My boyfriend got really mad at me for losing my engagement ring and slapped me. I don't know what to think?

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My boyfriend wanted to give me his great grandmothers ring as an engagement ring I told him I can't take the ring because I was worried that something would happen to it but he convinced me to take it. Well last night when I came home I noticed the ring was missing from my finger. I started to look for it in panic but couldn't find it. So when he got back from work I told him I lost it and that's when he lost it, I've never seen him mad like that and he ended up slapping me. I know it was important to him and his family but this was exactly the reason I didn't want it in the first place. It was an accident but I don't know if he'll be able to forgive me.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

I have always Believed and have been brought up to Believe that a man never hits a woman, no matter how angry he is. Once he starts it and if it is instilled in his blood to just go around waving his hands freely, then it can become a more serious problem down a beaten path later on.
You have most likely witnessed in the first time in you relationship "Another side" to him that you have never seen before. And with losing this heirloom that he practically Made you take on his own Winny Whim and Your own prayer that you really didn't want to because you know yourself like you Do-----Maybe even aside he didn't know that you lose things sometimes------everything got out of Hand and now it has led to War of the roses.
You both need to sit down and have along talk about things. You are planning this future together of Planning on being as One, husband and wife, but how much do you really know about the other? I think before you jump into Anything as serious as walking down the aisle, you both need to walk a straight line with eyes wide open before taking this step.
Many times couples rush into marriage, never really know who their partners are. The mirror has two faces and with this heirloom and his hot temper that you both have just started to learn something about one another that you never knew before...
Try and work through this. Open lines of convo are one of the most important factors in any new or old relationship. And with this, more nurturing and nursing with your bond that needs a bit more binding.
If he loves you, he will let this ring rest in peace now. On another sour note that is still lingering in my mouth, I hope he apologizes to you or Has for laying his hands on his soul mate, a girl who is still supposed to be with him forever, until death do you both Part----Ring or no ring.
The way I see it, an heirloom is precious, it can't be replaced but a love of a lifetime is even Harder To-----Replace.
Good luck. xx

citroen · Accepted Answer

Never mind forgiving him, forgive yourself, for not leaving as soon as he slapped you, im sure his great grandmother would be slapping him if she knew what he did, if he valued the ring that much, he should have taken care of it himself, the rings just an excuse to hit you , sod the ring and get out

musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

He knew the risks of giving you an heirloom ring, and made you take it anyways. I don't blame him for being mad the ring is lost, though. But slapping you was just way out of line. Is this the kind of guy you want to be married to? He overreacted BIG TIME.

ilovesexyfeet · Accepted Answer

The anger at u losing something he thinks means so much I can understand but the slap is a NO NO NO NEVER thing to do. Look in to the future u burn his toast u get a clip, u don't iron his favourite shirt properly so u get a slap. He needs to know now that this is not acceptable so dump his arse and hope he learns a valuable lesson from it in the future and thinks twice with his next girlfriend. If u forgive him u are basically telling him its ok

oddsonchances · Accepted Answer

Get out of there right away , if he is hitting you already what do you think life will be like with him.

Take it as a warning of what is to follow and If he hits you again report him straight away to the police.

Pm me if I can help you any further I will

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Looks like you need to break up with him immediately and leave.

Zango91 · Answer

Do not rush to decisions. You meant a lot to him if he gave you an ancestral ring. He slapped you in the heat of the moment. He didn't plan on doing that for days. Obviously he is pissed and will apologize when his mind is clear. If you could, please try to find that ring.

SammyGurl · Answer

I agree I would go to a jewelry store and get a similar replacement. Hand it back to him. You deserve a huge apology, if my fiancé ever raised a hand to me in any way both of my brothers would take turns. That's just so wrong especially after you told him you didn't want that ring for that reason. I take my engagement ring off, but always near. I would also suggest that he get some anger management counseling before you two take a step farther towards marriage.

Mgoods · Answer

He shouldn't have got that angry. It was an accident. He obviously didn't have control of his emotional responses at that moment, which is a shame. This is something that needs to be openly discussed and not buried. He CANNOT ever lose it like that again.
He is the only one in the wrong in this scenario, so the question should be whether or not you should forgive him.

futfan143 · Answer

Fuck the ring! He slapped you!!! get out of there fast and if you can kick his ass or have some one else do it for you. No Man should ever hit a woman, unless she's all about rough sex then that's another story and even then face slapping is still questionable to me... Nothing you did however careless is grounds for someone to hit you.

SomethingWicked · Answer

Well, your boyfriend knew the risks, and ignored them, there's always a chance of an item getting lost. He shouldn't have slapped you. In fact, he should be slapping himself. Afterall, he pressurized you to accept it.

front2back · Answer

Was he right to be mad at you? Yes.  Was he right to slap you? HELL NO.  It's a good thing that engagement ring is lost. You don't want to be married to a coward like him anyways.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

I can see where he is coming from, I mean come on how do you lose a ring off your finger anyway? that said it still isn't right that he slapped you but unless he has done it before I wouldn't worry about him doing it again. if you could find the ring that would be good, retrace your steps and if that don't work check the pawn shops

slackercruster · Answer

He has a right to be mad. There is NEVER an excuse for hitting a lady from anger.( Unless she is coming at you with a knife.) I'd be careful, it is a precursor of things to come. If he can't forgive you, then the ring is worth more to him than you.

Loner_of_society · Answer

Leave him the hell alone if you know whats good for you. Once a beater always a beater

jackyct · Answer

i have mine on since 10 months. never take it off. never. not for shower or sleep either. how did u lose it?

Briittaaannny · Answer

No he was horrible for slapping you. Yes the situation was serious but it wasn't serious enough for him to slap you.

Anonymous · Answer

You should have known how he was before you got into a relationship with him. If he was physically abusive you should have known that before you decided to become engaged with him. Men don't just act one way out of the blue

CommieKiller · Answer

I don't blame him for being pissed. But when he slapped you, that was just too far.

SirenDep · Answer

Go to a jewel store and order a similar ring to the one you lost

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose he did overreact but I could see it may mean a lot a lot to him you should have been more careful he shouldn't have slapped you but he probably just got caught in the moment

kangy · Answer

If he is upset you lost it, I can understand but never the slap. It is merely an object

Anonymous · Answer

Just give him some space. He knows what you told him, he just doesn't want to believe it's actually gone. Who would. Just give him some space and then tell him you're sorry about losing it but that he did tell you it might get lost

Anonymous · Answer

He should have just told you to search the kitchen high and low, it ought to be in there somewhere.

JackKerouac77 · Answer

Damn. Guess the engagement's over.

My boyfriend got really mad at me for losing my engagement ring and slapped me. I don't know what to think?

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