We have been growing up with our pupils limed to a screen, cause either both of our parents are working, split, or watching the screen by themselves which leaves our only really "parent" the screen itself.
We have seen, how guys act around girls by the stereotype; good guy/bad guy. And what seems to happen nearly all the time is that the "nice guy" runs away with the thruth. For the guys reading: i think we all can acknowledge that you have failed using this method; spoiling a women with compliments, ignoring her bad side, to scared to go in an argument,to tell the thruth.
Well, than we go to the bad guy phase; he's relentless, doesn't give a fuck, has his own pride and he's untame-able by society. This might work better, cause girls love it(the rollercoaster life).Even tho theyre players;girls are on ice layers, skating in the hands of the Don.
Now i haven't really been in-depth but you get picture. But what defines a real man? To me the answer is: a guy who is independent. Not afraid of his own opinion, but won't shout it or become angry during the argument, but will remain calm and eased. Give you your credit and will even admit a loss. He is well mannered and styled, isn't cocky; he doesn't show of, or flaunts his accomplishments instead he uses them as mental prizes. A type of landmark in his way to "his" top of the world. He has humor, is very honest. doesn't need to insult people to make himself feel better.
Now i know a lot of people will say humor is something you have or dont have. Well, if you spice up your vocabulairy,listen to conversations very good and widen your broads in terms of tv shows etc... you'll see how easy it is. Ofcourse some people have the natural funny look,but thats charisma and sex appeal :P
A real man can be found in anyone
The best way to be a real man is to be you. Just think before you say something. And never say anything you won't do. Dont fight for the sake of doing it, but dont let anyone step over you.
As for the girls part, i mean girls are complex to. I've met them and you have. But if you show a healthy dose of love to her, no harm could be done. If it doesn't work out,ask her why then leave the scene. Be a man. BE YOU. Just think about it: since you were you and no one in the planet is the same. It means you had opened and filled a space in her body,she had never felt or seen before(no sexual things intented here). She will miss that.
Lets skip the meatballs: a real man can be found in anyone. Some things are teachable. But to be a man it starts by spicing your intelligence,your goals, your will. Dont be stuck in that box. If you do this things will follow up. Cause how can you be confident when you're portraying someone different than the mirror reflects.