, great take.

Secondly, I think transsexuality is such a brutally interesting phenomenon. I really wish I knew much more about it than I do. I feel dumb when talking about this but at the same time I know the only way of getting smarter about it is talking about it with people who know.

So my apologies if I make some kind of subconscious assumption that is incorrect.

I wanted to ask what kind perception do you have as your Self? Like do you see it gendered as such, and closely related to what your body and physicality is manifested as? Do you think if having a more Buddhist approach to life and existence would make you less willing to change, or reduce the desire completely? (Buddhism takes a stance that the Ego, the Self, is much more than just the limited existence in the body, and goes even as far as saying that pain and desire are the emotions that make us exist, nothing else)

I hope this wasn't too confusing or abstract for a post like this.

Great post, again. :)

[zariahdp]

Being a woman is more than just having boobs and a damn vagina! Your complaining about body hair when EVERYONE gets body hair. Shit even my pubic hair grows back the same day I shave it off. To me I don't feel any of those reasons are good enough to really make you wanna be a woman. Being a woman is more than just dressing up. We deal with pregnancy, periods, cramps, the breaking of the cervix, and so much more. I'm not saying you shouldn't be a woman because if that's what you want to do then cool I'm not gonna judge, but even with turning into one, you'd still wouldn't go through half of the things we do.

[Mac-One]

I was around 8 or 9 years old when I first thought it would be great to be a girl.

[Mac-One]

Yes, having periods is a real disadvantage of being a girl. Testosterone and having a penis are also real disadvantages.

[Bella9191]

I think you are talking from the perspective of it’s easier to be a pretty girl than a guy.
as a “pretty girl” myself I can assure you most girls don’t have it as easy as you are saying because most girls are actually not that pretty. A lot of girls I know don’t actually get a lot of tinder matches like the stereotype says because they are pretty average looking and believe it or not men don’t want average women.
so I think you think being a woman is easier than a man. But in reality it’s only easier if you are attractive. So clearly you completely misunderstand the difficulties of being a woman!

[Daniela1982]

So your profile pic is what you hope to look like because that is definitely not a "closet" trans. Also no one in my book is a loser for being a virgin. Men are the ones who throw that false expectation at women, simply because they want to fuck anything female.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

I'm non-trans aka "cis" male (even though I hate that word), and for the trans part, I have no comment or opinion either way. I do agree with some of your assessments though, especially both #2 and #4, unfortunately you are right about those ones. I would even personally estimate that out of my list of friends on social media alone, at least half of the women have their profiles say "in a relationship" or otherwise indicate having a boyfriend, even those that might not say explicitly in their profile. I would say at least a quarter or a fifth of the men are single, celibate (incel or volcel), etc.

[OneManOnly01]

I don’t care if you hate males but since you are a closeted trans, are you going to lie to people and tell them you’re a real female? You have absolutely no right to mislead people like that in some specific situations...

If you are going to get in a relationship with a guy or do anything that is woman specific in general such as taking part in a woman’s only sport...

Then in those situations you MUST reveal that you are a transgender.

[Catlover1999]

I don’t hate men. And no, I won’t do that.

[OneManOnly01]

Won’t do what?

[Catlover1999]

Mislead anyone.

[Sangita93]

There are many odds in being girl too. Natur has givven us body and gender - it is very difficult and tricky to select boy or girl for parents till today. (testtube baby is not affordable to all) Respecting nature's choice is best option. I lovve my body, my husband love his body and we both love each other to enjoy what nature has gifted us.

[Curmudgeon]

You know, I hate a lot of things about being male too, but I am what I am, as Popeye said. Or as the late Frank Zappa put it, "You are what you is..."

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EKz2YK7DTX8

[MysteriousDarkness]

You are what you is
You is what you am

[Curmudgeon]

@MysteriousDarkness Exactly!

