Is making out considered cheating?

[unkissme]

My boyfriend of five months didn't talk to me for a week, then when I asked what was up he confessed to making out with someone else. I told him I wasn't angry with him, told him thanks for being honest with me. Then he said he loves me and it will never happen again. that was the first time we'd ever said I love you. Now he hasn't talked to me again for longer than usual...

My questions are, do you think I should have been more upset instead of instantly just thanking him for his honesty and trying to move on, is making out considered cheating in your mind, and should I forgive him so quickly?

What should I do next?

[AlmostAsylum]

It depends on your relationship and the parameters you've set for it. For some, making out with other people is fine. For others, its unforgivable. It's what you and your boyfriend decide. If you are genuinely not mad, then there is no reason to make yourself mad because you think you should be. If you are mad, then allow yourself to be so and tell him that it hurt you and your trust in him and that it shouldn't happen again. If you are okay with it happening again, tell him so, and tell him to be more honest with you (if that's what you want). It's all about what You want.

[hswhis]

Yes, it's cheating.

The fact that he hasn't talked to you after confessing about his making out session, is a red light to me. Most guys who are genuinely sorry about what they have done, would be trying to woo you and make it up to you. The fact that he doesn't talk to you seems to me like he doesn't care or doesn't think it was that big of a deal.

I would be out of there. The old adagio of "once a cheater, always a cheater" is so very true.

[Musicazuregirl]

He sounds like a dick ( sorry )
Guys play games sometimes just like girls do. He may have wanted to make you jealous or wants to end the relationship in a weak childish way?
How fast you are to forgive is not the problem, it's him! Let him go. Good luck

[Crossroads-USMC]

Well, first off, yes, it it definitely cheating. And secondly, it was really cool of him to admit that to you so soon after. If the situation was reversed, with you making out with some dude while you're going steady with me, I would be very happy that you cared enough about 'us' that you would be honest and volunteer that info. Stay with him, Honey.

[KillerTaco]

He admitted it and then went MIA for even longer!! If he truly regretted it he'd be going to the moon and back just to show how regretful he is of his actions. Dude is an a-hole.

[Crossroads-USMC]

True. I am sorry. Men can be so very rotten to girls. I apologize on their behalf, Honey. You don't deserve to be treated like that at all. I'll light a candle for you to get the type of guy you deserve.

[Debenham]

It depends on who he kissed, where he was, how it happened etc.

[Qwosa]

depends on who he kissed? R u fkn kidding?

[Debenham]

In the sense of if it is forgivable.
An ex? Unforgivable.
Random girl in a club whilst drunk? Forgivable, still wrong.

[Account]

I consider it cheating. Hell, I even consider cuddling and flirting as cheating.

[taterbug55]

In my opinion, no making out is not cheating but it is not being loyal and a good person. I don't think you should have forgave him so quickly. It was good that he told the truth, but bad that he did it in the first place. Also if you think, people don't randomly make out usually you know the person and have been talking to them for a while before you go sucking face with that person... Just something to think about.

[Prettygurl12]

It is 100% cheating and I would be out of there. It's really your call. Personally I would never be able to get over it. So I'd leave and move on with my life. But it's entirely your call.

[CreativeUsername_no]

Makes out with people and doesn't talk to you.

Wow, you can do better. I don't even know you and I know you can do a lot better. Sounds like a P. O. S.

[KillerTaco]

My thoughts EXACTLY! My jaw dropped when I read that part. Dude has no respect for the Poster...

[Jbunch]

Anything crossing the line between friendly affection and romantic affection is cheating. Don't take him back, especially if he is seriously going to not talk to you after saying he loves you.

[LastGirlScout]

I would definitely consider physical intamacy with someone else as cheating. 100%. Do you actually love each other? Because it doesn't sound like either of you are particularly bothered about the relationship.

[MissBex95]

It's definitely cheating girl. You should forgive him mainly for your own sake so you can move on, but listen to your gut. If you honestly don't think you can trust his word than GET AWAY FROM HIM!

[523206720]

Yes it's considered cheating. I would think that anything romantic with somebody else would be considered cheating.

[lizmorri]

Does he just stop talking to you randomly? Like you wake up one day and you just don't hear from him... ? Or do you both mutually agree to stop communicating for a while...

[lizmorri]

by the way to answer your question, Yes. Making is considered cheating.

[ChaosKilledTheDinos]

I agree that it is cheating and can be possibly forgiven it depends on the people involved and the situation. Forgiving him is up to you

[angel_face1988]

One main reason for a person to cheat because overtime people lose interest in one another. They are not willing to go that extra mile to keep one another happy.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's one of those things that people will have differing opinions on, for sure. It's cheating in my opinion, but easily forgivable cheating

[epiman94]

Yes, its definitely cheating. How upset you were is up to you. I'm sure he appreciates your reaction just as you appreciated his honestly.

[Qwosa]

he cheated on you, and YES u should be more upset cus now that he knows ur too nice he is going to do it again and believe ur going to forgive him... i think?

[cpsw111]

Woah, that is so cheating you. With the state of your relationship, no offense but I don't think this relationship is going anywhere lol.

[MakeitOrDieTrying]

What the f, he doesn't respect you. Making out is 100% cheating, wtf.. You THANKED him? This guy is either a selfish bastard or he's playing you

[Rocky19]

Let me ask you this, if I'm right handed but I slap you with my left is that still considered a slap? Whatever your answer is then it's the answer to your question

[kangy]

any form of intimate act with another person other than your partner= cheating
making out is an intimate act

[Drooogie4]

Yes its definitely cheating.
Dump himmmm. He's an obvious one

[Anonymous]

Is the sky blue? You're a complete idiot if you take him back. If he did it once he'll do it again. You don't cheat on someone you love honey. Sorry.