Girlfriend give her number to another guy in the club?

[Sarkozy07]

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. We have some up and down moments but we have been happy! Few weeks ago, I got a call and have to go my parents because of my dad’s surgery. My girlfriend was texting me every time to support during that time. She told me that she was planning to go out with a friend of her to eat and drink smtg. So I wrote to her 3 am that night and she told me she is still chatting with her friend at the bar. When I came back, my friend told me that she saw my girlfriend with her friends and and another guy. They were clubbing and dancing together. When I asked her about it, she said It just bu.. it, I was in the club but only with my friend… Then when I kept asking her to tell the truth, finally she admitted that she gave her number to a guy that she met in the club and the day after she wrote him “ I have a boyfriend but not going well … arrange a date with him “ then she was regret and she blocked him. I was really pissed of but she and her friends claim that It s not a big deal, It s not a cheating…. I wanted to break up but couldn’t do it… What would you do if you were in my position?

[nitsuj86]

Easy, cut her loose. I know it might suck, and you might really like her. But she doesn't respect you. Unless you have been doing some shady shit behind her back, that you also feel guilty about. If that's the case, come clean and both move forward.

If you have been a loyal boyfriend. Then the fact that she did it in the first place, and her friends see no issue with it, is a huge glaring red flag planted firmly in your face. It's probably not the first time she has done this, just the first time she got caught. She only admitted to it when she knew she was caught. Then provided some bullshit excuse. Did you see the texts?

She is most likely looking for someone 'better' and as soon as she finds that guy, you will be gone. And she will be in his bed that night. I say cut her loose for 2 reasons.

1. What she has done is not something that should be easily forgiven. If you act like it's not a big deal, then she knows it's ok to continue the behavior. If she truly felt guilty she would have told you when you got home, not after an interrogation.

2. Breaking up with her will bring out the truth. Ignore the initial crocodile tears, and see how she acts AFTER the breakup conversation. Does she try and get you back? Does she apologize? Does she get rid of those friends that encouraged her to cheat on you? Or does she go out and bang a bunch of dudes, and you don't hear back from her until months later, or never again. Then you have your answer. You can choose whether to take her back if she tries.

But if you do not properly punish this behavior, and are not prepared to possibly lose her forever. Then you will definitely lose her forever. If that makes sense.

[TruthBringer]

Sorry mate, that's not your girlfriend anymore. Cheating doesn't have to be physical. And to me, this is obvious cheating. Someone who is in a relationship shouldn't invite potential partners others into their lives. Especially not at some club. What makes you think she won't repeat the same mistake, even if it is in a different way? This is exactly one of the reasons why I never date party girls. But hey, if you like this kind of drama, then go for it. Just don't complain about the consequences when dealing with low-value women.

If I were you, I would instantly dump her and find someone who doesn't cross obvious relationship boundaries even children are aware of.

[mandyfire98]

Your girlfriend shouldn't be giving her number to any guys.

[OlderAndWiser]

"I wanted to break up but couldn’t do it…" No, you didn't want to break up so you didn't do it.

Why didn't you do it? Probably just scared of the breakup trauma and starting over with someone else.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm going to tell you right now her going to a club without you is already a huge red flag. People come up with all sorts of "reasons" to go to the club, but come on... only one reason people do that.

I don't even think I need to say it about the texting stuff and what was going on and being said with that. So it didn't go all the way this time, but she sure hell was flirting with it going in that direction.

Her friends are going to back her up, they're input shouldn't be a factor. She says it's not a big deal, that's a lie. If she's going the "you're just jealous/paranoid route, that's called 'gaslighting' my dude.

in my opinion, if she's flirting with/ teasing with the idea... it's a matter of time and it's going to happen. That could be years from now are just the next time you're unavailable again.

[Carolus]

She ain’t cheating yet but she’s drifting away, re-evaluate your stand on why this is happening (common or repeated conflict between the two of you). For example, If she wants to party and you can’t , then drop her otherwise you need to compromise your stand a little to accommodate her.

[slatyb]

It's a big deal. She's not happy. but is afraid to be alone. Something needs to change.

[In_Trance]

You know what to do

[RationalMale]

It's cheating and it's a big flashing notice to you that she either is sleeping with other guys and/or will be sleeping with other guys soon.

[Anonymous]

Well, are you willing to wait until you get cheated on? Your friend is a good one and did you a service.

[Anonymous]

I'd dump her in a heartbeat unless the sex is great. If it is, keep her around till you find someone better. LOL

[dazzinu69]

That sounds like she is keeping her options open

[ChrisWaters]

That's party girls.

[Guy13]

Life is a bitch…

[Guy13]

continuously…like one right after another…

[Anonymous]

Dump her