The answer is surprisingly simple - it's because if you really get involved with someone and do everything in your power to make them happy and you're always there if they need you and you basically put a lot of effort into the relation, you end up thinking that they think of you similarly importantly as well - that the relation is mutually on the same level.
So when you get rejected, what it translates to is "you are nowhere nearly as important to me as I am to you", which is pretty hurtful. But technically it's self-deception. The female has nothing to do with how much you've lied yourself into a fantasy.
That's why you actually need to learn how to properly manage your social relations. Think of a female primarily as a friend, and make a move for a possible 'ascension' only as a bonus, but not as the initial goal. Even if someone rejects you, they can still be pretty cool people, so losing them is your own loss. As for the pain of having exhibited more effort than they have - you only have yourself to blame.
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Because the guy probably was always slightly attracted to the girl. He probably always wanted to be more than friends. It's not that easy to try to talk to someone that doesn't feel the same way. I distanced myself, and it's the best decision IMO. If she's a true friend she would at least try to keep in contact and be mature about it. If a girl really cared about friendship, she's walk up to the guy and ask what the deal is. If the guy refuses to talk, you now know why you said no to him, because he is really immature about the situation. Distancing is nature.
Some guys aren't interested in female friends, or they just can't stand the awkwardness of being attracted to you while forcing themselves to be strictly platonic with you.
Put yourself on the other side of it. I guess he wouldn't want to be around someone who he has feelings for if they're not returned. He doesn't want friendship from her.
This is a self defense. They protect themselves not to get hurt more. Because you can be vulnerable around that person. That is hard to act cool anymore.
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He's looking for a girlfriend. You're not interested, so he's moved on from you and is now seeking a different girl. He doesn't have time to deal with more than one girl at a time. He's got a life. He he has to eat, sleep, work, keep up with a couple close friends, and then seek out a mate... Girls take a lot of time and energy. Dating is like a second job and there are only so many hours in the day... The more important question is why would you think you somehow deserve a shit ton of someone else's time and energy when you're not interested in them? What are you some sort of narcissistic maniac?
Many guys that do this never JUST saw you as a friend. They were just being friends with you while waiting for the right opportunity to pounce and go for the kill, basically.
(This is NOT to say that men and women can't just be friends. I'm just saying that guys won't always tell a female friend that he wants to be more until he thinks he has a chance with her)Some may find it hard to confront their crush after being rejected. They are trying to get rid of that romantic vibe they have for the girl, that's why they maintain their distances. Its not easy to overcome a rejection like that whether if its to a girl or to a boy.
The fact that you're assuming they were actually friends and not just a guy trying to get laid astonishes me. Please look up the phrase "beta orbiter" and memorize it if you haven't already. Their whole goal was to pussy foot their way into getting her panties off. They probably did that because they sensed the high risk of rejection from the start.
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I guess it depends how much infatuation they had with you to begin with, and how long they've known you for. If they were really into you then cutting you off would be a way to say, if I can't have you then I want nothing to do with you. Since it would be a bruise to the ego to get rejected.
Platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex rarely works out. Usually one is attracted to the other and the feelings are left unresolved. Cutting someone out who rejected you is often the best way of coping instead of being torn up by desiring someone you can't have.
This isn't exclusive to guys either. I've cut women out of my life who friendzoned me and women have cut me out of their life when I friendzoned them.
because being rejected is like firing a fatal bullet to the heart... there will be a scar and trace behind the pain... it is really hard to stay friends knowing that the guy has still feelings for the girl who rejected him... for me i won't hang out with a girl who rejected me that is so awkward. i may consider friendship but dont expect that the friendship is the same as before
Why do guys cut off all their balls? If the title would have questioned that in genuine wonder, that would have made me crack up lol.
I never actually do what you described above. If you get friend zoned then oh well. One of the two obviously had no feelings towards the other and will probably never develop any.I don't do it generally, but I have done with this shy girl, who after turning me down started blowing hot and cold with me, one day actively pursuing my attention being friendly and warm and the next time keeping her day and being very cold. In the end I just decided to not bother with her and recently she has been going out of her way to get my attention. The girl be crazy brah!
I think the guys who ignore girls after being rejected have every right to do so.because it probably broke their heart... would you hang with someone when it feels like broken glass inside you? worse if you're hanging and then they meet someone else lol... if a guy is not good enough to fuck... dont expect them to feel like they should stick around... you made your choice
You're misunderstanding the dynamics. Guys don't typically ask women out that haven't signaled thier willingness to be asked out. So when a guy asks a woman out and she rejects him he's NOT ending the friendship. He's realizing she manipulative and he correcting the mistake he made in assuming there was ever a friendship to begin with. Glad we could help you. 😁
Because there's no point to it. To stay in the friendzone after being put there would only be bad for him and selfish of you, to want to keep extracting his free attention/resources without doing or giving anything in return for him. It's just a waste of time for him and he's better off without you and trying his luck elsewhere
Because he never wanted to be your friend in the first place. All he wants is more and friends isn't good enough for him, so he'd rather be nothing than just friends.
Because the friendzone ends friendships 100% of the time with the only exception being that the person that gets friendzoned is a complete beta and or boot licker.
You are absolutely no use to him. He's not good enough to get any affection from you. He'll go elsewhere to find it, and stop wasting time with you.
Why does a guy need to keep you in his life so you can benefit from his existence, keep getting your attention from him, use him for your needs emotionally and some times financially, but he literally just gets to watch you fuck douchebags lesser than him and then use him as a sounding board for your shit choices….
Yeah we don’t need you as “friends”Generally it's one of two reasons
Either the feelings are so much that it's too painful to stay friends while they're always going to be hoping for me.
Or they never wanted to be friends and was only fsking in the hopes of dating her.They never wanted friendship - they wanted are relationship and now they are trying to get over you
Because you rejected him so he rejected you.
Yeah it's a bit much but guys are just like that.
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