Boys that are too full of themselves

[Tirana]

Now, I'm going to begin this by saying girls can fit this, too. But I currently do not have the care of focusing on females. This is also going to be a bit if a bitch fest. Bear with me.

So, anyone over 21 that has or does frequent the bar scene knows that bars make great hangouts. If you're a regular, you know other regulars, you know the bartenders, you've got friends, you spend a bit of free time there. Its a bar, that's what it is for.

So how is it that one person that always initiates the contact, always insists on saying hi, on making his presence known, can suddenly turn face and say he feels uncomfortable and harassed because I'm constantly there? First things first, its convenient, right across the street from work. Second, I've got friends that are NOT him there that I'm always going in to see and talk with, regardless of his presence (he works there).

I'm going to reiterate that he initiates contact. He initiated the first contact ever, he continued to do so all these months, and now suddenly I'm harassing him because I like to hang out there before and after work? But the other regulars, they're not a problem, even though most if them are there more than I am?

I'm not sure I see the connection. Now, I should point out that he and I have had sex a few times. Some he initiated, a few I did. If this is about not wanting to have sex, he could have gone about it in a far more mature way, like saying "hey, look, it was fun and all, but I'm done."

That's it. That's all it would have taken. I've respected him and things he's stated to me in the past, I would have respected this, too. But he couldn't have the balls to even do that, instead he had me banned from the bar for harassment.

Its temporary, two weeks, but he asks that I "respect him" by asking his permission before going back in there. Really? Because I only go there for you? He can't respect me enough to just be a man and say he doesn't want to have sex anymore, so he makes up a bullshit excuse and involves management, but I'm supposed to ask his permission?

He is acting so full of himself, insisting that I go there only for him, that its bothersome, when he is the one coming to me? Wtf is that? He told me, right before informing me of his ban request, that he feels I'm asking too much from him, and wanting something he can't give me. Dude, its sex. You ain't my first fuck buddy, and I'm sure you won't be my last. You may have a sexy beard and can make me orgasm real nice, but you aren't the only guy in the world that would like a piece of me. If I wanted a relationship, I'd never have agreed to casual sex, I would've said outright that I wanted a relationship. I tend not to beat around the bush.

It makes me furious that he thinks its all about him. And I should just let it go, but when he makes it sound like he did me a favour by allowing me in his bed, and allowing me in "his" bar all these months, I see red. I seriously want to rip his testicles out and shove them down his throat. Its not like he's man enough to use them anyway.

[chimi]

He was only in it for the sex now he's tired of you. next time visit the bar with some other guy bugger him he's an asshole. I knw u feel emotional and hurt but just go out and meet more people to take your mind off things. if he ever sees u don't giva damn about him and maybe wants to see u again you don't go back2 him pls. you feel bad and I don't blame u. guys are quick to regard an emotional response as psycho I been there 2. you feel sad and angry its normal. just focus on yourself and multi date till u meet the right guy.

[Theguyoverthere]

I can see why you were banned from the bar.

Honestly this is how I picture girls getting when they're faced with rejection. This is how irrational many girls get.

If you want to rip out people's private parts and such I totally can understand why a guy would want to ban you from someone. It's not a healthy mindset at all.

[PiuBelloAmante]

lol! i can see why he decided to stop seeing you and feels as though you are harassing him

[Tirana]

This goes for all of you, @PiuBelloAmante, @Theguyoverthere, and the anonymous:

Clearly you all missed the part where I said he initiates the contact, what with coming over to me, where I am sitting, regardless of what I'm doing (conversing with a friend, reading or watching Netflix) and asks for a hug.

I'm not sure how you go from that to me actually harassing him. I certainly never told him to approach me, never held a gun to his head demanding he give me hugs, nor to say hello.

Not to mention, when I personallt spoke to management, they told me I was not, in fact, banned, and he took it upon himself to tell me I was for whatever personal reason.

As for the ripping off of body parts, I'd never actually do so. This is a figure of speech akin to telling someone you'll knock them into next week, or similar epithets.

I'm not angry over the rejection, that's whatever. I'm angry over his juvenile approach to it. Instead of saying he was done, he made a scene. He's 27. That's juvenile.

[PiuBelloAmante]

I understand that he approached you first...
And I also understand he was very immature in his approach to try and stop seeing you or whatever
But you should have expressed to him that you did not mean to harass him in any way and to just move on like nothing ever happened
Also ripping off body parts isn't really a figure of speech I never joke about FGM and you shouldn't joke about genital mutilation either

[allmenaredogs]

he is an asshole. Don't go out with him. I would rather get a dog

[Anonymous]

Yikes - this guy should turn and run, and never look back.

[Theguyoverthere]

Yea. He only banned her for two weeks also. After reading this it really should be for good!

[Anonymous]

"frequent the bar scene"

There's your problem RIGHT THERE.

[Anonymous]

You are psychotic get some therapy.