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Curmudgeon
He was a weird dude

[Curmudgeon]

@MysteriousDarkness But he did give us some great songs, from the serious:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVhJmJRUlV8
to the silly:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qb21lsCQ3EM

[Anonymous]

While it's true women can get a date or sex with ease, most women don't want that - they want the actual relationship. And that's as hard for women to get, as a date is for a man. You might not be trading up as much as you think on that score.

In addition, women might find it easier to get a date.. trans women may not find it as easy. That's just how things are. Tinder and other apps are notoriously focused on the superficial.

[Gray-Wisp]

Most women want to fuck everyone while they look good and then settle down when they reach 100 or so.

[Gray-Wisp]

100 sexual partners, not age, just to clarify.

[Anonymous]

For help with the balls sticking to legs there's pouch underwear, I've tried several and most of them work, Obviously Apparel is the one I like best, but that's mostly because they're the only ones I have in long leg boxer briefs. I have big thighs and short legged boxers ride up them. SAXX are also quite good. So is Sheath. All put a complete stop to balls sticking to legs. Sheath mostly stops things dangling too.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

You know who you are. I hope that you're happy how ever you choose to transition. If you look on youtube for trans videos I'd advise you to be careful, as there's some trans people who are trans medicalist (such as Kalvin Garreh and Blaire White).

[Catlover1999]

I actually like Blaire White, she’s honest and will tell it how it is.

[WannabeVeronica]

I think your view isn’t the best, being a women isn’t easy. There are Periods, birth, diseases, murders, domestic violence and so much more problems. Being a man or a women is hard, it difficult to live in this world. Changing the sex would just make you think your fine but it wouldn’t ease your problems. I as a women have a very hairy body, because I’m busty but modest I have problems. Hair and skin or beauty products in general are very expensive.

[Xitomyth]

I can't really refute anything you said. My philosophy is to each their own. I might be able to give you some tips to help out with some issues if want to message me. Good luck dating though, you have 7+ billion people to sift through these days...

[Mac-One]

I totally agree with your points 1 and 3, and found point # 2 to be a problem when I was dating. Always wanted a lovely female body.

[Mac-One]

@catlover1999 I have been on finasteride for about 4 years and body and leg hair growth has slowed to the point that it is easier to keep it shaved. Would be great to not have any facial and body hair. I have always wanted wanted lovely female genitals and small female breasts.

[Mac-One]

Penis is totally disgusting looking and impractical in many ways.

[yourbabygirl921]

Suddenly while reading about this I love being a female 😂 I used to wish I'm a male.. well still am kinda sometimes but I gotta love my gender plus I think I'm created this way for reason.

[Sabretooth]

i made remakes about wanting to be a girl so i could be lazy... my mother's periods changed my mind.

[Sabretooth]

remarks.

[MCheetah]

Aren't you also tall? For some reason, transwomen are almost always big AF! It's ironic. I think I've only seen two transwomen in my life shorter than 5'10". Most are like, 6'2" or something.

[Curmudgeon]

Men are on average naturally bigger and taller than women. This goes statistically for those men who alter themselves too.

[MCheetah]

@Curmudgeon
I'm more referring to transwomen being bigger than most men, not just them being bigger than women. Most transwomen I see are like, 6'2" and up.

[Celtero]

It sucks dude, but life isn't supposed to be fair and I'm not sure being trans really fixes anything.

[Bagyy]

Hey, I just wanted to say I'm very sorry for all the transphobic comments you get on your posts.
You are a very pretty women

[Pete671]

You're not male though, just born with a male body surely?

[Ryfyle]

Number 2 is due to the bloated world of online dating and social conditioning.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

In my experience it looks like a combination of a lot of those causes.

[Ryfyle]

@UncleJessieRabbit Like Fuck, Shit wasn't this bad back in 2008. Fucking social media killed everything fun about life.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

I agree 100% man. That's why I feel like a semi-neo-luddite.

[Ryfyle]

@UncleJessieRabbit The tech Giants need to fall before any of this gets better.