Should shy guys even bother with dating?

[Anonymous]

From what I have seen, women treat shy men terrible. I am a shy man and I know once a woman finds this out, she will try to take advantage of me and disrespect me. Frankly, I don't even approach women or talk to them. Not because I fear rejection, but because I just don't care anymore. I don't date and my life is more simpler not having to deal with the insanity that comes with approaching women or having a relationship. I don't make my life about getting or chasing girls, it's about me. Now this applies to me and me only. But should other shy men bother?

[pnl86]

Nope. I say, the world has more than enough people, in fact it has an over-population problem. People can't even afford to survive any more. That's the economy's way of letting them know, "unfortunately, your parents made a mistake by creating you, because the world doesn't actually need you; the value of what you contribute is less than the value you need to survive, which means that you shouldn't survive."

Onto a less grim note, there's nothing wrong with being happy. I wish more "people," not just men, or not just "shy" men would realize this. There's nothing wrong with not listening to mass media, turning off the TV, and looking at the things you do, and ways to maximize your net happiness.

Many younger men might look at your question and think, "whatever." Older men, however, especially those that have been unhappily married for a while or finally happily divorced will look at you as if you are wise beyond your years (and life experiences).

It's true. Not many people genuinely want to appreciate good honest people. Rather than spending your life trying to change that, it's better to just let everyone else suffer and keep to yourself and enjoy your 77 year sentence here during this life as much as you can.

[needsanswers100]

Of course they should! Some women are very into that. The trick behind every healthy romantic relationship that you see is trust! So if your a shy guy try just befriending women and getting close to them as a friend. When you get close to these female friends your most likely going to have romantic feelings for at least one of them (if not then keep looking). When you find the girl you do like try to hang out with her one on one more and get flirty! If she doesn't seem comfortable with the flirting then back off and continue being friends. However, if she flirts back then ask if she would like to go on a date with you. Remember to tell her that no matter what her answer is that you still want to be friends and that there are no harsh feelings! Use your comfortability as a gauge for advancing the relationship. Trust yourself and turn it into action (within reason of course).

[ProbablyNeedTherapy]

Makes sense to shelter yourself from any possible pain/hurt by not putting yourself out there. However, when you do (some time soon) meet the woman who WON'T take advantage of you, but have the desire to see you smile, make you happy, bring out your best, then that attitude/fear/defense mechanism will likely disappear.

Its healthy to protect yourself, for a time. It is also healthy to take part in a loving, caring, honest relationship. . .

[Anongirl_18]

YES! The guy I have a crush on right now is extremely shy but I find it attractive! There's a woman out there for you, you just have to be patient! :)

[soulove_]

Lol like all things, your view will change. Good luck

[Macklin91]

Yeah, i feel the joys of a relationship should be something every person deserves to experience. Sure there will be let downs and disappointments along the way but anything worth having in this world don't be easy to attain.

[Asker]

Not everyone will experience them. I had an uncle who was 60 and he never dated. He has since passed away.

[Macklin91]

That doesn't mean you or any other "shy" guy is or has to be that way. And sorry about your uncle's passing

[StickStickity13]

Why should girls on here give you reasons to date? It's your personal choice not to. The way I see it there's less competition out there.

[Asker]

Read the question. I never said I need any reason to date.

[StickStickity13]

Then why are you asking this?