Not obeying you =/= disrespect.
You seriously need to grow up, if you believe him spending his weekends the way he wants and enjoys is somehow disrespectful to you. It's HIS free time and he's allowed to do what he wants. You've admitted it yourself: you're welcome to join in, it's no secret, but you choose to stay in. How is that his fault?
The only thing I would comment on is that he ought to compromise every now and then and do something you fancy for a change.
But ultimately, he's not required to spend all his time with you. You chose to date this man and have been doing so for 2 years, so surely you knew his habits by now.
Did you think you were going to change him to suit your preferences? That's not how relationships work. You can only express your dissatisfaction for his lack of compromise. If he entirely refuses to spend any weekends with you, then it's time to say good-bye. He is free to be who he wants to be and if you start making demands, it will only get sour.
Also, this is key: do you two live together? If you do, then I would say you're acting very selfishly, expecting him to spend literally all of his time with you.
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If he really feels the need to be there every weekend, I'd have to start wondering why. What is so great at the club that it trumps spending time with you every night of the weekend? I might be making an incognito trip to the club myself to scope some shit out. Or, maybe he's just being young and immature and doing this because he knows he can get away with it. You two might just be getting to different points in your life. Ultimatums don't work for shit. So you can't just say, "Do this or I'm gone". However, you can calmly point out what you think is intolerable behaviour and let him know that if this continues to happen, you will walk away. It needs to be a decision he can make. If he chooses to keep making the same choices, then you need to make a different choice.
You've been together 2 years but you haven't stated your ages?
I cannot give advise without ages because people need to experience life. If you've been together since school and you're both still under 20 It is understandable that he wants to be out clubbing.
If you're settled and a little bit older and he's been clubbing for a few years you need to sit him down and explain your feelings.
Sounds like you just have different interests. It's not that he "disrespects" you, it's that that's what he enjoys doing and you don't share the same interests as him. You guys need to try find a compromise somewhere in the middle.
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Haha guys go to clubs to check out, dance/talk and get to know girls... you’re dumb if he’s going without you. Especially when you seem soooo cool with it up to now and all of the sudden you want to put a stop to it? Lol funny. This should’ve been addressed from the beginning. You brought this upon yourself.
Anyway, have a talk with him, if he doesn’t stop, I suggest getting rid of him and avoid making this mistake in the future with the new guy! Cause honestly he said not going to a club to talk to his male friends... 👀 especially if it’s every weekend!obviously makes you feel like your part of the home furniture... sit him down, look genuinely sad... and tell him to chill with the clubbing a bit... propose for him to invite his friends over or do something with him, his mates, and yours... (like bowling, ice-skating... whatevs) if he blows you off then go out with your friends and come back later than he does... just so that he has a think... then if that doesn't work... give him an ultimatum... telling him that if he doesn't calm the clubbing... that you won't be around anymore... (meaning you'll dump him)
this tactic is called escalation of force. use it wisely.he should respect you dear... you are together since 2 years... what seems strange is the fact that he gaets angry when you wanna talk about it... be careful!! defensive behaviour=is hiding something
but if he still acts like this then its better to dump him because if he don't wanna change his clubbing habit then he'll never change itYou can only approach it by expressing that you feel as if he is taking you for granted and that if it continues then he can have the single life he so really desires because you should never allow any guy to feel as if no matter what you will always stay around and allow them to use you as a door mat, so be brave and start demanding some respect otherwise he starts to lose all of you, x
Girl if he’s going out with his boys to a club EVERY weekend there’s a high chance he’s not being loyal while he’s there. Tell him to either stop going, or that he can only go with you or if he does go it can’t be every weekend. If he doesn’t listen drop him sis.
I don't know any guys that go clubbing without girls? If they do it's to meet women? Guys nights are usually spent at someone's house, a bar or strip club. I wouldn't believe his story but if you do why can't you go with?
Honey I'm sorry but men rarely change and he has made it clear he won't. You have 2 choices: Change yourself to accept him or change boyfriends. A guy that disrespect yiu and gets angry over talking isn't worth keeping.This is ridiculous behaviour. Sounds he is hiding something in his mental pockets. If he gets angry and disrespects you it means he does not eants to share about the matter. Not a good indication. U should be alert.
Throw his sorry butt out.
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